Authentic Manhood Winning at Work & Home Session 3: Engaging “Your Woman” Successfully Engaging “Your Woman” Successfully

“Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way.” 1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way.” 1 Peter 3:7

Long Standing Wisdom A. This “way” is not natural for men. A. This “way” is not natural for men. B. This “way” is not just head knowledge. B. This “way” is not just head knowledge.

“Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way.” 1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way.” 1 Peter 3:7

“Men, win with your woman through wise actions supported by proven insight.” 1 Peter 3:7

Your Place on the Manhood Team A. Sideliner B. Starter C. All-Star

What An All-Star Masters A. He’s the man who knows his woman’s key needs and is actively engaged in meeting them. A. He’s the man who knows his woman’s key needs and is actively engaged in meeting them. B. He’s the man who knows his woman’s personality and wisely adjusts to it. B. He’s the man who knows his woman’s personality and wisely adjusts to it. C. He’s the man who knows his woman’s love language and speaks it often. C. He’s the man who knows his woman’s love language and speaks it often.

The Four Personality Types A. Sanguine B. Choleric C. Phlegmatic D. Melancholy

Popular Making initial contact with people Creating enthusiasm and excitement Encouraging and uplifting others Insuring the group has fun Making initial contact with people Creating enthusiasm and excitement Encouraging and uplifting others Insuring the group has fun Outgoing and engaging SANGUINE KEYWORD: BEST AT: PRESENTS AS: MAJOR NEEDS: Fun and adventure

Powerful Motivating people to action Giving quick and clear instruction Getting it done Leading Motivating people to action Giving quick and clear instruction Getting it done Leading Authoritative and convincing CHOLERIC KEYWORD: BEST AT: PRESENTS AS: MAJOR NEEDS: Action and excitement

Peaceful Staying calm and functional Not over-reacting to a negative situation Effective listener Making sure the group is relaxed and comfortable Staying calm and functional Not over-reacting to a negative situation Effective listener Making sure the group is relaxed and comfortable Believable PHLEGMATIC KEYWORD: BEST AT: PRESENTS AS: MAJOR NEEDS: Rest and quiet time

Perfect Planning and explaining the details Doing it right Sensitive to the needs of others Good with numbers, charts, graphs, etc. Planning and explaining the details Doing it right Sensitive to the needs of others Good with numbers, charts, graphs, etc. Accurate and sincere MELANCHOLY KEYWORD: BEST AT: PRESENTS AS: MAJOR NEEDS: Order and understanding

Three Important Summaries 1. A person’s personality can grow and mature, but it’s not going to change. 1. A person’s personality can grow and mature, but it’s not going to change. 2. Honestly embracing your woman’s personality and appreciating it is essential for a long term, love relationship. 2. Honestly embracing your woman’s personality and appreciating it is essential for a long term, love relationship. 3. Marrying this personality says something deep about you as a man: opposites usually attract to balance, refine, and mature one another. 3. Marrying this personality says something deep about you as a man: opposites usually attract to balance, refine, and mature one another.

The Five Love Languages Words of Affirmation Quality Time Receiving Gifts Acts of Service Physical Touch

How to Recognize Your Love Language How to Recognize Your Love Language 1. You like to express love this way to your mate. 1. You like to express love this way to your mate. 2. You ask for this love from your mate often. 2. You ask for this love from your mate often. 3. You are deeply hurt when your mate gives you the opposite of this. 3. You are deeply hurt when your mate gives you the opposite of this.

How to Know Your Woman’s Love Language How to Know Your Woman’s Love Language 1. Talk it out with her. 2. Get specific applications from her. 2. Get specific applications from her.