1. Think You Know…… Understanding E-Safety St Edmund’s RC Primary School

2. Welcome Protocols: It is not an easy subject so please be conscious of the possible feelings of others and their views It is OK to give personal views and disagree with me Please turn off mobile phones

3. Overview of the Session What young people are doing on-line The risks they face How we can respond

4. A lighter hearted opening… www.thinkyouknow.co.uk/parents

5. Growing up on-line Pre-school Focus on family Attachment Full support Reality and fantasy the same Vulnerable to violent, frightening or sexual content Primary Shift to more outside the family Supervised exploration Beginning to differentiate fantasy and reality Learning social rules – right and wrong Limited ability to inhibit and control impulses Secondary Drive for social interaction Risk taking important for development Ability to inhibit and control impulses not yet at adult level Influenced by peers

6. What is my child doing on-line?

7. Playing Games 1.Check the age rating - http://www.pegi.info/en/index/http://www.pegi.info/en/index/ 2. Join in the fun Why they like the game? What’s so fun about it? Who uses it at school? What’s the name of their character? Who can you talk to? Who are their friends in the game? 3.Look for the game’s advice – a safe game will have parental controls 4.Know who they are talking to – maybe watch this cartoon with them and discuss it - https://www.thinkuknow.co.uk/parents/Primary/Conversation- Starters/Go-to-the-movies/Lee-and-Kim/ https://www.thinkuknow.co.uk/parents/Primary/Conversation- Starters/Go-to-the-movies/Lee-and-Kim/ 5.Teach about acceptable on-line behaviour

8. Making Friends Games children play will ask them to make friends with other ‘characters’ On social networking sites they can ‘accept’ or ‘reject’ friend requests. Allowing someone to be your friend enables them to communicate with you, share things with you and often find out information about you. It is important to help children understand the following areas: Know who their friends are – ‘friends’ can talk to a child and might gain personal information. Children this age should only be friends with people online that they are friends with in the real world Know what they can see – being someone’s ‘friend’ often gives them access to personal information. Your children should think about the information that their ‘friends’ can see and whether it could be used to bully or manipulate them Know what to do if people are being mean – sometimes ‘friends’ can be mean online and it’s important that a child is aware of what they can do to block or report this

9. Talking to People Instant Messaging instant text chat between two or more people private un-moderated chat can build a list of ‘friends’ or ‘buddies’ It is important for children to know how to manage this list, for example by blocking contacts they don’t want to talk to. Webcam Chat fun way to chat can be recorded and shared in a way you might not want Chat Rooms forum for groups to chat on line often moderated Email Accounts Check moderation possibilities teach your child only to email people they know and trust in the real world teach them never to open an email from an unknown person or link encourage then to tell you if they ever have a problem

10. Sharing Many sites encourage sharing. They might share things like: Opinions – such as what they like and don’t like What they are doing Pictures of themselves Information about themselves – such as their name and where they live Videos and music You can help a child share safely by teaching them to: Not share pictures and videos without your permission. Limit the amount of personal information shared – for example, not to share their address or which school they go to. Only share personal information with their friends. Show them the film to look at some of the consequences of sharing personal information. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_o8auwnJtqE&feature=player_embedd ed

11. Searching With a world of information at their fingertips, it’s easy for children to stumble across things that might upset or disturb them. They might also come across sites which aren’t suitable for their age. can happen by accident unwise to assume children can be trusted to search safely children are naturally curious and may search ‘rude’ words, without thinking about the results they might get Change the ‘search settings’ on search engines.

12. How do I talk to my child about what they’re doing on-line? Let them teach you Why do they like the site? What can they do on it? What’s so fun about it? Who uses it at school? Who you can talk to? Who are their friends on it? Reach an agreement Limits on the amount of time online Regular screen breaks Not sharing any pictures they wouldn’t be happy to share with you. Not giving out personal details, such as mobile phone number and address Coming to you if they are concerned. Or, if not, knowing where they can go for independent help and support. Go to the movies Watch the films on https://www.thinkuknow.co.uk/parents/Primary/ Conversation- Starters/Go-to-the- movies/

