Part 1: Understand and Prevent Conflict

Learning Objectives  Identify what makes me angry  Identify and practice ways to handle conflict  Make a plan for taking care of myself and my emotions

Teamwork? Game (team of 4-5 pick up ball)  Let’s talk about what makes a peaceful, strong team.

What causes conflict?  Different perspectives

What do you see?

What makes you more angry? Game: stand on the line in the place where you agree Not Angry Very Angry

How do you respond to conflict?  Walk away (and don’t come back)  Complain to other people  Talk  Yell or Argue  Fight

What are the ways you show anger?  Violence  Crying  Laughing  Getting very quiet  Being aggressive-loud voice  Arguing

Talking  Open body language  Normal voice (not loud)  Tone of voice  Words (avoid abusive language)  Be direct (“I feel”… not “you”)  Focus on problem, not person Game (practice negative and positive talk)

Other tips  Make a safe space (away from people/distractions)  Avoid violence  Involve only necessary persons  Take responsibility for your own actions

To Think About  When your neighbor is wrong you point a finger but when you are wrong you hide. Proverb from the Democratic Republic of Congo

Words are powerful  Game: playing with words you don’t like

Self Care Techniques How can you deal with anger or frustration?  Listen to music, sing or hum, dance  take a walk, play sports, games  Talk to friends  Find a place to be alone  Breathe slowly and deeply  Sleep  Write, draw, make something

How should we resolve conflict?  Brainstorm plans for us as a team

Part 2: Skills to Manage Conflict

Learning Objectives  Understand causes of conflict  Know and practice conflict management  Make a plan for handling conflict

Proverbs about Conflict Management  Those who seek revenge must remember to dig two graves. – China  A wise person changes their mind. – Japan  To engage in conflict, one does not bring a knife that cuts – but a needle that sews. - Zambia, East Africa  When your neighbor is wrong you point a finger but when you are wrong you hide. – Democratic Republic of Congo in Central Africa  When the right hand washes the left hand, and the left hand washes the right hand, both become clean. – Nigeria, West Africa  The wind does not break the tree that bends. – Tanzania, East Africa

Resolving Conflict  A – Ask  B – Brainstorm  C – Chose an option  D – Do It  E – Evaluate

Conflict Review  What is conflict?  Is conflict good or bad?  When is it good, when is it bad?  Can we always prevent a conflict from happening?  Should we always prevent it?