Habit 2 Begin with End in Mind Dr. Kanwal Kaisser

Habit 2 in Our Paradigms Feeling Thoughts Behavior Begin with end in Mind Feeling Thoughts Behavior Image, picture, paradigm of the end of your life

Inner Guidance system Circle of Concern Circle of Influence

By Design or Default? People Principles Circle of Concern Circle of Influence We reactively live by the script handed to us by family/people/circumstances/past habits Principles

Stimulus Response Self Awareness Conscience Imagination Will Power Habit 1: you are creator Habit 2: your first creation Self Awareness Conscience Imagination Will Power

Re-Scripting يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا)At-Tahrim:6(

Security: Sense of worth CENTER Guidance: Source of direction Wisdom: capacity to act Power: Balance

Identifying Your Centre Sometimes not easy Wrong center will limit your personal effectiveness Depending upon external and internal conditions, center may vary No consistent sense of direction No persistent wisdom No sense of self-worth

Empower your Proactivity A Principle Center Empower your Proactivity

Principle Centerdness Security Principle Centerdness Wisdom Guidance Power

Principles Money Family Possessions Spouse Self Work Religion Pleasure Enemy Friend

Our Security Principles don’t react to anything Principles don’t die They are common denominators Tightly woven threads running with exactness, consistency, beauty and strength through the fibre of life Bigger than people and circumstances Principles don’t change but our understanding of them can

Wisdom and Guidance Correct maps From the way things really are, have been and will be Enable us to see where we want to go and how to get there

Personal Power Self-Awareness Knowledgeable Proactive Unrestricted by the attitudes, behaviors and actions of others Only limitation is: Natural consequences of Principles

A Principle Centered Person فَمَن زُحْزِحَ عَنِ النَّارِ وَأُدْخِلَ الْجَنَّةَ فَقَدْ فَازَ )Ale-Imran:185(

Saving from Fire Entry into Jannah Money Family Possessions Spouse Self Work Religion Pleasure Enemy Friend

كُلُّكُمْ رَاعٍ وَكُلُّكُمْ مَسْئُولٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ Abdullah bin Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of the people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects: a man is the guardian of his family and is responsible for his subjects, a woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and of his children and is responsible for them, and the slave of a man is a guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for it. Surely, everyone of you is a shepherd and responsible for his flock.” Source: Sahih Bukhari 6719; Sahih Muslim 1829

Principle Centeredness Stand apart from emotion of the situation Evaluate the options Looking at balanced whole You proactively chose the best option Chose to ultimate values in life You see things differently

Habit 2 Activity Time

In group of 7, answer all questions What am I doing with my life right now? Does it make me happy? Do I feel fulfilled? What did I like to do as a child? What interests me most right now? What are my unique traits and strengths? What you want your list of accomplishments twenty years from now? What are the ten things that are most rewarding to you today?

Write down…. What qualities you admire in a person? What qualities you tried to adopt? Imagine yourself twenty years from now…what you want your accomplishments to be? Think of ten most rewarding things for you now?

Periodically Evaluate Do you feel this mission statement represents the best within me? Do you feel direction, purpose, challenge and motivation when you review your mission statement? Are you living your life according to ideals and values that are incorporated in your mission statement?

A Destination and a Compass Habit 2 and Family A Destination and a Compass

Empowering aspect of Habit 2 Family awareness: Our ability to see ourselves as a family Family conscience: The unity of the shared moral nature of everyone in the family and the clarity Creative synergy: We hammered out the issues and came to something everyone could agree on Social will: We all work together to make it happen

Family compass for direction

Three Watch outs Don’t announce it Don’t rush it Don’t ignore it

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