1.  Why do we need friends?  How do we choose friends?  What is fundamental attribution error? Example?  What is a self-serving bias? Example?

2. Why do we need friends? 1)Need company when most afraid / anxious 2)) Need company when we are unsure of ourselves 3)Support in trying times

3. SMILE :-)

5.  10% Verbal / 90% nonverbal  Eye Contact  Body Language  Facial Expressions  Social Rules ex: Touching  When the verbal language and the body language don't match up...trust the body language... When the verbal language and the body language don't match up...trust the body language...

7. (Ellen Berscheid and Elaine Walster) Distinction between love as passion and love as friendly companionship  Passionate Love– Intense, sexual, high excitement, element of danger  Companionate Love– friendship, liking someone, closeness, stability - Most passionate love affairs = - Passion is pleasurable, but can be unstable - Can have both

9. Friendship+ Passion+ Time = CONSUMMATE LOVE True Love Ideal Relationship Romantic Love = Summer Love “Real World” Dating Companionate Love = Long-term, Marriage w/o passion Fatuous Love = Shallow, Trophy Wife, Shotgun / whirlwind wedding EMPTY LOVE “For the sake of the children”

10. Combinations of three components form different types of love  Liking based on intimacy, but not passion or commitment. close, intimate friendships with no long-term commitment; neighbor that moves away  Infatuation passion, with no intimacy or commitment. passionate attraction on sight, one night stand.  Empty Love commitment, lacking any intimacy or passion, lack of emotional warmth or heat of passion “tolerate” each other because of a false sense of duty, obligation, or fear of change  Romantic Love passion and intimacy, lacks commitment. "rose colored glasses"  Companionate Love intimacy and commitment w.o passion. A committed friendship and shared intimacy; EX: marriage where passion has dwindled or very close and intimate friendship that has survived through distance, hardship, and time.  Fatuous Love passion and commitment, but lacks intimacy. passion and commitment are combined before true intimacy can develop  Consummate Love Intimacy, commitment, and passion, perfectly matched