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DOORWAYS TO CHANGE: LA CULTURA CURA DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY DOORWAYS TO CHANGE: LA CULTURA CURA FERNANDO MEDEROS ALIANZA & MASSACHUSETTS DEPARTMENT OF SOCIAL SERVICES NOVEMBER 2006 FERNANDO MEDEROS

WHAT HAVE WE TRIED WITH MEN WHO BATTER? DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY WHAT HAVE WE TRIED WITH MEN WHO BATTER? THE CRIMINAL JUSTICE SYSTEM: PROTECTIVE/RESTRAINING ORDERS ARREST, INCARCERATION BATTERER INTERVENTION PROGRAMS WHILE ON PROBATION (DIDACTIC) CHILD PROTECTION SERVICES: REMOVAL OF MAN OR CHILDREN FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY MINDSET? ANGER, DESIRE TO RETALIATE; READY TO BLAME HER FOR EVERYTHING WILL USE CULTURE OR HER BEHAVIOR AS AN EXCUSE SOME REGRETS & GUILT (NOT ALL MEN FEEL REGRETS—MANY DO) FEARFUL ABOUT COURT INVOLVEMENT & CPS--AFRAID OF CAUSING REMOVAL OF CHILDREN OR DEPORTATION (IMMIGRANTS) FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY MINDSET… THEY EXPECT TO BE VIEWED AS MONSTERS, CRAZY, CRIMINALS OR SICK PERSON, “JERK”: THAT’S VIEW IN MOST COMMUNITIES VERY DEFENSIVE ABOUT ANYBODY TALKING TO THEM: “IT’S MY BUSINESS” EASILY ESCALATED THROUGH DIRECT CONFRONTATION: FAMILY PAYS FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY RESULT OF MINDSET DEFENSIVEAGGRESSIVE POSTURE VARIED, CONTRADICTORY REACTIONS DEFENSIVE & CHALLENGING OPPOSITIONAL & INTIMIDATING SUPERFICIAL COMPLIANCE, MAYBE CHARMING WHEN INTIMIDATED (AGREE TO THINGS THEY DON’T UNDERSTAND), LOOKING FOR LOOPHOLES FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY MULTI-LEVEL RESPONSE EXTERNAL MOTIVATORS: CONSEQUENCES ESSENTIAL FOR VERY DANGEROUS & RESISTANT CRUCIAL FOR OTHERS ARREST, JAIL, PROBATION CONDITIONS, MONITORING INTERNAL MOTIVATORS RESPECT EDUCATION  IMPACTS POSITIVE VISIONS  CULT, FATHERHOOD SKILL (MAINTAINER) INCREASE STAKE IN CONFORMITY FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY DOORWAYS TO CHANGE HOW CAN WE ENTER THIS WORLD WITHOUT ANTAGONIZING THE MEN? (INCREASING RISK OR CAUSING RETALIATION AGAINST HER) HOW CAN WE REACH THEM AND INSPIRE THEM? WHAT AVENUES CAN WE PURSUE? FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY THE HOW SAFETY: YOURS, PARTNERS’ & CHILDREN’S RESPECT SHOW INTEREST: LISTENING WITHOUT AGREEMENT AVOID DEBATE—NO DOMINANCE STRUGGLE DON’T LABEL THE PERSON, FOCUS ON THE BEHAVIOR FERNANDO MEDEROS

FIRST AVENUE: USING CULTURE DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY FIRST AVENUE: USING CULTURE IT IS EASIER TO CHANGE IF YOU HELP SOMEONE TO MOVE TOWARD SOMETHING THEY KNOW AND LOVE FERNANDO MEDEROS

FIRST AVENUE: USING CULTURE DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY FIRST AVENUE: USING CULTURE UNDERSTAND BOTH: CULTURAL VALUES AND MODELS THAT ENABLE OR MODEL OPPRESSIVE RELATIONSHIPS AND POSITIVE CULTURAL VALUES AND MODELS THAT SUPPORT FUNCTIONAL AND RESPECTFUL RELATIONSHIPS USE POSITIVE CULTURAL VALUES TO INSPIRE CHANGE FERNANDO MEDEROS

FIRST AVENUE: USING CULTURE DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY FIRST AVENUE: USING CULTURE UNDERSTAND ASPECTS OF MANHOOD & MASCULINITY THAT ARE POSITIVE, USE THEM TO PROMOTE CHANGE. MAKE STATEMENTS THAT EVOKE THEM USE FATHERHOOD AS A CORE VALUE MOST MEN HAVE POSITIVE IDEALS OF FATHERHOOD FERNANDO MEDEROS

