RESPECT, RESPONSIBILITY, RESILIENCE Deborah Gilboa, #waictikicon AskDoctorG

KID BRAINS Temperament Content-free Genetic Biologic Character Content-rich Culture-based Experience-dependent

MOVING TARGETS Character predictors in children/teens Gratitude Curiosity Grit Self-control Culture-based Experiential learning

THE 3 “R’s” KIDS REALLY NEED Respect CONFIDENCE, gratitude, curiousity Responsibility COMPETENCE, self-control Resilience RELATIONSHIPS, grit

{your camp logo here} CHANGING CAMPERS' LIVES 4 tricks 1 Doing it… 2 Finding it… 3 Naming it… 4 Praising it !

RESPECT WHAT IS IT? Recognizing worth Showing regard Impossible to give if you don’t have any Crucial for success.

RESPECT INGREDIENTS Oneself –Needs –Personality –Obligations Others’ –Roles –Differences –Priorities Boundaries!

RESPECT CAMP TEACHES IT Participation Communication Camp names Physical boundaries Body Language Privacy

Meet obligations Reliable Dependable Initiative! RESPONSIBILITY WHAT IS IT?

RESPONSIBILITY INGREDIENTS 1.Notice the task. 2.Show initiative. "How can I help?" 3.Do the job. 4.Complete it well. 5.Check back in. "What else can I do?"

RESPONSIBILITY CAMP TEACHES IT Individual tasks Group tasks Activities Routine Disruption Emergencies

The ability to RECOVER from ADVERSITY! What do we know? –Hard things happen. –There are always choices to be made. –Feelings change over time. –Recovery requires tools and experience. What do people need? PRACTICE. RESILENCE WHAT IS IT?

RESILENCE INGREDIENTS 1.Build trust. 2.Accept emotions. 3.Move toward action. 4.Guide THEIR plan.

RESILIENCE CAMP TEACHES IT  Life lesson.  Choices, within limits.  Risk-taking  Resources!

TEEN/KID BRAIN INTERACTION College-age students possess a completely different kind of authority than do parents, and they put it to good use getting children to set tables, make beds, keep track of their clothes, take showers, take turns and, more important, take risks and accept challenges that would melt parents into a puddle of anxious empathy. These young adults often teach complex, challenging life-and-death skills: sailing, horseback riding, rock climbing, whitewater kayaking and survival techniques. They also teach character and community, caring and sacrifice. Michael Thompson, PhD, Author of Homesick and Happy

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