2. Transformation Happens You Initiate In Love “As you love yourself” You Experience Love

5. Love is a circuit: break the flow anywhere and it flows nowhere

6. 1.Me 2.You 3.Obnoxious Me 4.We

7. Our twentys – our needs for intimacy and others’ needs for inclusion Inappropriate behaviour - Extending mercy and exercising justice Finances – doing what’s right for the moment and what’s right for the future Sound system – transcendent worship and less human wear and tear Raising children – nurturing and accepting and challenging them to growth

8. “In what areas of my life have I inappropriately suppressed my own needs?” “In what areas have I been manifesting the “obnoxious stage”? “In what areas will I not make myself dependent on those I’m called to serve?”

10. Harmonize Avoid Demand Comply

11. Situation The observation rather than evaluation Feelings The feelings rather than the thoughts Needs The needs rather than the preferences Request The concrete rather than the abstract