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What is consent?  consent is about communication.  Consent is an agreement between participants to engage in sexual activity. There are many ways to give consent, and some of those are discussed below. Consent doesn’t have to be verbal, but verbally agreeing to different sexual activities can help both you and your partner respect each other’s boundaries.

What is sexual assault?  Sexual assault is a crime of power and control. The term sexual assault refers to sexual contact or behavior that occurs without explicit consent of the victim. Some forms of sexual assault include:  Penetration of the victim’s body, also known as rape  Attempted rape  Forcing a victim to perform sexual acts, such as oral sex or penetrating the perpetrator’s body  Fondling or unwanted sexual touching

What is Rape? RAPE – forced sexual intercourse. “force” can be physical, psychological; or having sex with a person who is unconscious or incapacitated for ANY reason including the influence of drugs or alcohol. This includes deliberately intoxicating someone in order to have sex with them is wrong. Consent HAS TO BE sober consent.

Things in common to all types of sexual abuse:  Individual is violated  Boundaries broken  Person feels victimized/powerless  Person can go into shock/denial/repression *

Society may say…  There is a STIGMA – been ‘touched’; not clean; no longer a virgin Keep Quiet  If she presses charges, has to re-live details when testifying.

If …  We assume someone that wearing certain clothes, flirting, or kissing is an invitation for anything more  Someone being incapacitated because of drugs or alcohol  Assuming you have permission to engage in a sexual act because you’ve done it in the past

Who are the perpetrators?  The majority of perpetrators are someone known to the victim. Approximately 4 out of 5 of sexual assaults are committed by someone known to the victim, such as in the case of intimate partner sexual violence or acquaintance rape.4 out of 5 of sexual assaults of intimate partner sexual violence

 The term “date rape” is sometimes used to to refer to acquaintance rape. Perpetrators of acquaintance rape might be a date, but they could also be a classmate, a neighbor, a friend’s significant other, or any number of different roles. It’s important to remember that dating, instances of past intimacy, or other acts like kissing do not give someone consent for increased or continued sexual contact.  In other instances the victim may not know the perpetrator at all. This type of sexual violence is sometimes referred to as stranger rape

Unhealed/ Un -dealt with  Opposites ends of the spectrum Promiscuity Repression

H ow to Respond if Someone Is Pressuring You  Have a co Remind yourself this isn’t your fault.  Trust your gut.  Develop a code with friends or family that means “I’m uncomfortable” or “I need help.” It could be a series of numbers you can text, like “311.” It might be a phrase you say out loud such as, “I wish we took more vacations.” This way you can communicate your concern and get help without alerting the person who is pressuring you.

How can men who do not intend to rape protect themselves from: …false accusations of rape? …“unintentionally” raping?