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We Learn ______% of what we read. ______% of what we hear. ______% of what we see. ______% of what we both see and hear. ______% of what we discuss with others. ______% of what we experience personally. ______% of what we TEACH someone else. ©HULL & ASSOCIATES 2 David Lazear in his book Seven ways of Knowing, attributes the % on learning to William Glasser.
Communication Realities You cannot NOT communicate. Whenever contact is made, communication occurs. Meanings are in people, not in words. ©HULL & ASSOCIATES 3
Communication Realities Meanings cannot be transferred from one mind to another …only words and body language can be transferred. ©HULL & ASSOCIATES 4
Verbal/Non-Verbal Communications * ___ % Words ___ % Tone of Voice ___ % Body Language ©HULL & ASSOCIATES *Source: Albert Mehrabian, Communication Without Words
Your body communicates, from head to toe and is culturally dependent. ©HULL & ASSOCIATES 6
Communication Realities Even when all communications are received… 70% to 90% are screened out or changed by the receiver. ©HULL & ASSOCIATES 7
Communicating! Paying attention Questioning Reflecting Summarizing
Rates of Speech/Rates of Listening We listen at ____ words per minute. We speak at ________ words per minute. We have ____ words per minute to TUNE OUT!
Causes for “Tune Out” Unclear focus Receiver’s purpose is different from sender’s purpose. Pace and delivery. Lack of credibility.
Four Types of Questions Closed Open-ended Leading Loaded
Reflecting Reflect back both the feeling and the content Use phrases like: You seem (pleased, upset, frustrated, concerned)… It sounds like… What you seem to be saying… I think I hear you saying…
Communicating! Summarizing Who What Where When How
A Magic Sentence…. 1. When I saw/heard I felt because I... (need, want, interpret, etc.) 4. and (now) I would like so that (in order to)...
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