Personality Types Behavior Types Communication Styles

Passive o When someone holds back their ideas, feelings, and decisions o People with passive behavior typically lack self-confidence, make excuses, and avoid sharing feelings and/or making decisions

Aggressive o When someone uses words or actions that are disrespectful towards others o People with aggressive behavior might interrupt others or dominate a conversation o They might call others names and/or make sarcastic remarks o They typically threaten others because they lack self-confidence

Assertive o When someone honestly and respectfully expresses their ideas, feelings, and decisions without worrying about what others think o People with assertive behavior are self- confident and show others that they are in control of themselves

Decision Making Styles

Inactive When a person fails to make choices HABITS… o Postpone something until a future time o PROCRASTINATE o Take little control of the direction of their lives o Have difficulty gaining self-confidence

Reactive When a person allows others to make his/her decisions HABITS… o Easily influenced by what others think o They give control of the direction of their lives to others o They lack self-confidence and have a great need to be liked by others

Proactive When a person makes a decision using the “Responsible Decision-Making Model” HABITS… o Not easily influenced by peers o Has control over his/her own life o They have principles which help guide their decisions

Responsible Decision-Making Model o Describe the situation that requires a decision o List the possible decisions you can make o Share the list with a trusted adult o Evaluate the consequences of each possible decision Is it healthy? Is it healthy? Is it safe? Is it safe? Does it show respect for self and others? Does it show respect for self and others? Does it follow guidelines of parents and authority? Does it follow guidelines of parents and authority? Does it demonstrate good character? Does it demonstrate good character? o Choose the decision that is most responsible and appropriate o Act on your decision and evaluate the results

Conflict Response Styles and Conflict-Resolution Skills

Avoidance o When someone chooses to avoid, or back away from disagreements o Even if they disagree with a person they are unwilling to challenge him/her o This is an example of passive behavior

Confrontation o When a person attempts to settle a disagreement in a hostile, disrespectful manner o They want to win or be right o They view a conflict as “win-lose” o They believe that their side is the only one worth considering o This is an example of aggressive behavior

Resolution o When a person uses “conflict- resolution” skills to resolve a problem o They remain rational and in control o They listen to the other person’s side o They see the potential for a “win-win” solution or compromise o This is an example of assertive behavior

How to Use Conflict- Resolution Skills o Remain Calm o Set a Positive Tone (avoid placing blame, put- downs, and threats) o Define and then Describe the Conflict o Take Responsibility for Personal Actions o Listen to the Needs and Feelings of Others o List and Evaluate Possible Solutions o Agree on a Solution

Seven Building Blocks of Good Character o COMPASSION – showing sensitivity to others o GOOD CITIZENSHIP – obeying laws and respecting authority o FAIRNESS – abiding by the rules and not taking advantage of others o RESPECT – treating others the way you want to be treated o RESPONSIBILITY – doing what you promise; being accountable o TRUSTWORTHINESS – being dependable and loyal o HONESTY – refusing to lie, steal, or mislead someone