1. Self-Discipline Speak and act calmly when you are hurt or angry Speak and act calmly when you are hurt or angry Create routines that bring peace and order to your day Create routines that bring peace and order to your day Practice moderation Practice moderation Do what is expected without anyone watching over you Do what is expected without anyone watching over you Do things on time Do things on time © The Virtues Project

2. Self-Discipline Self-discipline means self-control. It is doing what you really want to do, rather than being tossed around by your feelings like a leaf in the wind. You act instead of react. You get things done in an orderly and efficient way. With self-discipline, you take charge of yourself. © The Virtues Project

3. Self-Discipline I have self-discipline. I use my time well and get things done. I choose my actions with detachment. © The Virtues Project

4. Self-Discipline Procrastinator Exam Tomorrow Late for Lessons Project Due Today Distracted Interruptions Unimportant Phone Calls Peer Pressure Prioritize-r Planning Essay Due Next Week Exercise Unoccupied Too Much Computer Late Night TV Time Wasters The

5. Self-Discipline Procrastinator Distracted Prioritize-r Unoccupied The Urgent Non-Urgent Important Non-Important

6. Self-Discipline In Your Notebook Write percentages for how much time you spend in each quadrant.

7. Self-Discipline Procrastinator 17% Distracted 36% Prioritize-r 32% Unoccupied 15% The Urgent Non-Urgent Important Non-Important Example

8. Self-Discipline In Your Notes Take 3 minutes to list what you usually do from the time you leave your last class until you go to sleep during a regular school week. What do you spend your time on? Write how much time you spend on each thing.

9. Self-Discipline 3:10-3:17 pm Talk to my Friends10 Minutes 3:17-3:45 pm Ride the Bus/Walk Home30 Minutes 3:50-4:05 pm Eat a snack15 Minutes... Example

10. Self-Discipline Now write a time category next to each. 3:10-3:17 pm Talk to my Friends10 Minutes Prioritize-r?Distracted?Procrastinator?Unoccupied?

11. Self-Discipline Plan Weekly

12. Self-Discipline Plan Weekly Use a Planner.

13. Self-Discipline Plan Weekly Take 15 minutes each day to plan your week.

14. Self-Discipline Plan Weekly Plan Weekly Identify the important things to do:  Test Prep  Exercise 3 Times  Piano Lessons  Pat’s Birthday Party, Buy Gift

15. Self-Discipline When we don’t plan for the important, the non-important and urgent fills up our time.

16. Self-Discipline If we let the urgent and non-important fill our time we will feel stressed and have little time for the important and non-urgent.

17. Time Well Spent “Time is like money, the less we have of it to spare, the further we make it go.” Josh Billings (Henry Wheeler Shaw)

18. Self-Discipline Identify the Important

19. Self-Discipline Identify the Important Block out time for the Important

20. Self-Discipline Identify the Important Block out time for the Important Schedule the rest around the Important

21. Self-Discipline In Your Notes Make a list of the Important things in your life.

22. Self-Discipline In Your Notes Once you have listed the Important things, make lists from your life for each of the other quadrants we have been learning about.

23. Self-Discipline When you choose to put your important things first you will inevitably move outside your comfort zone. That will take courage!

24. Self-Discipline Comfort Zone Things I enjoy Things I enjoy People I am relaxed with People I am relaxed with Things I am good at Things I am good at Ease Ease Risk Free Risk Free Relaxing and Familiar Relaxing and Familiar Safe and Secure Safe and Secure

25. Self-Discipline Cliff Diving Things I am Afraid Of Things I am Afraid Of Things that are New Things that are New Opportunity Opportunity Ultimate Potential Ultimate Potential Adventure Adventure New Friends and Places New Friends and Places Hard Moments Hard Moments Risk! Risk!

26. Self-Discipline Don’t let your fears make your decisions!

27. Self-Discipline “You miss 100% of the shots you never take.” Wayne Gretzky

28. Self-Discipline Great things are always done in the face of fear. of fear.

29. Self-Discipline In Your Notes In Your Notes Make a list of things in your comfort zone Make a list of things in your comfort zone Make a list of the things you would like to Make a list of the things you would like to do but haven’t because of fear do but haven’t because of fear

30. Self-Discipline Step out of your Comfort Zone Make a New Friend Make a New Friend Resist Peer Pressure Resist Peer Pressure Try out for a Team Try out for a Team Break a Habit Break a Habit Be Yourself Be Yourself

31. Self-Discipline Don’t let fear make your decisions. You make them!

33. Self-Discipline Facing Failure While we have many choices to make, we do not possess complete control of our lives. The following points come from: Patricia Sellers’s article, “The Liberating Effect of Failure,” in the online version of Fortune Magazine (May 29, 2008).

34. Self-Discipline Facing Failure When we fail, our goals should include more than just surviving. We want to mature and grow.

35. Self-Discipline Facing Failure When we study the lives of great people, we will discover that they failed and kept moving toward their life passion and goal. We think of them as great because they “failed” and kept going.

36. Self-Discipline Facing Failure “Failure punctuates truly great leaders. They aren’t great until they’ve failed. Failure is the crucible, the test. They deal with it, and their confidence and capabilities are enhanced.” Patricia Sellers, “The Liberating Effect of Failure,” Fortune Magazine: Online (May 29, 2008).

37. Self-Discipline Facing Failure When leaders manage their disappointment, it empowers them “to do things differently. It gives them courage to be independent thinkers.” Patricia Sellers, “The Liberating Effect of Failure,” Fortune Magazine: Online (May 29, 2008).

38. Self-Discipline Facing Failure: Stepping Forward 1.Face the Battle 2.Recruit others into the Battle 3.Rebuild your Reputation Patricia Sellers, “The Liberating Effect of Failure,” Fortune Magazine: Online (May 29, 2008).

39. Self-Discipline Facing Failure What is the number one reason leaders fail to deal with failure properly?

40. Self-Discipline Facing Failure They are afraid to look weak.

41. Self-Discipline Facing Failure When a leader fails, they need to own their part. If they have clearly done something wrong, they need to apologize. This works toward restoring their credibility rather than ruining it.

42. Self-Discipline Failure is inevitable Failure is inevitable “We all lose, fall short, or miss the bar during life.” Mark Cunningham, “Leadership Lessons from Failure,” Studentline (August 14, 2008).

43. Self-Discipline Failure is inevitable Failure is inevitable Failure is a fork in the road Failure is a fork in the road When we fail, we have several choices. Mark Cunningham, “Leadership Lessons from Failure,” Studentline (August 14, 2008).

44. Self-Discipline Failure is inevitable Failure is inevitable Failure is a fork in the road Failure is a fork in the road We can blame our failure on others We can conclude that we are failures We can ignore or deny our failure We can embrace failure, learn and get better Mark Cunningham, “Leadership Lessons from Failure,” Studentline (August 14, 2008).

45. Self-Discipline Failure is inevitable Failure is inevitable Failure is a fork in the road Failure is a fork in the road Failure is profitable Failure is profitable “Failure is the surest path to success. It tests, strengthens, and refines us. Passing through it qualifies us to lead.” Passing through it qualifies us to lead.” Mark Cunningham, “Leadership Lessons from Failure,” Studentline (August 14, 2008).

46. Self-Discipline If you have failed recently, decide to learn from it and grow. Mark Cunningham, “Leadership Lessons from Failure,” Studentline (August 14, 2008).

47. Self-Discipline Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein

48. Self-Discipline In Your Notes Name one recent failure.

49. Self-Discipline In Your Notes Name one recent failure. Stop, think and write about how can you learn from it and grow?