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1 Interview Skills for Attorneys and Other Child Support Professionals CSDA Annual Conference 2008
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2 Presented by: Terry Symens-Bucher --Supervising Attorney, Alameda County Carlota Serna --Deputy Counsel, Orange County
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3 Overview Set context Explain the basic model Do the work with a partner – Demonstrate – Re-play – Re-script – Reflect Conclusion
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4 Personal goal Increase your enjoyment of difficult interviews by making it more likely your needs will be met.
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5 Personal Goal What will increase your enjoyment of difficult interviews? Decrease your level of stress through awareness of your personal power and choice.
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6 Stress Blood pressure up Heart rate up Breathing rapid and shallow Immune system compromised Cholesterol up Stomach acid up Muscle tension
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7 Professional Goal: Trust and Confidence in the California Courts: A Survey of the Public and Attorneys --released in 2005 by the Judicial Council Finding: What had the greatest impact on public trust and confidence in the justice system-- Outcome or Procedural fairness?
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8 Answer: Procedural fairness Defined as— Being treated with respect Being listened to Having one’s case individually considered
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9 Seven definitions Interview Difficult interview Successful interview Power A difficult person Needs Strategies
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10 We will identify The cause our feelings The source of our conflicts
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11 Five key differentiations Observations v. interpretations Stimulus v. cause Needs v. strategies Strategies v. goals Needs-based choices v. moralistic judgments
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12 And one Basic assumption about human behavior
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13 Interview skills Skills—behaviors that can be learned An Interview is not the following: Examination Interrogation Negotiation Mediation Arbitration Or Conversation
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14 An Interview is: A temporary role-based relationship established and maintained for mutual exchange of information.
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15 Resources Nonviolent Communication and Speaking Peace in a World of Conflict --by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. Loving What Is --by Byron Katie Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott
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16 Websites Bay Area Nonviolent Communication http://www.baynvc.org/ http://www.baynvc.org/ The Center for Nonviolent Communication http://www.cnvc.org/ http://www.cnvc.org/
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17 Difficult Interviews What characterizes a difficult interview?
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18 Share and Reflect Share A difficult interview for me is when… Reflect What I heard is that a difficult interview for you is when…
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19 Definition: A difficult interview challenges my ability to stay self-connected and makes it less likely my needs will be met in the situation.
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20 Albert Einstein (paraphrased) No problem can be solved by the same consciousness that created it.
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21 The successful interview: Gets the information I need to move the case to the next appropriate step
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22 The successful interview: is characterized by CHOICE
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23 Choice depends upon: SELF-CONNECTION
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24 Observation v. Interpretation Be careful the tale you tell, That is the spell… --Stephen Sondheim From the musical Into The Woods
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25 The Way to Self-Connection Observe Don’t believe everything you think
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26 Thoughts Shoulds Have to’s Judgments Labels Diagnosis Evaluations Interpretations
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27 Share and Reflect Share When I see/hear _____ I feel: Reflect When you see/hear ______ you feel:
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28 Self-connection review Self-connection (awareness) leads to choice. Choice gives us power. Power is the ability to marshal internal and external resources to meet our needs.
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29 Some external resources Time Health Education Friends Information Money Social support
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30 Some internal resources Attitude (self-talk) Our level of self-connection Awareness of choice Ability to function with unmet needs Capacity to make choices in the face of fear Being present to another’s anger w/o hearing criticism, blame, shame or guilt
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31 A difficult person is --a person who presents me with trigger(s) that are beyond my current ability to remain self-connected.
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32 Key Differentiation Stimulus v. Cause
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33 Source of our feelings: Our feelings are caused by our needs being met or unmet, fulfilled or unfulfilled.
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34 Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing there is a field. I will meet you there. --Rumi 13 th Century Sufi poet
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35 Basic Assumption: All human behavior is an attempt to meet needs.
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36 Needs are Shared by all people The source of our feelings
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37 Key differentiation: Needs v. Strategies
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38 Needs v. Strategies A strategy is a plan to meet my needs that requires a particular person, place, time, or thing.
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39 Needs v. Strategies Needs are universal to all humans and can be met by strategies limited only by our imagination.
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40 Source of Conflict Conflict arises at the level of strategies not at the level of needs
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41 Share When I see/hear _____ I want: Reflect When you see/hear _____ you want:
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42 Unmet needs How can I get my unmet needs in this situation met?
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43 Key Differentiation Strategies v. Goals
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44 Strategies Are more likely to meet our needs when they are: – Concrete – Specific – Do-able
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45 Key differentiation Needs-based v. moralistic judgments
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46 Conclusion Goal: to increase your enjoyment of challenging interviews by making it more likely your needs are met.
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47 Seven definitions Interview Challenging interview Successful interview Power A difficult person Needs Strategies
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48 We identified The cause our feelings The source of our conflicts
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49 Five key differentiations Observations v. interpretations Stimulus v. cause Needs v. strategies Strategies v. goals Needs-based choices v. moralistic judgments
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50 And One Basic assumption about human behavior
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