A water bearer in India had two large pots, one hung on each end of a pole, which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it. While the other pot was perfect, and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the mistress's house, the cracked pot arrived only half full. For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to her master's house. The perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect to the end for which it was made. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do. After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream: "I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you." Why?" asked the bearer. "What are you ashamed of?" "I have been able, for these past two years, to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your mistress's house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don't get full value from your efforts," the pot said.

The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in her compassion she said, "As we return to the mistress's house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path.“ Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path, and this cheered it some. But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load, and so again it apologized to the bearer for its failure. The bearer said to the pot, "Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, but not on the other pot's side? “That's because I have always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you've watered them. “For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my mistress's table. Without you being just the way you are, she would not have this beauty to grace her house." Moral: Each of us has our own unique flaws. We're all cracked pots. But it's the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding. We've just got to take each person for what they are, and look for the good in them. There's a lot of good out there.

 Everyone is different, just like the cracked pot.  Every color brings value to a group.  One person might offer ideas, while the other knows how to put it on paper, another can present it and the last can make sure it has meaning.

- Optimistic- Cause Oriented - Passionate- True Romantic - Spiritual- Peacemaker - Cooperate- Core Values - Value Relationships What “Winnie the Pooh” Character was just described?

- Prepared, prepared, prepared- Passionate - Loves to plan- Punctual - Predictable- Loyal - Value Tradition- Stable - Strong sense of “should” vs. “should not” What “Winnie the Pooh” Character was just described?

- Should be able to do…- Ask “Why?” - Complex, standard- Perfectionist - Calm, cool, collected- Work is Play - Play is work- Independent - Curious- Need to know how What “Winnie the Pooh” Character was just described?

- Energetic- Playful - Let’s just do it- Entertainers - Master Negotiators- Impulsive - Thrives on Competition- Non structured - Core Value is Freedom What “Winnie the Pooh” Character was just described?

I will put you in groups In your groups using big paper write out your : – Joys – Strengths – Needs – Stressors – Frustrations – What is one thing that is misunderstood about your style?

When out of esteem:  Lie to save face  Withdrawal  Fantasy, daydream, and trancing out  Cry or get depressed  Passive resistant Keys to Esteem:  Acceptance for who they are  Reassurance of self worth  Help bring out potential in others  Experience cohesion in the classroom

When out of esteem:  Complain and self pity  Anxiety and worry  Depression and fatigue  Psychosomatic problems (Stomach hurts)  Malicious judgment about self or others Keys to Esteem:  Consistency  Specific feedback  Definitive rules  Demonstrate responsibilities  Service to others  Opportunity to organize people or things

When out of esteem:  Rude and defiance  Break rules intentionally  Run away  Physical aggression Keys to Esteem  Self expression  Opportunities for quick action or risks  Seek change  Use initiative  Want a variety of skills  Novel, new, and exciting experiences

When out of esteem:  Indecisiveness  Refusal to comply  Withdrawal  Snobbish, sarcasm  Refuse to communicate  Highly critical attitudes toward self and others Keys to Esteem:  Assistance in choosing tasks  Feedback on work  Need success  Need to display competency  A chance to seek options to situations

You see yourself as…  Warm, compassionate  Spiritual  Trusting, Unselfish  People Person  Empathetic, Sympathetic  Willing to work tirelessly for cause Others see you as…  Over-emotional  Mushy  Easily Duped  Too “Touchy feely”  Too nice  Smothering  Too tender hearted

See yourself as…  Superior Intellect  98% right  Efficient  Powerful  Creative, visionary  Able to find flaws  Objective Others see you as…  Intellect snob  Arrogant  Heartless  Don’t care about people  Unrealistic  Ignore peoples values  Afraid to open up

See yourself as…  Stable  Providing Security  Dependable  Firm  Always has a view  Efficient, realistic  Good planner  Orderly Others see you as…  Rigid  Controlling  Dull, boring  Stubborn, pigheaded  Opinionated  System-bound  Unimaginative, judgemental

See yourself as…  Fun-loving, enjoy self  Spontaneous  Flexible, adaptable  Carefree  Proficient, capable  Hands-on person  Practical  Problem solver Others see you as…  Irresponsible  Flaky  Wishy-Washy  Not serious  Spends time at things they enjoy  Disobey rules  Not to be trusted

 Group activity  You will make a vacation for a different color then present it to the class. Remember “No Color Bashing.” We should see thoughtful ideas.  Green plans a vacation for Blue  Blue plans a vacation for Green  Gold plans a vacation for Orange  Orange plans a vacation for Gold

Every organization is a family whether functional or dysfunctional. Functional families recognize one another’s talents. You have a choice.

Look for ways to make ideas work Make eye contact Speak positively about each other and the organization Don’t ignore conflict Have fun Share sorrow and disappointment Learn to let go Do everything with enthusiasm

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