Decision Making and Refusal Skills

DECIDE D-define the problem E-explore your options C-consider the consequences I-identify your values D-decide and act E-evaluate the results You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do? Do through your thought process

Define the Problem State problem clearly Write it down if necessary Do I even need to use DECIDE? You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Explore the Alternatives Make a list If more info is needed do research If alternatives are unrealistic remove them You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Consider the Consequences Look at each alternative and write Possible positive and negative consequences Consider what would happen, not what you hope would happen Ask yourself How risky is each alternative? How would it affect my future? How will my decision effect other people? You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Identify Your Values Overlook because you want something Usually uncomfortable with decision later Consider Goals Family/culture Health of you and others Choice that matches values You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Decide and Act Use knowledge to choose what is right for you Sometimes more than one right answer Make a plan Break into smaller steps Follow through with plan You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Evaluate Consequences How did it work out? How has it affected your life? How has it affected others? If you could do it over, what would you change? Do it if possible You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Decision Making Skills 15 Item game Get correct information Know how to use this information Square Activity Choice may look obvious at first There may be more options than we see Gut Check Does your decision feel right?

Forgotten Aspects Values Emotions Other’s feelings Habits Pressure Risks

Refusal Skills NICE principle N-say No firmly I-use I statements I’m not old enough to… No thank you, I don’t… I want to stay in control of myself C-change the subject, change who you are talking to, change rooms E-exit the situation

Do’s and Don’ts of NICE Do Don’t Make eye contact Stand tall Use a firm voice Don’t Look at the ground Show you are nervous Speak softly Say ”I guess not” or “Maybe”

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