Affirmation Bags  Finish decorating your bag. Tape to the wall and write affirmations to your classmates.

Teen Leadership  Who or what influences what you are?  Are those influences always good? Why or why not?  What can you do to be sure you are influenced the right way?

Teen leadership Journal  We are going to do three quick writes  We are going to do three quick writes  I will explain to you in just a moment  I will explain to you in just a moment

Journal  Write down some of the positive or negative things you think others are thinking about you.  Write about a time when you said or did something that may have affected someone’s self-concept. (negative or positive)

Teen Leadership Journal  New seat. New friend. Choose wisely so that you do not have to be moved.  How was your weekend? Write about it. If you could have done something different, what would you have done instead?

Teen Leadership Agenda  1. journal  2. heads up 7 up  3. finish Lesson 7

Journal  When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Describe yourself in detail.

Good News  TELL ME SOMETHING GOOD  TELL ME SOMETHING GOOD

SPEECHES  LET’S WRAP IT UP!!

HAPPY CINCO DE MAYO  WHY DO WE CELEBRATE CINCO DE MAYO? ANYONE KNOW????

JOURNAL  FRIDAY FREE WRITE  FRIDAY FREE WRITE  IF YOU HAD TO GIVE YOURSELF A PARTICIPATION GRADE FOR TEEN LEADERSHIP, WHAT WOULD THE GRADE BE AND WHY. BE DETAILED!!

Drawings  Share your drawings with two other classmates. Add any other details you wish to add.

Lesson 7 pg  Goal: –To develop an understanding of self-concept –Understand how social experiences, social comparisons, and reflected appraisals affect self-concept.

Self Concept 1111. What is “self-concept”? Give at least three ways our self-concept is formed. SSSSelf-concept is the way we see ourselves… based on the information that we get from our environment and those people in our environment. It’s not what we feel about ourselves, but what we think about ourselves. IIIIt is our thoughts that cause feelings and not the other way around. One way our self-concept is formed is through our –1–1–1–1. Social Experiences –2–2–2–2. Social Comparisons –3–3–3–3. Reflected Appraisals

Social experiences  Initial thoughts come from those who care for us as infants.  As we grow, thoughts about ourselves come from others who form our ever expanding circle of people and relationships.  We play with neighborhood kids. We go to day-care. Before you know it, we’re off to school

Social Experiences  Then you’re playing T-ball, or you’re in dance class. This group continues to expand and finally takes in everyone around us. All of them are giving us feedback about ourselves. The messages we accept help form our self-concepts.

Circle of influence pg 19  Take notes during the discussion 0-2 yrs. 2-5 yrs 5-12 yrs 12-?

Circle of influence  We all must have input from others to help us know who we are. Hopefully, it will be positive input, that helps build healthy self- concepts. Unfortunately, much of the feedback many children receive eventually destroys them in some way.  I wonder what kinds of input you have received.

Welcome Welcome  Grab your teen leadership book  New seat new friend.  Journal: –What did we talk about on Friday? What information have you received so far? How have your social experiences helped to build your self concept?

Good News  Tell me something good

Social Comparisons CCCComparing ourselves to other people. –O–O–O–Our abilities vs. their abilities –O–O–O–Our physical makeup vs. their physical makeup –O–O–O–Our social position vs. their social position…. –O–O–O–Our iPod vs. their iPod

 Sports –Have you ever noticed, those of you who are involved in competitive activities, that we’re very selective about whom we want to compete against? –We don’t want to just play people we blow away.  That’s no fun. It’s not fun to play people who blow us away every time we play them either! The truth is, we want to compete against people who are at least somewhat close to us in ability.

Social comparisons WWWWhat do we learn? –T–T–T–That we are fat or skinny, fast or slow, rich or poor, tall or short, etc. as we compare ourselves to others. –S–S–S–So, here is a story about a boy at a school where Flip Flippen once taught. –W–W–W–When we were kids and others said hurtful things to us, we like to say, “Sticks and stone may break my bones, but words can never hurt me!” BUT THAT IS NOT TRUE! WORDS DO HURT US, VERY MUCH!

Launch Write an affirmation to two of your classmates Write an affirmation to two of your classmates