Conflict Resolution Craig Fuller Matt Moody

Conflict? A disagreement between two or more people. A conflict can occur among friends, family members, co-workers, students, countries, and acquaintances. Words associated with Conflict: WarFight Difference of Opinion ClashArgument

Many Reasons for Conflicts  Dishonesty  Violation of Trust  Poor Communication  Unfair treatment  Disloyalty  Unavailability  Can you think of anymore?

Conflict Resolution Strategies  Giving In – one person yields to the other person’s wishes  Walking Away either physically or psychologically  Doing nothing- both sides ignore the problem  Fighting dirty – lying, manipulation, threatening, blaming, name calling  Constructive problem solving

Conflict Resolution Process  Ways to responsibly settle a dispute 3 Primary Conflict Resolution Processes 1)Negotiation2)Mediation 3)Consensus Decision Making

Steps in Negotiation  Agree that you disagree  Take turns talking (don’t control the conversation)  Describe your wants and feelings (reasons for each)  Take other person’s point of view and then summarize your understanding (make sure that you know what he/she wants)  Think of ways to settle conflict in ways that works for both parties (win-win situation).  Choose best way and make an agreement  Get outside help if parties are unable to resolve the conflict

Mediation  Process by which the two parties in the dispute meet with a neutral third party to resolve the conflict. The neutral third party is called a Mediator. Can you think of situations when a Mediator may be used or needed?

Consensus Decision Making  Process by with all parties involved with the dispute collaborate to reach an agreement that all parties can and will support.

Win – Win Situations “I want to win and I want you to win, too.”  Discuss each persons underlying needs  What type of outcome do you want?  What seems like the best solution to you?  Flexibility  Recognition of each others differences  Open to change  Attack the problem, not each other

Can you help? 1)Think of ways to help resolve the situation 2)Win – Win Situations 3)Steps in Negotiation YIFjo YIFjo

Win – Win Situations You and your brother both want to watch a different show on television. Win – Win resolution You want to go to the movies and your friend wants to go to the mall. Win – Win resolution You want to sleep over at a friends house but your mom will not let you because it is a school night. Win – Win Resolution

Active Listening  Listen politely  Ask questions – make sure that you understand  Repeat what other person has said in your own words  Respect/acknowledge speakers feelings and point of view

Keys to success  Look at the person (eye contact)  Don’t fake listen  Stop working  Stop watching television  Sit-up straight  Make statements – “I understand,” “I see,” and “Okay”  Look interested  Ask questions for clarification

Role – Play!!! In groups of 5, develop a correct role-play for active listening

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