Bully Prevention: Part III What to do about Gossiping… Let’s put an end to bullying now!

Current Expectations- for review

Review of Lesson One Say “STOP” and use the hand signal If that doesn’t work, “WALK” away If that doesn’t work, “TALK” to an adult

Student Matrix- review Respecting Others

What do the expectations have to do with gossiping? Being Respectful means saying only nice things about other students Being Kind means encouraging others and making them feel good even when they are not present

What do the expectations have to do with gossiping? That means NOT: ◦ Telling a negative story about someone else, regardless of whether or not it is true ◦ Sharing secrets that someone told you ◦ Blaming negative behavior on someone else

Review the Social Responsibility Skills (Stop/Walk/Talk) Say “STOP” and use the hand signal If that doesn’t work, “WALK” away If that doesn’t work, “TALK” to an adult

Think, Pair, Share How can Stop/Walk/Talk be used when someone says something disrespectful about another student? Often, the target of gossip will not hear the negative remark, so it is important for others that DO hear the remark to say “STOP” Sometimes this means saying stop to your friends, which can be very difficult

Practice Time (5 minutes) Your teacher will divide you up into groups of 2 Practice using the “STOP” signal with each other when the other person says something unkind or disrespectful about another person (DO NOT USE ANYONE’S REAL NAME, for example, you could use the names of the Snow White 7 dwarfs) Possible scenarios to act out: ◦ Student A says something about Sneezy’s hair ◦ Student B says something rude about Doc’s shoes

Practice Time (Part II, 5 minutes) Bring the class back together and discuss questions and comments that arose during practice Now we need groups of 3 (one cafeteria supervisor, one instigator of gossip, and one bystander) ◦ Instruct the students to practice the entire Stop/Walk/Talk sequence to be used with gossip, how to reply when someone uses the “stop” signal with you, and how adults will respond to reports of gossip (on next 2 pages)

Responding to “Stop, Walk, Talk” If you are doing something and someone uses “stop”, “walk”, or “talk” your response should be: ◦ 1. Stop what you are doing ◦ 2. Take a deep breath and count to 3 ◦ 3.Go on with your day

ADULT RESPONSES When you report a problem to an adult, they will: 1.Thank you for coming to talk to them 2.Ask you what the problem is 3.Ask if you said “stop” 4.Ask if you “walked away” calmly 5.Practice Stop/Walk/Talk with you if needed

STOP – WALK – TALK Method Review Dipsticking: How should you respond in situations that involve gossiping? Reward students displaying active participation and Appropriate behavior (Bulldog Bucks?)