13. What are the risks?

14. Cyberbullying If your child has been cyberbullied, make sure that they: Do not respond to the bully Block contact with the bully Save relevant communication, such as texts, emails or webpages https://www.thinkuknow.co.uk/parents/Primary/Risks/Cyberbullying Grooming The process of encouraging children to engage in sexual acts https://www.thinkuknow.co.uk/parents/Primary/Risks/Grooming/ Inappropriate websites The internet is open for anyone to post material on it, therefore sometimes your children may see things that they wish they hadn’t, or are inappropriate for their age. /

15. Losing control over pictures or videos Bullying – young people can be bullied by others about the content of pictures Distress – knowing that other people that they do not know are looking at personal pictures can be very upsetting Blackmail – images can be used to attempt to manipulate the child Reputation – once something is online it is very difficult to remove. Viruses, hacking and security The following website provides real help with online security http://www.getsafeonline.org/

16. Babcock 4S Limited www.babcock-education.co.uk/4S Child Sexual Expolitation (CSE) CSE happens when children and young people receive something (such as food, accommodation, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, affection, gifts, or money) as a result of performing, and/or others performing on them, sexual activities. Child sexual exploitation can occur through the use of the internet or on mobile phones. In all cases, those exploiting the child or young person have power over them because of their age, gender, intellect, physical strength and/or resources. For victims, the pain of their ordeal and fear that they will not be believed means they are too often scared to come forward.

17. Babcock 4S Limited www.babcock-education.co.uk/4S CSE On-line When sexual exploitation happens online, young people may be persuaded, or forced, to: send or post sexually explicit images of themselves take part in sexual activities via a webcam or smartphone have sexual conversations by text or online. Abusers may threaten to send images, video or copies of conversations to the young person's friends and family unless they take part in other sexual activity. Images or videos may continue to be shared long after the sexual abuse has stopped.

18. Parental controls Every parental control package is different, but most provide services such as: Filtering – content to restrict access to particular sites. Time limits – restrict the amount of time online, or set periods of time. Monitoring – where you are informed of certain sites that your child is attempting to gain access to. Reporting – where you are provided with information about what sites your child has used. Internet Service Providers (ISP’s). All major ISP’s provide parental control packages. Allow you to apply controls across all devices that access the internet through your home connection Devices that connect to the internet. Most computers, mobiles and games consoles now come with parental controls that can be applied. Software Packages available to buy or sometimes download for free – always look for reputable companies and check out reviews online

19. Mobile Phones Understand what your child’s phone can do – know what it is capable of so you can manage the risks. Set a pin code on your child’s phone – setting a pin code is like a password. Set boundaries and monitor usage – rules about where it is used and how long for. Keep it in a shared area at night Discuss what they can share – teach your child to think before they share online (e.g.location) and the consequence of doing this over the mobile phone. Discuss and monitor costs – awareness of the financial responsibility that comes with owning a phone. Agree this at the time of getting the phone. Keep their mobile number private – understanding a phone number should only be given to people they know and trust Be prepared in case the phone is lost or stolen – Know who to contact to get the SIM card blocked. Every phone has a unique ‘IMEI’ number, make sure you write this down so if the phone is stolen, the police can identify the phone if they find it. You can get this by dialling *#06#. Loopholes – even if you have set controls, your child may be accessing the internet through other sources

20. Facebook If your child is setting up a Facebook account, consider the following: Help them set up their account – make sure that they don’t put any unnecessary personal information. Don’t make them any older than 13. Facebook have separate security settings in place for younger users http://www.facebook.com/safety/groups/parents/http://www.facebook.com/safety/groups/parents/ Use your email address as the main contact – this way you can see the people who are ‘friending’, messaging and commenting on your child’s profile. Talk through the privacy settings – go through the settings step-by-step. Set privacy settings to ‘friends only’ and ensure that the friends they have are ones they know and trust in the real world. Limit the amount of adult ‘friends’ they have – these could be friends of yours or family members. These users may post content which you would not want your child to see! Talk to them about some of the things that can go wrong – such as bullying, unwanted contact and inappropriate content. Learn how to http://www.facebook.com/help/181495968648557/ any issues directly to the site.http://www.facebook.com/help/181495968648557/ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-IOOn2wR8bU