Godly Discipline

Top 10 Things Dads Rarely Say

10.“Well, how 'bout that?... I'm lost! Looks like we'll have to stop and ask for directions.” Top 10 Things Dads Rarely Say

9.“Can you turn up that music?” Top 10 Things Dads Rarely Say

8.“You know Pumpkin, now that you're 15, you'll be ready for un- chaperoned car dates. Won't that be fun?” Top 10 Things Dads Rarely Say

7.“You don’t want your peas? Go ahead and just throw them away!” Top 10 Things Dads Rarely Say

6.“Here's a credit card and the keys to my new car -- GO CRAZY.” Top 10 Things Dads Rarely Say

5.“Your mother and I are going away for the weekend... you might want to consider throwing a party.” Top 10 Things Dads Rarely Say

4.“The more body piercings, the better!” Top 10 Things Dads Rarely Say

3.“I know, let’s watch High School Musical again tonight!” Top 10 Things Dads Rarely Say

2.“You’re 21. You don’t need to get a job. I make plenty of money for you to spend.” Top 10 Things Dads Rarely Say

1.“I LOVE your tattoo. Next time, we should both go get one.” Top 10 Things Dads Rarely Say

“Before I got married I had 4 theories about bringing up children;...now I have 4 children, and no theories.”

What is the goal of parenting? To enable a child to handle life in this world while preparing for the next.

Discipline = bringing to maturity by training and correction

“disciple” “student” “follower”

“What a child doesn't receive he can seldom later give.”

Proverbs 3:11-12 My son, do not despise the LORD's discipline and do not resent his rebuke, 12 because the LORD disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.

3 Prerequisites to Biblical Discipline: Love

“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”

Revelation 3:19 Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent.

3 Prerequisites to Biblical Discipline: Love Authority Love Authority

Job 5:17 Blessed is the man whom God corrects; so do not despise the discipline of the Almighty.

Psalms 94:12 Blessed is the man you discipline, O LORD, the man you teach from your law. Blessed is the man you discipline, O LORD, the man you teach from your law.

“The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children.” ~Edward, Duke of Windsor

3 Prerequisites to Biblical Discipline: Love Authority Trust Love Authority Trust

Proverbs 22:17-19 Pay attention and listen to the sayings of the wise; apply your heart to what I teach, 18 for it is pleasing when you keep them in your heart and have all of them ready on your lips. 19 So that your trust may be in the LORD.

Two sides of discipline: Training Correction Training Correction

Training = instruction/guidance to show a person the right path

“Parents often talk about the younger generation as if they didn't have anything to do with it.” ~Haim Ginott

Proverbs 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

Titus 2:2-5 Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance. Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live…

Titus 2:2-5 4 Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure…

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Deuteronomy 6:5-7 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.

Deuteronomy 6:5-7 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

Correction = Getting someone back on the right path when they diverge from it

2 Timothy 3:16-17 All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, 17 so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

Jeremiah 10:24 Correct me, LORD, but only with justice — not in your anger, lest you reduce me to nothing.

2 Timothy 4:1-4 In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who will judge the living and the dead, and in view of his appearing and his kingdom, I give you this charge: 2 Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage — with great patience and careful instruction.

2 Timothy 4:1-4 3 For the time will come when men will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. 4 They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.

As Children, We get the punishment Now, rather than Later

1 Peter 4:17-18 For it is time for judgment to begin with the family of God; and if it begins with us, what will the outcome be for those who do not obey the gospel of God?

How does God correct us? Consequences

Galatians 6:7-9 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.

How does God correct us? Consequences Conviction Consequences Conviction

Psalm 38:1-4 O LORD, do not rebuke me in your anger or discipline me in your wrath. 2 For your arrows have pierced me, and your hand has come down upon me.

Psalm 38:1-4 3 Because of your wrath there is no health in my body; my bones have no soundness because of my sin. 4 My guilt has overwhelmed me like a burden too heavy to bear. 3 Because of your wrath there is no health in my body; my bones have no soundness because of my sin. 4 My guilt has overwhelmed me like a burden too heavy to bear.

Psalm 32 Blessed is he whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered. 2 Blessed is the man whose sin the LORD does not count against him and in whose spirit is no deceit.

Psalm 32 3 When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. 4 For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer.

Psalm 32 5 Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD" — and you forgave the guilt of my sin. 6 Therefore let everyone who is godly pray to you… while you may be found. 5 Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD" — and you forgave the guilt of my sin. 6 Therefore let everyone who is godly pray to you… while you may be found.

Hebrews 12: "My son, do not make light of the Lord's discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, 6 because the Lord disci- plines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son."

Hebrews 12: Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? 7 Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?

Hebrews 12: If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and not true sons.

Hebrews 12: Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live!

Hebrews 12: Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in his holiness.

Hebrews 12: No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of right- eousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

Proverbs 3:11 My son, do not reject the discipline of the Lord, or loathe His reproof.

What if we despise and resent discipline?

Proverbs 12:1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid.

Proverbs 15:32 He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding.

Psalm 119:71 It is good for me that I have been afflicted; that I might learn your ways.

Where is God trying to discipline you right now?