Module Two Couples and Deployment

Activity: 10 Words Prepare Positive Attitude Friends TrustCommunicate Involved Fun Goals De-stress Help

Agenda Emotional Cycle of Deployment Positive Aspects of Deployment Deployment Goals

Activity: What I Like About You

Emotional Cycle of Deployment Stage 1 Anticipation of Departure Stage 1 Anticipation of Departure Stage 2 Detachment and Withdrawal Stage 2 Detachment and Withdrawal Stage 3 Emotional Disorganization Stage 3 Emotional Disorganization Stage 4 Recovery and Stabilization Stage 4 Recovery and Stabilization Stage 5 Anticipation of Return Stage 5 Anticipation of Return Stage 6 Return and Renegotiation Stage 6 Return and Renegotiation Stage 7 Reintegration and Stabilization Stage 7 Reintegration and Stabilization T HE C YCLE OF D EPLOYMENT

Activity: What Would You Do? Sit back-to-back Pick the most likely response for Do not share your answers Your spouse You

Stage 1: Anticipation of Departure Rising tension Confusing emotions 4 to 6 weeks

Protecting self from separation Reality sinks in Sadness or anger occurs Final days before deployment Stage 2: Detachment and Withdrawal

Stage 3: Emotional Disorganization Adjusting to new routines Adjusting to being alone Day of to 6 weeks

Stage 1: Anticipation of Departure Service member Physically drained Emotionally numb or tired Mentally separating Guilt Family Physically drained Emotionally numb or tired Mentally separating Anger, resentment Denial

Discuss your concerns Be honest Express your love Respect each other Mutual Trust

Service member Ready to get started Guilt for leaving Sad or lonely Excited to perform Worried Family Overwhelmed or tired Hurt, rejection Sad or lonely Nervous about responsibilities Worried Stage 2: Detachment and Withdrawal

Open Communication Determine methods Discuss expectations Address change Express feelings Ship’s communication

Service member Relief followed by guilt Mission-focused Sad or lonely Worried Can get stuck Family Disorganized and unfocused Overwhelmed Emptiness, loss Worried Can get stuck Stage 3: Emotional Disorganization

Positive Aspects of Deployment Helps you sleep better Builds self-esteem Reduces anxiety Improves health/well-being Enhances empathy Strengthens relationship Increases mental strength

Relationship Goals Communication Intimacy Trust Appreciation Fun Financial Spirituality

Personal Goals Education Career Health Hobby Spirituality Social Support

Self-Care and Couples Care Take care of yourself Get involved Establish support network Set goals Communicate

Activity: The Pass Down

Deployment Readiness Workshops Children and Deployment General Pre- Deployment Brief Date: Time: Location: Date: Time: Location:

Financial Planning Workshops Upcoming workshops: Date: xxxxx Time: xxxxx Location:xxxxx

Characteristics of Successful Deployments Prepare Positive Attitude Friends TrustCommunicate Involved Fun Goals De-stress Help

Thank You! FFSC location Phone number Website Social media sites