Ch. 16 – Rape and Dating

Sexual Assault Sexual Assault – Sexual contact that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient of the behavior. Such contact can take the form of: Harassment Exposing/Flashing Forcing a person to pose for sexual pictures Fondling Unwanted sexual touching or penetration with any object

Rape Rape – forced sexual intercourse, including vaginal, anal or oral penetration. Penetration may be by a body part or an object. Rape may be forced through threats, physical force, or psychological coercion. Women, men, and children may be victims of rape, and victims may be straight or gay.

Rape In the most extreme cases, rape may involve force which may include but is not limited to: Use or display of a weapon Physical battering Immobilization of the victim

Date Rape: It can happen to anyone Date rape is difficult to talk about Date rape is a serious crime Date rape is a violation of one’s body and trust Behaviors in date rape are the same as rape by a stranger or by an acquaintance or someone in your family Date rape has nothing to do with love or passion

If Date Rape Happens to You Remember that rape is rape. You are not to blame. Know that action against the rapist can prevent others from becoming victims. Get help immediately. Phone the police, a friend, a rape crisis center, a relative. Don’t isolate yourself, don’t feel guilty or ashamed, and don’t try to ignore it. It is a crime that should be reported.

If It Happens To You Get medical attention as soon as possible. Do not shower, wash, or change your clothes. Valuable evidence could be destroyed. Get counseling to help you through the recovery process. Rape is a traumatic experience and trained counselors can make recovery easier and quicker.

Why Does It Happen? Although things are changing, society still frequently encourages men to be competitive and aggressive and teaches women to be passive and avoid confrontation. Men say they misunderstand a woman’s words and actions – the excuse, “She said no, but meant yes”.

Why Does It Happen? Some people – men and women alike – still believe that it’s okay for a man to demand sex if he takes a woman out or buys her gifts, and that it’s not rape if he forces sex on a woman who previously had sex with him or other men. Women also feel that if they’ve previously had sex with a boyfriend who later forces them to have sex against their will, it may not be considered rape.

Facts and Myths About Date Rape Rape is only committed by strangers in dark alleys and parking lots. As many as 84% of women are raped by someone they know, such as friends, family or an acquaintance.

Facts and Myths About Date Rape If a woman is raped, then she must have deserved it, especially if she agreed to go to the man’s room or wore sexy clothing. No one deserves to be raped. Being in a man’s room or wearing revealing clothing does not mean a woman has agreed to have sex.

Facts and Myths About Date Rape Women who don’t physically fight back haven’t been raped. If a woman did not or could not consent to having sex, it is considered rape. Forcing a woman to have sex against her will, whether she physically fights back or not, is rape, plain and simple.

Facts and Myths About Date Rape If there isn’t a weapon involved, you haven’t been raped. Whether the man uses a weapon, his fists, the weight of his body, verbal threats, drugs, alcohol, or takes advantage of a woman’s diminished physical or mental state to force her to have sex, it is rape.

Facts and Myths About Date Rape It’s not rape if the man is her boyfriend or husband or if they have had sex before A woman has the right to decide what she does with her body at all times – if she does not want to have sex, it is her decision, even if she willingly had sex with the man before.

Facts and Myths About Date Rape If a woman lets a man buy her dinner or pay for a movie or drinks, she owes him sex. No one owes sex as a payment to anyone else, no matter how expensive the date.

Facts and Myths About Date Rape When a woman agrees to “make out” with a man, she is implying that she will have intercourse with him, too. Everyone has the right to say “no” to sexual activity, regardless of what has preceded it, and to have that “no” respected.

Facts and Myths About Date Rape Women lie about being raped, especially when they accuse men they date or other acquaintances. Rape really happens – to people you know, by people you know.

Facts and Myths About Date Rape When men are sexually aroused, they can’t stop themselves from forcing sex on a woman. Men are still able to control themselves even after becoming sexually excited.

Facts and Myths About Date Rape Only women are raped. Ten percent of rape cases involve men as a victim.

As A Woman, You Can Be clear with men in your life about what, if any sexual behavior you are comfortable with. Do not use alcohol or other drugs. Trust your gut feelings. Check out a first date or blind date with friends. Leave social events with friends, not with strangers. Always watch your drink and never leave it unattended.

As A Man, You Can Realize that forcing a woman to have sex against her will is rape. Accept a woman’s decision when she says “no”. Do not use alcohol or drugs. Ask your self how sexual stereotypes affect your attitudes and actions towards women. Understand that if a woman is drunk and you have sex with her against her will, it’s still rape.

