Exercise Make 2 marks on this scale that indicates where you see yourself when you are at work Make two marks on the scale of you outside of work Think of someone that you don’t like or get on with that well and put two marks where you think they are on this scale

I set goals for myself I follow goals set by others With lots of people On my own

Door step Driver Please People Door Attic Behaviour Feeling Door step Driver Try Hard Door Attic Thinking Behaviour Door step Driver Be Perfect Door Attic Behaviour Thinking Door step Driver Be Strong Door Attic Feeling Behaviour I set goals for myself I follow goals set by others With lots of people On my own HURRYUPHURRYUP

Try hard Positive Aspects Put in the effort Variety High change Juggle - multi task Doing more than being Love problem solving Not attached to any one solution Flexible Resilient Humour In Overdrive Lots of energy goes to waste Variety goes to loss of focus Lose perspective Don’t know when enough is enough Jugglers, fail to complete or do so poorly Out of control –messy Chaotic Seeks problem and over complicates things Lack of decision making Not attached to own ideas Shoot themselves in the foot rather than be caged

Please People Positive Aspects Empathy Responsive Accommodating Listening Go the extra mile Warmth Sympathetic Puts others needs first Generous Non-judgemental Accepting Harmony In Overdrive Doormat Marshmallow Needs to be needed Over involved Over emotional Moan Physically stressed Patronising Self neglecting Only happy in a crisis In secure Take on too much Being liked /wanted/ needed

Be Perfect Positive Aspects Accurate Consistent Reliable results High standards Focused Thinking –plan-lists Setting objectives Expertise Ordered Good at strategy Self reliant Neat and tidy Task orientated In Overdrive Nit picky Inflexible about the ‘right way to do something’ Hard on themselves and others Untrusting about the process Micro-manage the process Slow Procrastinate Insular No risk (or low risk) No fun (serious) Can’t delegate (for fear of..) Worry (be hard on themselves) Avoids conflict at all cost

Be Strong Positive Aspects Loyal Calm Detached Unemotional Stabilising Dependable Like procedures Provide security In Overdrive Withdrawn Can’t get through to Rigid Unfeeling Immovable Unresponsive Cold Fantasy Over procedural Drop dead early without symptoms Suppression of feelings

Hurry Up Positive Aspects Gets’ things done Decisive Fast Busy Speedy In Overdrive Mistakes Things get missed Accidents happen Never there Always arrive late and leave early