Inappropriate Behavior Let’s face it, event the best child misbehaves sometimes. As a parent or caregiver, you must learn to deal with misbehavior appropriately and effectively.

Inappropriate Behavior When a child misbehaves, ask yourself: Do they understand what they are doing? Do they know it was wrong? Was the behavior intentional?

Inappropriate Behavior Sometimes a child’s behavior is UNINTENTIONAL These behaviors are not “wrong” or understood by the child (flower garden) Unintentional behaviors should NOT be punished. Talk and explain

Inappropriate Behavior Intentional Misbehavior First time, give a warning, not punishment Second time, negative reinforcement (discourage them from repeating it) Be sure child knows you disapprove of behavior and not them!

Inappropriate Behavior When you give punishment, be sure it is in proportion to the misbehavior. Punishment =Crime

Dealing with Inappropriate Behaviors Natural Consequences The end result of the misbehavior is it’s own punishment. Nothing else needed. Examples

Dealing with Inappropriate Behaviors Loss of Privileges Not effective until about age 5 Loss should be related to misbehavior Example:

Dealing with Inappropriate Behaviors Time Out Time away from activity or people Chance to calm down and regain control Steps in time out:

Poor Disciplinary Measures Bribing Child always expects something Child doesn’t learn self control Promise to Behave Feel like they let you down Afraid you will be mad at them

Poor Disciplinary Measures Shouting and Yelling Child can be scared Loud voices affect children emotionally Shaming/Belittling Destroys child’s self esteem Makes them feel worthless

Let’s Try Some Situations Victoria told her two year old to put the toys away. When the child started to do so, Victoria said, “Stop! Don’t put them there!” Then she walked out of the room.

Let’s Try Some Situations Stephan told his son, “OK, Jamal, it’s time for bed now. Which book do you want to read before bedtime.

Let’s Try Some Situations When Maria finished brushing her teeth, her mother said, “That was good of you to brush your teeth right after a snack. It’s no wonder that you had such a good checkup at the dentist.

Let’s Try Some Situations As Mark drove his daughter home from the child care center, he finished his coffee and threw the cup out of the window.

Let’s Try Some Situations Elijah was just pushing his vegetables around on his plate. His mother said, “Look, if you eat your broccoli, you can have some ice cream.”

Let’s Try Some Situations When Mandy described how she and her friends had made fun of the new student in class, her father laughed at the names they had called the new girl. Then he said, You really should be more fair to her.