LATINOS: CULTURALLY BASED CHANGE DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY LATINOS: CULTURALLY BASED CHANGE FUNDAMENTAL VALUES RESPETO MACHISMO:CONTRADICTORY IDEALS ORGULLO -- PRIDE COMPADRAZGO DAR BUEN EJEMPLO – GOOD EXAMPLE FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY RESPETO: 2 POLES MAN DESERVES RESPECT BECAUSE HE IS THE MAN RESPECT BASED ON AUTHORITY AND HIERARCHY DOES NOT HAVE TO BE EARNED RESPECT EQUALS DEFERENCE MAN MUST EARN RESPECT:FULFILL OBLIGATIONS BE A GOOD PROVIDER, MEET OBLIGATIONS, GIVE GOOD EXAMPLE, RESPECT OTHERS HAY QUE DARLE SU LUGAR A LA MUJER ‘HAVE TO RESPECT HER’ FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY MACHISMO THE MAN AS “BOSS”, PROVIDER, SEXUAL ADVENTURER. ORDERS WIFE. JEALOUS. MAINTAINS SEPARATE SPHERE WITH PEERS. THE MAN WHO MEETS OBLIGATIONS, “RECOGIDO” “CASERO.” TREATS WIFE MORE AS PARTNER. EARNS RESPECT W/EXTENDED FAMILY. FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY ORGULLO—PRIDE SENSE OF SELF-ESTEEM IN PUBLIC LIFE: VERY CENTRAL VERY HARD TO ADMIT FAULT FOR MEN: LOSS OF FACE CAN BE TIED TO MACHISMO OR TO THE CAPABLE MAN, (EL HOMBRE CAPAZ, EL HOMBRE EJEMPLAR, EL BUEN HOMBRE, EL HOMBRE RESPONSABLE ETC.) FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY COMPADRAZGO SPECIAL, INTIMATE, RELATIONSHIP WITH SAME SEX PEER OR ELDER SHARE SELF, RECEIVE ADVICE ACTS AS PROTECTIVE FACTOR— DE-ESCALATION & PROVIDER OF CONTACTS AND RESOURCES FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY SAMPLE STATEMENTS SI LE PEGAS, DAÑAS A LA FAMILIA ENTERA IF YOU HIT HER, YOU HURT YOUR WHOLE FAMILY PARA GANARSE EL RESPETO, HAY QUE SABER RESPETAR. ESTA EN TUS MANOS. TO WIN RESPECT, YOU MUST PROVIDE RESPECT. IT’S IN YOUR HANDS. FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY SAMPLE STATEMENTS EL HOMBRE SE DA A CONOCER A TRAVÉS DE SU BUENA CONDUCTA Y DE SUS ACCIONES. A MAN BECOMES KNOWN THROUGH HIS GOOD BEHAVIOR AND THROUGH HIS DEEDS. EL HOMBRE SE GANA EL RESPETO Y LA CONFIANZA DE SU PAREJA Y DE SUS HIJOS. A TRUE MAN WINS THE RESPECT OF HIS PARTNER AND HIS CHILDREN. FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY SAMPLE STATEMENTS EL HOMBRE DE VERDAD RESUELVE PROBLEMAS, NO LOS CREA... THE TRUE MAN SOLVES PROBLEMS, HE DOESN’T MAKE PROBLEMS. EL HOMBRE DE VERDAD APRENDE A COOPERAR EN VEZ DE DOMINAR... THE TRUE MAN LEARNS TO COOPERATE/COLLABORATE, NOT TO DOMINATE. FERNANDO MEDEROS

