Listening and hearing are NOT the same thing. Listening is an active process. Listening requires effort. Listeners do NOT receive the same message.
Hearing Selecting Attending Understanding Evaluating Remembering Responding
Sender based Channel based Message based Context based Social based Video-”Fast Food”
Pseudolistening “okay” “Uh-huh” Ambushing look for weaknesses Selective listening Only choose what reinforces likes/dislikes Video”what was that?” Dominate listening Monopolize listening Defensive listening Attacking comments
LISTENING TYPES INFORMATIONAL LISTENING EVALUATIVE LISTENING RELATIONAL LISTENING
Focus on the speaker Try to understand the message Monitor your listening habits Block out noise
Listen before you evaluate Consider the source Consider the evidence Consider the argument
Try to understand Encourage others to keep talking Offer support Choose correct environment “What does the person need”
Increase enjoyment Improved understanding Enhanced empathy Increased civility