BUILDING THE HOME A Series of Lessons

BUILDING THE HOME Consult the Architect

Introduction  Home and family are in serious decline  Marriages are falling apart  Difference in “home” and “house”  Use analogy of building a house, apply to home  What if your house burned to the ground?  Lose – THINGS  Still have home, family, memories, character  Today – 3 Demands of the Architect

Text – Genesis 2: And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. 23 And Adam said: "This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; he shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man." 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

SEVERANCE  LEAVE FATHER AND MOTHER  Cut the cord with parents  Parents – cut the apron strings  Children – no longer dependent  Love, respect, honor, seek advice  At wedding – father “gives away” the bride

SEVERANCE  LEAVE FATHER AND MOTHER  How old is she, Billy Boy, Billy Boy?  How old is she charming Billy?  Three times six and four times seven  Twenty-eight and eleven.  She's a young thing and cannot leave her mother.  NOTE: She is 85 years old.

SEVERANCE  LEAVE FATHER AND MOTHER  Problems will arise in every relationship  DON'T call your parents  CALL your spouse  In argument some say, “Do what I want or I will go home to mama.”

PERMANENCE  JOINED TO HIS WIFE  KJV - “cleave”  Cleave = bound, glued, stick together  Greek word – means “to glue”, join together  Winston Churchill - “Wars are not won by evacuation.”

UNITY  BECOME ONE  Not instant – Work at it, learn to become one  Blend your:  Temperaments  Gifts  Habits  Backgrounds  Values

UNITY  BECOME ONE  Unity is not a duplicate, a clone  Uniformity = donut machine, assembly line  Unity = 2 people who blend into each other

The Floor Plan  Proverbs 24:3-4  3 Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established;  4 By knowledge the rooms are filled With all precious and pleasant riches.

The Floor Plan  BUILT WITH WISDOM  Built –  To construct, repair, assemble, put together  Building takes time and energy  Wisdom –  Seeing with discernment  Use your “common sense”

The Floor Plan  BUILT WITH WISDOM  ESTABLISHED WITH UNDERSTANDING  Establish –  To erect, put upright position  Set the foundation and build from there  Understanding –  Responding with insight  Seek to understand each other

The Floor Plan  BUILT WITH WISDOM  ESTABLISHED WITH UNDERSTANDING  FILLED WITH KNOWLEDGE  Filled –  Overflowing  More than just “getting by”  Knowledge –  Learning with perception

Final Thought Charlie Shedd, author “Marriage... is not so much finding the right person as it is being the right person.”