IMPROVING SELF-ESTEEM

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LIFE IS FULL OF EVENTS THAT ARE BEYOND OUR CONTROL – OFTEN EVENTS THAT ARE DIFFICULT OR HURTFUL, BUT WE DO HAVE CONTROL OVER OUR RESPONSES TO THESE EVENTS -Don’t let others make you feel down. Keep your own self-esteem high ~How we feel about ourselves is key~ it’s called SELF-ESTEEM

TAKE THE SELF-ESTEEM SURVEY

Set a specific, measurable goal to improve your self-esteem:  get up everyday and say “It’s a great day”  choose to enjoy life  put yourself up *****(positive self-talk)*****  put those around you up  think positive every night just before sleeping  don’t hang out with negative people!  baby step out of your shyness! Take risks!!  don’t compare yourself to others!! (see your good points)

Are we born with self-esteem, or is it shaped in us???

WE’RE NOT BORN WITH SELF-ESTEEM. DOES A LITTLE BABY THINK, “I HOPE NO ONE SMELLS MY DIRTY DIAPER…OR…”I HOPE NO ONE WILL LAUGH AT MY BALD HEAD.” IT IS SHAPED AS WE GROW UP. WHO AND WHAT SHAPES IT???

WHO SHAPES IT? parents other family members siblings teachers classmates friends self neighbors, church, other people in our lives media: T.V., movies, video games, magazines…

So, if we aren’t born with it that means we can change it ! (if it’s low)

WHEN IT COMES TO THOUGHTS, YOU HAVE A LOT OF MIND CONTROL!! YOUR BODY LISTENS AND RESPONDS TO YOUR THOUGHTS!!!! Your mental self-talk can be: P O S I T I V E or N E G A T I V E 2 examples: 1. In Sports Psychology an athlete is taught to stay positive, to stay calm, be focused, be confident, to “see yourself as a winner,” and to “picture the ball going in the hole.” Many athletes find success with this positive thinking and imagery. 2. In relaxation therapy you imagine a place or event that is peaceful, restful, beautiful and happy. The body actually responds with lower blood pressure, lower pulse rate to calm down and relax.

Just as making positive statements to yourself helps you to build confidence, improve performance, and improve your mental skills, negative thinking damages them.

Whatever you tell yourself, your sub-conscious brain will believe as truth and it will work to make that true for you !!! For instance, if you say you aren’t a morning person your sub- conscious brain will reinforce that idea! You may feel tired, hit the “snooze bar” and spill things, etc.

Example: If you were taught as a child that all dogs will bite you, your mind will automatically raise that fear everytime you see a dog. (even though your friend tells you that their dog is friendly, your mind believes and sends the fear message! You have to re-train your brain!!!)

The #1 best way to improve self-esteem and stay strong against “mean” people is: positive self-talk :) Do the “Positive Self-Talk” Worksheet…

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“Everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was” -Richard L. Evans

P ERSONALITY S URVEYS Please see "Personality Surveys" PowerPoint in 'The Best PowerPoints" folder in the "Mini Self-Esteem" folder.

DO THE WHAT MAKES ME ME WORKSHEET

READ THIS POEM: Here’s to Kids Who Are Different Here’s to kids who are different, The kids who don’t always get A’s, The kids who have ears twice the size of their peers, And noses that go on for days... Here’s to kids who are different, The kids they call crazy or dumb, The kids who don’t fit, with the guts and the grit, Who dance to a different drum... Here’s to kids who are different, The kids with the mischievous streak, For when they have grown, as history’s shown, It’s their difference that makes them unique. Being Myself and Proud of It:

Self Esteem Homework Choose 1 of the following: 1. Create a poster that shows how self-esteem is damaged and how it can be improved. It can be drawn or you can use magazine pictures and words, or things printed from online (don’t forget to site it if you get it online) 2. Create a poster about helping a friend who has low self-esteem. Show how this could lead to drug and alcohol use, and other dangerous decisions. 3. Create a Power Point presentation on self-esteem (why it’s important, how it gets damaged, and how to improve it) 4. Research and then write a 3 page report about the importance of positive self-esteem. 5. Create a tri-fold brochure for teens about self-esteem. The booklet should be 6 pages and include information about what self esteem is, how it is formed, how it can be damaged, and ways to improve it. 6. Create a poem or song that sends a message about how to have positive self esteem or the struggle to have good self esteem, or a message about facing a loss and how teens can overcome the hurt they are feeling. (You will not need to perform it, but can get 10 extra credit points if you do)

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3 Additional Ways to Stop Negative Self-Talk: CHOOSE 1: 1. log it - keep a journal 2. picture a stop sign 3. wear a rubberband and snap yourself for each negative thought! STOP

Assertiveness Survey outloud: # a piece of scratch paper 1-10

Write how many “A’s” you got ??? Write how many “B’s” you got ??? Write how many “C’s you got ???

More than 2 A’s = PASSIVE More than 2 B’s = ASSERTIVE More than 2 C’s = AGGRESSIVE

 Shy  Not confident  Lower self-esteem  Get taken advantage of  Get frustrated if your ideas aren’t heard  Become a victim  Tries to fit in and will do unhealthy stuff- alcohol, drugs, sex… Revengeful Angry, intimidate controlling Hurtful Name caller Complainer

1. Aggression gets you in trouble-suspended at school, in trouble with the law, in trouble with parents, it can get you hurt, or killed, people come back to hurt you 2. You don’t learn to problem-solve (“when I’m mad, I need to hurt somebody to fix it”) 3. Aggressive behavior is a relationship buster! who wants to be around someone who is blaming, controlling, always has to be right, my way or no way…

12. Don’t be passive *BE ASSERTIVE* Don’t be aggressive Is pushed around Stands up for self Forces others Keep it stuffed down Problem solvesLashes out in anger Is controlledIs in controlOut of control

B E I N G A S S E R T I V E:

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THINKING POSITIVE THOUGHTS AT NIGHT

SELF-ESTEEM C.D. CASES PROJECT

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Have the confidence to dream big: 1 risk, dream, or goal I want to accomplish  in the next week is:  in the next month is:  in the next year is:  in the next 5 or 10 years is: your goal could be: family, career, social, physical, educational, or personality/character 1 risk, dream, or goal I want to accomplish  in the next week is:  in the next month is:  in the next year is:  in the next 5 or 10 years is: your goal could be: family, career, social, physical, educational, or personality/character