Parenting Train up a child in the way he should go ….(Proverbs)

By Dorothy Law Nolte

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive. If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves. If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy. If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy. If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty. If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence. If children live with tolerance, they learn patience. If children live with praise, they learn appreciation. If children live with acceptance, they learn to love. If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves. If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal. If children live with sharing,they learn generosity. If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness. If children live with fairness, they learn justice. If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect. If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them. If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Love and Logic - Jim Fay, Foster Cline, and Charles Fay Four Steps to Responsibility  Step One: Give the child a task he/she can handle.  For best results, have the child describe, in his/her own words, how things will look when the task is finished.  Step Two: Hope that the child “blows” it  This provides opportunities for the child to have a “real world” learning experience. This reduces the temptation for reminders. If the child can have a learning lesson today, it will be the most inexpensive lesson possible. The cost of learning about the real world goes up as time goes on.

 Step Three: Let equal parts of empathy and consequence do the teaching.  Deliver a strong dose of empathy, BEFORE delivering the consequence or the “bad news”.  Children need to learn that their mistakes hurt them. This does not happen when the adult gets angry.  Empathy or sorrow reduces the chance that the child will spend time thinking about the adult’s anger. The child’s attention should be on his/her own life and decisions, instead of upon the adult’s anger.  Step Four: Give the same task again.

 Step 4: Give the same task again.  This sends the unstated message that people learn from their mistakes.

A baby is God’s opinion that the world should go on. Carl Sandburg Home is the place where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in. Robert Frost Presented by: Bobbi Mason