Personal Leadership: Leading Yourself Before You Lead Others Developed and delivered for: Jan Dwyer Bang, MBA, CSP April 15, 2015

After attending this workshop, you will be able to: Discover how personal leadership is essential for success in today’s work world Identify ways to implement personal leadership principles at JLO and in your life Develop practical next steps in your ongoing leadership journey

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Challenges with Personal Leadership Not feeling I understand all the moving parts that make up the JLO organization as a whole I worry about how decisions I make will be perceived by my peers and that I want to be my best always, to everyone Sometimes I feel criticized or annoyed when presented with a suggestion Less effective when presenting before an audience (2)

Challenges with Personal Leadership I often prioritize my professional and family life over my health Being heard/I am easily frustrated when my voice has not been heard I often get frustrated with those who don’t listen (verbal instructions or in ) – I am trying to figure out how to communicate better so others will listen As a leader in a volunteer organization hard to hold people accountable Staying focused on priorities and understanding the intentions vs. impacts of each activity on the priorities

Challenges with Personal Leadership I feel like “herding cats” I need help with knowing how to work through conflict in a group setting I don’t recognize aspects of myself that others admire Giving grace to myself – if I make a mistake or get behind – I don’t always give myself the grace I need to admit it, pick it up, and move forward again Having patience Delegation: Hard time delegating vs. doing things myself Delegation: Providing the right mix of support and hands off! Keeping the flow of the group stable while still delegating tasks

What do you think of when you hear the word “personal leadership?”

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” -Alice Walker

From 17 of the Most Inspirational Women Quotes turned into Art /

Activity Someone you Admire as a Leader

What do you think really made this person successful?

From 17 of the Most Inspirational Women Quotes turned into Art

Hannah McDonald Breezie O’Neil Maryann McIntosh Teresa Gliddon Lisa Bishop Kelly Hackney Stacy Johnson Richelle Geiger Melissa Otterman Role Models in JLO

Mary Ferris Stacy Choczynskwi Liz Davis Candace Jacobs Amy Jackson Deirdre Matt Kim Schmanke Robbie Kesler Linda Kleingartner Role Models in JLO

Holly Mason Jennifer Forster Fumiko Ueda Wendy Tanner Role Models in JLO

Qualities Diplomatic Fair Engaging Welcoming Always keeping open communication with their committee members Boldness Creativity Resilience Powerful communicator Innovative

Qualities Forward Thinking Insightful Poised Servant Leader Humility Generates a culture of trust, growth and believing in possibilities! Can identify strengths within individuals and building effective teams

Qualities “Is this the best practice?” “Are we following protocol?” “Are we considering everyone in our decisions? Challenges me to think deeper & play by the rules Organized and thoughtful about the big picture and details Developing talents of our group Leading by example Relentless pursuit of excellence for our kids in our community and focus on mission

Qualities Calm and collected Optimistic Always seems confident that we will be successful Speaks with passion Caring and charismatic Long history with the organization Articulate speaker Understanding community contexts History with non profits Extreme enthusiasm Follow through

Qualities Honesty, personal approach Ability to think creatively to serve our community partners Appreciation for all the League has provided her in leadership development Fun Has creative ideas Work well with a team Know how to delegate Boost confidence in other members Commitment to providing that for other League members

Listens Passionate Good communicator Inclusive of others Inspirational Motivating Positive Personable Qualities of Effective Leaders

“We are being judged by a new yardstick: not just how smart we are, or by our training and expertise, but also by how well we handle ourselves and each other.” -Daniel Goleman, Working with Emotional Intelligence

Primal Leadership In any group, the leader has the most power to sway a group’s emotions.  When leaders drive emotions positively, they can bring out the best in people. (Resonance).  When leaders drive emotional negatively, they can alter the “mood” of the team negatively (Dissonance).

Leadership Self Assessments In your Appendix

Mary Harriman, Founder of the Junior League

Personal Leadership 1.Firmness of Purpose 2.A willingness to serve others 3.A strong sense of self-discipline, integrity, and perseverance 4.An optimistic outlook 5.The ability to forge partnerships

Behaviors QualitiesBehaviors Firmness of purpose “Purpose has to do with defining the kind of culture we live in.” -Peter Block What is your mission in life? Are you operating out of a sense of mission or purpose? Are you living aligned with your mission or purpose?

Behaviors QualitiesBehaviors/Attitudes/Tools Willingness to serve others “Without community service, we would not have a strong quality of life. It’s important to the person who serves as well as the recipient. It’s the way we ourselves grow and develop.” -Dorothy Height Look at others and ask them “How can I serve you?” If you are a leader, give power away Reward others

Behaviors QualitiesBehaviors Self-discipline, integrity, and perseverance “Leaders always find a way to make things happen.” – John Maxwell “Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.” -Oprah Winfrey Use self-control at work Make and keep promises Be committed to the goals Be accountable

QualitiesBehaviors/Attitudes/Tools An Optimistic Outlook “If you think your people are negative, then you better check your attitude.” -John Maxwell View failures or setbacks as opportunities Choose your attitude every day Behaviors

QualitiesBehaviors Ability to forge partnerships “Intense love does not measure, it just gives.” - Mother Teresa “Partnership is the ability to give more choice to the people we choose to serve” – Peter Block Treat every one as equals Each person is responsible for the work, as well as his or her own morale, learning, and career Serve as a servant leader See your role as a mentor

Action Planning What are your next steps in your ongoing leadership journey?

After attending this workshop, you will be able to: Discover how personal leadership is essential for success in today’s work world Identify ways to implement personal leadership principles at JLO and in your life Develop practical next steps in your ongoing leadership journey