J ANUARY 5, 2016 Entry Task How can you tell if you are in love or just infatuated? Target for Today Identify and analyze the predictors of a successful relationship.

M RS. R ODDAN !

W HAT IS I NFATUATION ? INFATUATION Happens suddenly Under one circumstance Know only a few character traits Self centered LOVE Love grows over time Known under many circumstances Learn all characteristics of the person Other person centered

W HAT IS I NFATUATION ? More than one person Problems are glossed over May be based only on physical attraction Doesn’t want to wait for anything May end suddenly Seen as deprivation Only for one person Face problems and try to solve them Physical attraction is a small part Endures Can wait for marriage

S EVEN P REDICTORS OF A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP 1. Dating for at least one year 2. Financial stability a. Able to set up a household b. Having full time employment for a minimum of six months

S EVEN P REDICTORS OF A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP 3. Personal stability a. No alcohol or drug abuse b. No jail record or on parole 4. Parental approval a. Two sides- which to choose?

S EVEN P REDICTORS OF A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP 5. Similar attitudes about birth control and children 6. Similar life goals, religious, and ethnic backgrounds

S EVEN P REDICTORS OF A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP 7. Ability to communicate feelings and ideas and the ability to make mutual decisions. Able to solve problems.

S EVEN P REDICTORS OF A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP 1. Dating for at least one year 2. Financial stability 3. Personal stability 4. Parental approval 5. Similar attitudes about birth control and children 6. Similar life goals, religious, and ethnic backgrounds 7. Ability to communicate

D ANGER SIGNS OF I MPROPER D ATING R ELATIONSHIPS 1. When we value our date’s opinion more than the opinions of our parents or older, wiser friends (i.e. friends, parents, pastors, teacher you respect) 2. When our Personal Standards are laid aside while in the presence of our date 3. When we cease wanting to be with others and want to be exclusively with our date all of the time

D ANGER SIGNS OF I MPROPER D ATING R ELATIONSHIPS, CONT. 4. When we habitually date people much older than ourselves 5. When we attempt to justify the lowering of our sexual standards

F ACTS Breakups are harder on men #1 reason for male suicides Communication is #1 reason for divorce Divorce rate for first marriages in America are 41% Men and women are different Why

H ERE ’ S W HY Men mask their pain, women deal with it right away and get over it. Research indicates that men depend on romantic relationships for emotional intimacy and social support, whereas women are more likely to turn to family and female friends to satisfy those needs. Men hate starting over to get and they miss the comfort of a loved one. Women often take care of men

K EY C ONCEPTS FOR THE DAY ! List the differences between love and infatuation and list as many predictors of a successful relationship that you can remember. After two minutes, share your responses with a partner and “complete” your list.