Parenting Styles

Assignment As you watch the video clip, write down the characteristics of the parents you see for the movies below. Watch for tone of voice, word choice, facial expressions, and body language. Sound of MusicMrs. Doubtfire American President

Vocabulary Democratic Permissive Autocratic Authority Figure Physical Punishment Positive Discipline Age Appropriate

AUTORITARIAN PARENTING Believe that : Children should obey them no matter what. Rules are very important Punishment often is harsh and may include physical punishment, such as hitting/spanking

Characteristics of Authoritarian Style *STRICT *EXCESSIVE CONTROL *ORDER WITHOUT FREEDOM *NO CHOICES “You will do it because I say so!”

Child with Authoritarian Parents LEARNS:  DO AS PEOPLE TELL YOU  PARENTS ARE IN CONTROL & HAVE POWER  I HAVE NO POWER

Child raised by Authoritarian style SELF CONCEPT:  LOW SELF ESTEEM  BROKEN SPIRIT  GIVES UP OR REBELS DECISION-MAKING:  LACKS ABILITY to make decicions  SOMEONE ELSE MAKES DECISIONS

Continued PEER RELATIONS: SHY WITHDRAW FOLLOWER MEAN OR AGGRESSIVE

DEMOCRATIC PARENTING Emphasizes the development of the child as an individual Age-appropriate limits are used To minimize conflict the parents will create an environment to match the child’s development and needs

Democratic Parenting FREEDOM WITH ORDER CHILD IS GIVEN LIMITED CHOICES POSITIVE DISCIPLINE = firmness with dignity and respect “You can choose within limits that show respect for all.”

DEMOCRATIC LEARNS WE CAN WORK TOGETHER RESPECT FOR SELF, OTHERS AND PARENTS SELF CONCEPT:CONFIDENT SECURE HIGH SELF ESTEEM DECISION-MAKING:GOOD NEGOTIATORCOMPROMISESRESPONSIBLEPEE R WELLLOYALLEADER RELATIONS:SHARE

Child with democratic parents will become DECISION-MAKING: GOOD NEGOTIATOR COMPROMISES RESPONSIBLE PEER RELATIONS SHARES WELL LOYAL LEADER

PERMISSIVE PARENTING Parents do not wish to be viewed as an authority figure Attempt to reason with the child to get cooperation Use natural consequences to shape behavior

PERMISSIVE STYLE FREEDOM WITHOUT LIMITS LITTLE RESPECT FOR ORDER OR ROUTINE UNLIMITED CHOICES FOR CHILD “You can do anything you want.”

Child with Permissive parents LEARNS:NO BOUNDARIES NO RESPECT FOR OTHERS “SPOILED”I GET MY WAY! SELF CONCEPT: LOW SELF ESTEEM MAY FEEL UNLOVED INSECURE OR HIGH ESTEEM and INDEPENDENT

Child with Permissive parents DECISION MAKING SKILLS: MAY MAKE POOR CHOICES DISRESPECT FOR OTHERS OPINIONS OR FORCES THEIR DECISIONS ON OTHERS

Child with Permissive Parents PEER RELATIONS: STINGY BOSSY MEAN FEEL BETTER THAN OTHERS SELFISH