Surviving & Thriving in a Blended Family #1 May 24, 2009

Introduction GROWTH of Blended Familes Definitions: Traditional vs. Blended GROWTH of Blended Familes Definitions: Traditional vs. Blended

Story of DYSFUNCTION Historical Background – Polygamy & surrogate motherhood Historical Background – Polygamy & surrogate motherhood

Story of DYSFUNCTION Jacob’s Family – Genesis 29:16-24 Jacob’s Family – Genesis 29:16-24

Story of DYSFUNCTION Jacob’s Family – Genesis 33:1-2 Jacob’s Family – Genesis 33:1-2

Story of DYSFUNCTION Jacob’s Family – Genesis 37:1-4 – Blatant favoritism Jacob’s Family – Genesis 37:1-4 – Blatant favoritism

SYMPTOMS of Dysfunction Lack of LOVE

SYMPTOMS of Dysfunction CODEPENDENCY – My happiness is wrapped up in your happiness – My self esteem is wrapped up in your approval – My social circle and identity revolves around you – My peace is determined by your peace CODEPENDENCY – My happiness is wrapped up in your happiness – My self esteem is wrapped up in your approval – My social circle and identity revolves around you – My peace is determined by your peace

SYMPTOMS of Dysfunction CODEPENDENCY – I cannot / am not / will not be happy unless ___________ happens. CODEPENDENCY – I cannot / am not / will not be happy unless ___________ happens.

SYMPTOMS of Dysfunction MANIPULATION APPEASEMENT FAVORITISM MANIPULATION APPEASEMENT FAVORITISM

SYMPTOMS of Dysfunction Lack of Love Codependency Manipulation Appeasement Favoritism Lack of Love Codependency Manipulation Appeasement Favoritism

Conclusion The HOPE for the Blended Family Is CENTERED In LOVING God The HOPE for the Blended Family Is CENTERED In LOVING God