MARRIAGE TUNE-UP WELCOME AND THANKS FOR CARING ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE

Five Love Languages 1.Words of Affirmation 2.Quality Time 3.Acts of Service 4.Gift Giving 5.Physical Touch MARRIAGE TUNE-UP

Languages of Apology 1. Regret 2. Accept Responsibility 3. Restitution (what do I need to do?) 4. Repentance (desire not to do it again and ask “help me change”) 5. Request forgiveness MARRIAGE TUNE-UP

Dr John Gottman, Phd. 30 years – Love Lab studying Married Male/Female Couples Seattle, WA Love and Respect – Key to Success “5 Magic Hours” MARRIAGE TUNE-UP

The Magic 5 Hours The Magic Five Hours (from the Gottman Institute) Partings 2 min. x 5=10 min. Reunions 20 min. x 5=1hr. 40min. Admiration/Appreciation 5 min. x 7=35 min. Affection 5 min. x 7=35 min. Weekly Date 2 hrs. x 1= 2 hrs. GRAND TOTAL = 5 HOURS MARRIAGE TUNE-UP

Dr Gary Chapman’s Keys Respect and Love one another Respect and Love one another Successfully deal with your failures Successfully deal with your failures MARRIAGE TUNE-UP

Forgiveness What is forgiveness? How do you know you have forgiven someone? MARRIAGE TUNE-UP

I, (your name) take you, (spouse name) to be my wife/husband. To have and to hold For better, for worse For richer, for poorer in sickness and in health to love and to cherish from this day forward MARRIAGE TUNE-UP