2. Building Responsible Relationships Chapter 19

3. Relationship Def: A connection between people. Can be long lasting and strong *Parent and child. Short and superficial. *Supervisor and summer employee.

4. Responsible Relationships Developing relationships with others of the same age is part of forming your own identity. Reasons for dating- get to know each other, companionships Ect…. Benefits of dating- find out who your most compatible with.

5. Reasons for dating- get to know each other, companionships Ect…. Benefits of dating- find out who your most compatible with. Problems with dating more serious more problems. Spending more time with them leaves less time for other things.

6. Finding the Right Person Looking for the right person Unselfish Treats other well Tolerant/Respectful Similar morals/values Fun to be with Respects Him/herself Avoiding the wrong person DO NOT DATE LIST 1.Phys/Emot abuse 2.Does not respect your moral/values 3.Jealous 4.Mutual respect

7. Suggestions for Successful Dating. Don’t give up on yourself if your rejected. Have the courage to date someone you like even if others do not agree. Don’t break a date unless you absolutely must. Show up on time.

8. Don’t expect every date to be wonderful. Let your date know if you had a good time. Don’t accept bad treatment form you date.

9. Dating When young people begin to date they often date in groups because 1.Get to know the person without being alone. 2.Reduces pressure to be sexually active. 3.Reduces the pressure of engaging in activities you don’t want to engage in.

10. Ending Relationships Most romantic relationships developed during adolescence end in a breakup. Stages: 1.Shock and numbness. 2.Anger

11. Breaking Up 3. Self-doubt *Can result in negative thoughts about oneself. 4. Recovery- you will recover, you will pick up your life and keep going.

12. SECTION 2 Benefits of Abstinence

13. What is Abstinence Def: The conscious decision not to participate in sexual activity and the skill to support that decision. Sexual Intimacy: Sharing of sexual feelings and sexual contact. Emotional Intimacy: Sharing of thoughts and feelings, Respecting others.

14. Abstinence Cont…… Benefits are just as important for teens who have been/not been sexually active. Three Rs for Remaining Abstinent 1.Respect for self. 2.Respect for others. 3.Responsibility for your own actions.

15. Emotional and Social Benefits Social 1.Freedom for Friendships 2.Less complication 3.Better Relationships w/ parents 4.Better reputation among peers Emotional 1.Free from worry of STI’s 2.Time to develop maturity. 3.Sense of self- control 4.Staying true to your values.

16. SECTION 3 Coping with Pressures.

17. Pressures to be Sexually Active Internal Impulse a person feels to engage in a behavior. We all have a internal drive to reproduce. We attach emotional intimacy to sex. External Pressure from another person or group to engage it the behavior. 1.Boy/Girl friends 2.Media 3.Peers

18. Avoiding Pressure Situations ***Remember people who want you to go against your morals are usually not concerned with your well-being *** To avoid Pressure you should…… 1.Identify and avoid situations that could lead to sex 2.Avoid alcohol and drugs. 3.Date those who share your morals/values.

19. Refusing Verbally /Nonverbally Verbally 1.Clearly ID the problem 2.State your thoughts and feelings 3.State what you would like to happen 4.Explain results if change is/not made. Nonverbally ****Your body language and dress should match what your saying**** Stand up straight Look the person in the eyes Avoid laughter or other nervous behaviors.

20. Protective Factors Def: Anything that decreases the likelihood of someone engaging in a risky behavior. 1.Close relationship with parents. 2.Being involved in school activities. 3.Good performances in school. 4.Practicing religious beliefs. 5.Being committed to being sexually abstinent.

21. Risk Factors Def: Anything that increases the likelihood of injury, disease, or other negative health problems. 1.Alcohol and drug use. 2.Dating older people. 3.Sexually active friends. 4.Previous sexual activity.