Date Rape: Staggering Stats For every 1,000 women attending college, there will be 35 incidents of rape in a given academic year. 51.8 % of rapes occur after midnight. 62% of completed rapes occur by classmates or friends. 16 % of male students who committed rape, and 10% of those who attempted rape, did so with at least one other attacker 57% of rapes occur while on a date. Women are 10 times more likely than men to be victims of rape or sexual assault.

4 Major Types of Date Rape Drugs Gamma Hydroxyburtryate Rohypnol Ketamine Ecstasy

Gamma Hydroxyburtryate Also known as GHB. In high doses, the drug starts to work as an anesthetic and can result in sever adverse effects. These include: Slow heartbeat Decreased respiratory effort Unconsciousness Seizure-like activity The effects start to decrease after 3 or 4 hours. The health risks increase significantly when GHB is mixed with alcohol or other drugs.

Rohypnol Is used in some countries as a surgical anesthetic and in the treatment of some psychiatric disorders. Rohypnol is the most commonly used date-rape drug. It easily dissolves into all fluids and is odorless, colorless, and tasteless. It is a strong tranquilizer and is 10 times stronger than Valium. It is easy to overdose on Rohypnol when mixed with alcohol and can leave the victim unconscious after about a minute depending on the person’s body size.

Rohypnol When under the influence of this drug, the victim is in a sedated state that is just the way the rapist wants them. They do not have the ability to fight off an attack. The effect of the drug can last for up to 12 hours.

Ketamine Ketamine- A dissociative anesthetic, developed in the mid 1960’s, used primarily for veterinary purposes. It comes in the form of a clear liquid and can be placed into any type of drink. The drug causes a combination of amnesia and hallucinations. It also stops the feeling of pain and lowers the heart rate leading to oxygen starvation to the brain and muscles. It can lead to temporary paralysis.

Ecstasy Ecstasy comes in a tablet that can come in many different colors and usually has some type of design on the surface. Ecstasy causes inappropriate and/or unintended emotional bonding, tendency to say things you might feel uncomfortable about later. It can also cause muscle tension, increase in body temperature, hypothermia, dehydration, nausea, and vomiting.

Signs of Being Dosed You feel intoxicated when you have been drinking a non-alcoholic beverage. You wake up feeling fuzzy. You have injuries to your body that you cannot explain. You start to feel dizzy or sick suddenly after drinking the beverage. You feel as if you are going to pass out.

If You Have Been Dosed Get to a safe place and tell someone you trust. Get someone to transport you to a hospital or call 911. Try to obtain a sample of the beverage for testing. Call the police immediately. Remember that you are not alone.

If It Happens To Someone You Know Believe the person Offer comfort and support Do not judge Go with him/her to hospital, police station, or counseling center Let him/her know that he/she is not to blame Don’t take over for him/her Don’t force him/her to make decisions Don’t minimize his/her feelings Do not blame him/her by making statements such as, “I told you not to go to the party” Encourage him/her to seek counseling

Dating Safety Tips Open your own beverages Don’t share or exchange drinks Never leave a drink unattended Don’t drink anything that tastes unusual Never leave with someone you just met. If you do, give the persons name and description to someone you trust before you leave. Always tell someone you trust your plans for the evening and what to do if they don’t hear from you. Take your own car. Have money for a taxi or phone call Be aware of your surroundings. Don’t allow that person to isolate you from others. Trust your feelings!

Facts About Teen Dating Violence Teen dating violence does not discriminate. It runs across race, gender, and socioeconomic lines. Teens who are part of a violent relationship are more likely to experience violence in their adult relationships – violence that’s often more severe.

The Facts About Teen Dating Violence One in five high school girls has been physically or sexually assaulted by a dating partner, significantly increasing their risk of drug abuse, suicide, and other harmful behavior. A current or former boyfriend or girlfriend victimized 94% of the 16-19 year-old female victims of intimate partner violence. 40% of teenage girls between the ages of 14-17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.

The Facts About Teen Dating Violence 58% of rape victims report having been raped between the ages of 12-24; and, in 9 out of 10 rapes in which the offender was under 18, so was the victim. Both victims and abusers attribute the responsibility for violent dating behavior to victims, citing reasons like: provocation by the girl; the victim’s personality type; the girl’s need for affection; communication problems; and peer group influence.

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