LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 1 EUROPEAN PROGRAM SOCRATESGRUNDTVIG

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 2 PARENTHOOD EUROPEAN PROGRAM SOCRATES GRUNDTVIG LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 3 THE DECISION TO BECOME A PARENT THE DECISION TO BECOME A PARENT

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 4 DECISION TO BECOME A PARENT SOME PREVIOUS MEDITATIONS RESPONSIBLE PARENTHOOD: conscious decision to become a parent Hope? Responsibility Anxiety? Fear? Insecurity? Can I afford that?

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 5 WHY WANT TO BECOME A PARENT?

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 6 WHY WANT TO BECOME A PARENT? Somebody to fight and live for Need to give oneself Need to find a self-reflection in another human being Get strength Life gets a sense Leave something behind

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 7 LONG-LIFE COMPROMISE LONG-LIFE COMPROMISE

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 8 LIFE-LONG COMPROMISE Consolation, comfort Affection Long-life memories Compromise Self-involvement since the very first moment No free-time, lots of fun Renunciation Transmission of values Duty Satisfaction A never-ending contract: Since birth you must take care of it No-limit needs Availability 24 hours a day No boredom

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 9 EARLY CHILDHOOD  0 – 3 YEARS OLD EARLY CHILDHOOD  0 – 3 YEARS OLD

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 10 EARLY CHILDHOOD  0 – 3 YEARS OLD EARLY CHILDHOOD  0 – 3 YEARS OLD Help to discover the world Parents are everything: they are the whole world Physical and affective stimulation The feeling of being a parent  trapped/ super(wo)man: constant feeding & no-sleep nights

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 11 CHILDHOOD  4 – 8 YEARS OLD CHILDHOOD  4 – 8 YEARS OLD

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 12 CHILDHOOD  4 – 8 YEARS OLD A parent: leader of explorers in search for the adventure of life Setting routines, rules and sharing freetime activities A child : learning the first steps toward independence Powerful influence of school and teachers Shaping personality and transmitting values First initiatives

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 13 BEFORE ADOLESCENCE  9 – 12 YEARS OLD BEFORE ADOLESCENCE  9 – 12 YEARS OLD

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 14 BEFORE ADOLESCENCE  9 – 12 YEAR OLD A parent: authority but not authoritarian: decisions have a reason Listening and respecting opinions Knowing when to say NO: no silly needless whim Emotional wear Promoting self-esteem: no derision, all possible help Emotional blackmail Joys: conversations & complicity

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 15 ADOLESCENCE  13 – 18 YEARS OLD

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 16 ADOLESCENCE  13 – 18 YEARS OLD DUTIES JOYS Assertive attitude: say NO without seeming to be Mr. No Need for dialogue Trying to use conflict as a means to achieve maturity and avoid damage Freedom and control Teaching self-control First signs of maturity and responsibility Expectancy to see the result of all effort Share of worries: they become supportive

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 17 YOUTH  19 – 30 YEARS OLD YOUTH  19 – 30 YEARS OLD

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 18 YOUTH  19 – 30 YEARS OLD DUTIES JOYS Advice for adult life Need for dialogue Help with studies (university) and work (looking for a job) Money help Teaching self-control Share of adult experience despite not always agreeing with goals

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 19 BEING A PARENT FROM THE DISTANCE CHILDREN FLY AWAY FROM HOME

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 20 BEING A PARENT FROM THE DISTANCE: CHILDREN FLY AWAY SATISFACTION Enjoying your husband/wife again Realising decisions taken have turned out to be the right ones

LINKING THE EUROPEAN FAMILY: I, YOU, WE - PARENTHOOD 21 CONCLUSION BEING A PARENT is something natural which implies a kind of personal extension with physical and psychological aspects. The latter modified by education. BEING A PARENT is something natural which implies a kind of personal extension with physical and psychological aspects. The latter modified by education.

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