Relationships

Learning GoalsSuccess Criteria I will understand that God created humans to be in relationships with others. I will be able to identify the different types of relationships in my life. I will understand the importance of the various relationships in my life on a (S.P.I.E.S) level. (Remember S.P.I.E.S. ??? ) - Healthy relationships worksheet

Agenda:  Setting the tone: what this unit will look like!  Called to Healthy Relationships Reflection  Carousel Reflection and Discussion  Note on Healthy Relationships  Reflection on personal relationships  Episode 1- Full House (Why we need relationships!!)

Spiritually Physically Intellectually Emotionally Socially Fill in the following chart below: As individuals grow from childhood to adolescence, how do people change in each area? (S.P.I.E.S…sound familiar??? )

 2. Journal Entry Respond in your notebooks:  a) How has your view of relationships/love changed since you were younger?  b)Reflect on the various relationships in your life involving people you like/love/care about. What are these relationships like? (Create a list of the main people in your life and then write about what each relatonship is like – minimum 5 relationships)  c)Make a list that includes 4-5 of the main qualities you feel must be present in a healthy and/or loving relationship. List 4-5 qualities you do not want in a relationship?

Carousel reflection  Love is…  Types of Relationships  Qualities in Healthy Relationships  Impact of Media on your view of relationships and Sexuality  Impact of parents on your view of relationships and sexuality

The Difference between a Relationship that is Nourishing vs. Toxic “Love...does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs...” (1 Corinthians )  There are several barriers that can break down a relationship. We see these all the time and we are aware that they are destructive. However, when we are a part of a relationship that is unhealthy, we sometimes over look things or even worse, we don’t even realize that these barriers are unhealthy and destructive factors in our relationships.  The world would be very fortunate if all relationships were “nourishing” or healthy. However, we know that many relationships are “toxic” or unhealthy.

 These are some examples of relationship barriers:  Fear  Lack of sense of personal or sexual identity  Fear that our faults will be discovered, creating a sense of guilt  Afraid to reveal negative feelings such as anger, hostility and resentment  Past resentments and past expectations brought into the present  Unresolved conflicts with childhood friends, brothers, and/or sisters  The assumption others will expect too much, or too little from us  Lack of self-esteem/self-care and allowing exploitation by others  Unhealthy dependency on another for approval  Being naive (where people don’t understand what they are getting involved with)  Secrecy

TOXIC Lying/Fake/False Manipulative/Controlling Deceptive/Rude Lack of self-reliance and self-confidence in themselves and therefore, bring the other person down. (Often times this is due to unresolved conflicts or situations of the past) Fear is present Rigid and narrow minded (inflexible) Judgmental Pessimistic/negative in their outlook

NOURISHING Trustworthy and Open Authentic Direct/Open and Respectful More flexible/adaptable to change Natural and confident in themselves and who they are as an individual Confident in knowing there is no reason to be afraid of speaking your mind. More accepting of other people even when they disagree strongly with them Avoid being judgmental and critical of themselves or of others More optimistic/positive in their outlook

People Nourishing Characteristics Toxic characteristics How can I improve this relationship Parents/Guardians Extended family or other relatives Friends Other