SECOND AVENUE: USING FATHERHOOD DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY SECOND AVENUE: USING FATHERHOOD FATHERHOOD IS A POWERFUL IDEAL FOR MANY MEN. THEY WANT TO BE REMEMBERED IN A GOOD WAY; THEY WANT TO DO SOMETHING GOOD, EVEN IF THEY DON’T KNOW HOW. DOORWAYS: TALK ABOUT EFFECTS OF VIOLENCE AGAINST PARTNER ON CHILDREN TALK ABOUT EFFECTS OF VIOLENCE ON FAMILY EDUCATION ABOUT IMPACT OF VIOLENCE FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY USING FATHERHOOD TALK ABOUT EFFECTS ON CHILDREN: AUNQUE NO SEAS EL PADRE, ESTA EN TUS MANOS DAR EL BUEN EJEMPLO. IT’S UP TO YOU TO GIVE A GOOD EXAMPLE EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT THE FATHER EL PADRE ILUMINA EL CAMINO PARA LOS HIJOS. LO QUE TU HACES CUENTA MUCHO. THE FATHER LIGHTS THE WAY FOR THE CHILDREN. WHAT YOU DO COUNTS A LOT. EL DOLOR DURA EN EL CORAZON. PAIN STAYS IN THE HEART FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY FATHERHOOD DAR BUEN EJEMPLO: TU CONDUCTA ES UN EJEMPLO EN TODO LO QUE HACES. NO SON LAS PALABRAS SINO LAS ACCIONES LAS QUE CUENTAN. YOU ARE AN EXAMPLE FOR THEM IN ALL THAT YOU DO. WHAT YOU DO IS WHAT REALLY MATTERS. CUANDO LE PEGAS A ELLA ES COMO SI LES PEGARAS A LOS NIÑOS “WHEN YOU HURT YOUR PARTNER, YOU HURT YOUR CHILDREN” FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY FATHERHOOD DAR BUEN EJEMPLO: SE QUE QUIERES SER BUEN PADRE. I KNOW YOU WANT TO BE A GOOD FATHER. AUNQUE NO LO CREAS, TUS HIJOS LLEVARAN RECUERDOS DE TU CONDUCTA PARA SIEMPRE. EVEN IF YOU DO NOT BELIEVE IT, YOUR CHILDREN WILL CARRY WHAT YOU DO FOREVER. FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY FATHERHOOD TALK ABOUT THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN RESPECT AND FEAR. IF YOU BASE YOUR DISCIPLINE ON FEAR, YOU WILL TEACH THEM TO FEAR YOU AND RESENT YOU. IF YOU BASE YOUR DISCIPLINE ON BEING CLEAR ABOUT LIMITS, REASONING WITH KIDS, CONSISTENCY AND FIRMNESS, YOU TEACH THEM FAIRNESS AND GIVE A GOOD EXAMPLE. FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY FATHERHOOD EL HOMBRE SE DA A RESPETAR CON BUEN EJEMPLO, CON PACIENCIA, CON CLARIDAD Y CON AMOR. EL HOMBRE PACIENTE SABE RAZONAR CON LOS HIJOS. TAMBIEN ES RAZONABLE EN LO QUE LE EXIGE A SUS HIJOS. A MAN EARNS RESPECT WITH GOOD EXAMPLE, WITH PATIENCE AND THROUGH CLARITY AND LOVE. THE PATIENT MAN KNOWS HOW TO REASON WITH HIS CHILDREN. HE IS ALSO REASONABLE IN WHAT HE EXPECTS THEM TO DO. FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY FATHERHOOD SI NO RESPETAS A TU PAREJA, DAÑAS A TODA LA FAMILIA. IF YOU DO NOT SHOW RESPECT FOR THEIR MOTHER, YOU HURT THEM AND WEAKEN YOUR FAMILY. TALK ABOUT HOW TO SHOW RESPECT EVEN WHEN YOU DISAGREE SI LE FALTAS EL RESPETO Y DESTRUYES SU CAPACIDAD DE MANTENER DISCIPLINA CON LOS NIÑOS, TAMBIÉN DESTRUYES LA CAPACIDAD DE RESPETAR EN LOS NIÑOS. IF YOU DISRESPECT HER AND UNDERMINE HER DISCIPLINE, YOU DESTROY THE KIDS’ CAPACITY TO RESPECT ADULTS FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY LATINOS LEVELS OF DVNOT DIFFERENT FROM MAINSTREAM FAMILIES GET MARRIED YOUNGER MORE CHILDREN WORK ORIENTATION & EMPLOYMENT SUBSTANCE ABUSE: EPISODIC, BINGE ON WEEKENDSDRIVE UNDER INFLUENCE, ACCIDENTS FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY LATINOS SUBSTANCE ABUSE: EPISODIC, BINGE ON WEEKENDSDRIVE UNDER INFLUENCE, ACCIDENTS 1ST GENERATION VS. 2ND GENERATION IMMIGRATION: A 2-WAY STREET & VULNERABILITY OPPRESSION, RACISM, TRAUMA, EXPOSURE TO VIOLENCE, POVERTY, UNDEREMPLOYMENT, LOW ED LEVELS. FERNANDO MEDEROS

DSS SYMPOSIUM WORKSHOP: SAFETY LA CULTURA CURA THE BAD RAP: MAINSTREAM AMERICAN BATTERERS ARE DEVIANTS, BUT “THEIRS” ARE IN THEIR CULTURAL MAINSTREAM ALL CULTURES HAVE ELEMENTS THAT OPEN THE DOOR TO OPPRESSIVE MALE RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN & ALL CULTURES HAVE ELEMENTS THAT ARE PROTECTIVE & MODEL RESPECTFUL, NON-COERCIVE RELATIONSHIPS FERNANDO MEDEROS

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