Speak More Effectively By Dale Carnegie

Who was Dale Carnegie Dale Carnegie ( ) was a travelling salesman, early on in life and through the power of teaching public speaking courses at the YMCA and being a gifted speaker, he soon attracted a large following that earned him international recognition. He then founded the Dale Carnegie Institute and set up diffferent chapters around the U.S and the world.

Roundtable Discussion on the booklet: Speak More Effectively

Public Speaking: A quick and easy way / If posible, spend years in preparation Is there a quick and easy eay to speak in public?? The secrets to public speaking: Talk about something you have earned the right to talk about through study or experience. Talk about something that you know and know you know. Don’t spend 10mins or 10 hours preparing; spend years…

Exercise: Read this quote by Gay Kellogg and try to read it as if you were her… “The biggest regret of my life is that I never knew a mother’s love. My mother died when I was only a year old. I was brought up by a succession of aunts and other relatives who were so absorbed in their own children that they had no time for me. I never stayed with any of them very long. They were always sorry to see me come and glad to see me go. They never took any interest in me or gave me any affection. I knew I wasn’t wanted. Even as a little child I could feel it. I often cried myself to sleep because of loneliness. The deepest desire of my heart was to have someone ask to see my report card from school. But no one ever did. No one cared. All I craved as a little child was love—and no one ever gave it to me.”

Become excited about your subject Your speech should have an impact on someone to where they can remember your words for the future. Preparation isn’t always necessary. Speak as is you are talking to another human being an not to an audience. Living, feeling, thinking & enduring is the the best preparation for either speaking or writing. Open your heart in order to talk about something real to you. If you are not excited about your topic, how do you expect someone else to get excited about it?

Exercise: Talk about something emotinal that happened in your life… Your first boy/girl-friendThe passing away of a loved one Your first jobYour first vacation XVA teacher you won’t forget A memorable HolidayAn accomplishment in life Your first breakupYour faith A book you have recetly finishedA recent movie you’ve seen

Look inside yourself for topics to talk about / Talk from your heart, not from a book When you choose a topic, make sure it has relevence for youself and motivation for some to listen to. Don’t choose “mechanical” topics. If you choose a “mechanical” topic, be sure that you have researched it thouroughly in order not to loose your audience.

Exercise: Talking from your heart Think of a situation that has made you feel different about a serious issue of life in general. Write down some notes and then discuss it with your group. Use as many details to say why it makes you feel the way you do and what can be done to improve that issue.

Exercise: The pros and cons of talking about your convictions and experiences Make a Venn Diagram on the Pro’s and Con’s of talking about your convictions an experiences. Think about the benifits and the problems of using these two things in any public speech.

Exercise: Answer these questions in your group What have you studied that might make a good speech? If you already carried around a scribbling book, what would some of the words be inside of it? What is something “simple” that you can talk about in your life? Give an example…

Exercise: Prepare a 2 to 3min. speech about something simple. Each of you will make a speech before our class next week about something simple; similar to the speech about, “Back Doors!” Make sure it has all of the elements that Mr. Carnegie mentioned: earned the right to talk about it, something that is exciting to you, and something that you are eager to communicate to others…

How to prepare and deliver your talks When you prepare speeches, use normally use an outline. An outline is something that holds your thoughts and ideas that you want to say and structures your speech. An normal outline usually has 5 main points that is stated within your speech: Introduction / Thesis statement – 3 body points with sub-points added – Conclusion. There are many ways on how you can prepare a speech and also many ideas to add to make your speech interesting.

Excercise: Prepare a simple outline and share it with the class… Let’s use a 5 point outline format to clarify ideas and main delivery points to present a proper outline. Remember, there is no set outline format that you must use; only recommended sources. However, all speeches, like books have structure and a beginning, middle and end…

If your attitude is good – Your talk will be also This basically means, speak with the right attitude; if your talking about something positive be energetic, if your talking about something serious, then be confident, if your talking about something sad, then be emotional. Many forms of speech are needed during public speaking. Thnk about how you speak in real life situaitons and then mimic that ability in public speaking. Your audience will be more inclined to listen because of your ability to be heard; in a way that they can relate to…