1 CBS October 29, 2015

Let your yes be yes and your no be no ? 2

If two of you agree on earth about anything you ask.. It will be done for you by my Father. 3

Better to live on the roof? 4

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7 52% –of marriages end in divorce 66% –unhappily married spouses report that they were happier 5 years later when they stayed together 19% –of the divorced people reported being happier 100% increase leading to 50 – 80% probability –Shacking up increase since 1960, increasing the probability of divorce 75% more and 10-40% –continuously married people had 75% more wealth at retirement than those who never married or who divorced and did not remarry –married men have been shown to earn percent more than single man with similar educations and job histories Sources –Statistical Abstract of the US, National Survey of Family and Households, Marriage Project Rutgers

8 What does the bible have to say about marriage and divorce? Gen 2:18 - The L ORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Psalm 1115:9 - O Israel, trust in the L ORD ; He is their help and their shield. SS 8:6-9 - The Shulamite to Her Beloved Set me as a seal upon your heart, As a seal upon your arm; For love is as strong as death, Jealousy as cruel as the grave; Its flames are flames of fire, A most vehement flame. Many waters cannot quench love, nor can the floods drown it. If a man would give for love. All the wealth of his house, It would be utterly despised

9 What does the bible have to say about marriage and divorce? “ When the bible speaks of love, it measures it primarily not by how much you want to receive but by how much you are willing to give yourself to someone. … because marriage is instituted by God. It was established by God for whom self-giving love is an essential attribute, and therefore reflects his nature, particularly as it is revealed in the person and work of Jesus Christ.”

10 What does the bible have to say about marriage and divorce? Matt 16:25 - For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it. 2 Cor 5:15 – and He died for all, that those who live should live no longer for themselves, but for Him who died for them and rose again. A real man or woman – will set aside themselves for their spouse and children. Goal = not thinking less of yourself or more of yourself but thinking of yourself less.

11 What is going to keep you together? 3 questions for a prospective son in law: –Why do you want to marry my daughter? –Who did you consult in the process? –What is going to keep you together?

12 What is going to keep you together? Why do you want to marry my daughter? –Get that door –Do something romantic –Do something spontaneous –Recapture that cannot wait to see you feeling

13 What is going to keep you together? Who did you consult in the process? –76% of the people want to fix their marriage –Get advice form Godly men and woman It takes a community –Be held accountable Cannot fake showing up –Share ideas –Avoid - 2 Young Pace

14 What is going to keep you together? Who did you consult in the process? –76% of the people want to fix their marriage –Get advice form Godly men and woman It takes a community –Be held accountable Cannot fake showing up –Share ideas –Avoid - 2 Young Pace

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17 What is going to keep you together? James 1: Cor 10:3-5 1 Cor 2:9-14 James 1: Cor 13:5, 1 Cor 15:1-4 Romans 10:9-10 John 8:31-32 Gal 5:16-25 John 15:1-11 Romans 12:1-2 Matt 11:28-30 Luke 9:23 Psa 127:1 Matt 7:24-27

18 What is going to keep you together? Doers of the Word Every thought captive to Christ The HS Teaches His Truth Examine yourselves, hold fast to the Word, the heart believes unto righteousness The truth shall set you free Walk in the Spirit, fruits of the Spirit Christ is the vine, abide in Him Present your bodies a living sacrifice Take up the cross daily, His yoke is easy His burden is light Unless the Lord builds Build upon the Rock

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