Parenting the “Net Generation.” What makes our kids “click”? Brentwood Preschool November 19, 2013,

What do we want for our kids? Love and Care Security Safety Health Emotional wellness Healthy Esteem Confidence Social Skills Happiness Success Freedom Citizenship Integrity Education Social Responsibility

Some Questions… How many of you have a personal profile online? (Facebook? MySpace? Twitter? Other?) Who here engages in IM? Texting? Chatting Online? How many of you have an iPod/iPad/iPhone? Smart Phone? Tablet ? Who plays video/computer/app games?

Learning Intentions To gain a better understanding of our children and their needs. To examine our children’s use of technology. To increase our awareness of the potential dangers and challenges around technology use. To provide you support and resources to better understand these issues. To encourage practical, proactive strategies to support your children around healthy technology use.

Some questions we will address tonight… Why does it matter… … where your computers are located in your home? … if you place limits on your Children’s technology use? Screen time? … if you have had a conversation with your child about Internet Safety and/or Cyber- bullying? …if you create and adopt family expectations for your children around technology use?

Remember When… Life was a lot simpler when we were kids… Right???

For our children… They have never not known the Internet Information is free Communication is seamless They are wireless, yet always connected The 4 th Screen

They are Terminators - fully integrated beings “Google” has always been a verb Text messaging is their e- mail They have rarely mailed anything using a stamp

What are their needs? Even though the world has changed dramatically, our kids “needs” remain the same.

Why do they go online/use technology? What needs does it meet? Fun Independence Communication Connection Adventure Creation Sense of Belonging Risk Being heard Identity

The Places They Go?

THE CHALLENGES THEY FACE… Bullying Privacy issues Health problems (Obesity) Addiction Scams Identity Theft Abuse Abduction

What “WE” want for our children…with technology SafetyBalanceHealthy screen time Digital LiteracyDigital Responsibility Positive Social Networking …but how do we get there?

Generating expectations ( Proactive) Having the conversations and empower ownership Using prompts ( Examples - YouTube videos, case-based scenarios, teachable moments ) Establishing a response “plan” ( Reactive ) Being available to “support not punish” Preserving your relationship and attachment with your child WE Parent by … WE Parent by … UT UT

And…MODEL! Do we want this… Or this…

Be Involved and connected… Get online… Communicate… Share… Interact… Play games… Watch… Create… Engage……WITHTHEM!

Contact information and Resources Dave Sands or Site Google: Connect and Protect wiki This is only the beginning…

Homework… 1.Visit my Wiki page and look at 3 different articles/videos. 2.Go online and establish 3 new accounts on web 2.0 tools (e.g. Facebook, Club Penguin, MSN, Youtube, ePets, Twitter, WebKins, etc.). 3.Talk to your child/ren about one or more of these tools.

Flow Theory - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi SKILLS CHALLENGES Apathy Worry Anxiety Arousal FLOW Control Relaxation Boredom