1. 6/12/2016

2.  What were you like as a child? Ex: Funny, mischievous, a whiner, etc. 6/12/2016

3. Get the guided notes out of the BW tray. 6/12/2016 Parenting Unit 5: Parenting Challenges

4.  Define terms related to parenting challenges (5.1) 6/12/2016

5. 1. ADHD - (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) - a learning disability in which a person is not able to control his or her activity or concentrate for a normal length of time 2. attention span - the length of time a person can concentrate on any one thing 3. autism - a disorder characterized by lack of communication, extreme concern with oneself, and detachment from reality 4. caregiver - a person that provides care for and meets the needs of someone else 5. crisis - an unstable or critical situation in which the outcome will make a decisive difference for better or worse 6. disabled child - a child unable to perform certain physical, mental, and/or emotional tasks 7. dual career family - a family in which both husband and wife are employed outside the home 6/12/2016

6. 8. gifted child - children with unusual intelligence, special artistic talents, and/or the ability to understand relationships and abstract ideas 9. hyperactive - being overly and uncontrollably active 10. inclusion - a term for enrolling special needs children into all areas of the curriculum 11. latch key child - a child who regularly goes home after school to an empty house or apartment 12. postpartum depression - feelings of sadness and hopelessness following the birth, delivery, and recovery period 13. prodigy - a gifted child 14. special needs child - a child identified as needing assistance to compensate for specific disabilities 6/12/2016

7. Use the following prompt to write a RAFT.  R (role)You are the new “Dr. Phil”  A (audience)Young parents  F (format)Letter  T (topic) “The challenges of parenting”  Be sure to include (and underline) FOUR vocabulary words.  Use the appropriate format for a letter with a greeting and salutation. 6/12/2016

8. Your Name Your address Date Greeting: ………………ljdaf;lkdjf;alsdjfl;askdjfls Ja;lkfdjl;sdajflk;sdajflsak;djflsdkjflksdajfklsdjfsld logansayshik;jaakldfj;akljfd;ladjfladkjfdsjl;kdjaf Salutation Your Name 6/12/2016

9. What do you THINK will be your biggest challenge when you take home your baby? Bell Ringer: 6/12/2016

10. Objectives: 1.Name specific concerns of a new parent (5.2) 2.Assess concerns a new parent may face (5.2.1) 6/12/2016

11. Name specific concerns of a new parent (5.2)  Physical and Emotional Changes  Adapting to New Routines  Handling Mixed Emotions  Gaining Confidence  Strengthening the Parent-Child Bond  Managing Multiple Roles  Developing a Support System

12. 6/12/2016 New Mothers Deal with… Physical Changes –Lochia—vaginal discharge –Episiotomy healing & Uterus shrinking Postnatal Care –Rest, Sleep, Nutrition, Check ups, Weight loss Hormones and Emotional Changes –Baby blues or Postpartum depression

13. Assess concerns a new parent may face (5.2.1) How would you deal with… –Care and safety of the newborn? –Postpartum depression? –New roles and responsibilities? –Financial adjustments? –Changes in routine? 6/12/2016

14. Bell Ringer: What are THREE things that would change about you or your life if you became a parent today? 6/12/2016

15. Objectives: I. List concerns unique to teen parents (5.3) II. Analyze specific concerns of teen parents (5.3.1) 6/12/2016

16. Just the Facts: 410,000 girls ages 15-19 give birth in the US each year.* 1,100 teens give birth every DAY—that’s almost 46 an hour. * 1 out of every 10 new mothers is a teenager.* The majority are Hispanic or African American, but there is a rise in the Caucasian population. WHY??? 6/12/2016 *--statistics from Congressional Research Service 2011

17. WHY??  Internal Pressures  Sexual Feelings  Reluctance to Communicate  Mistaken Ideas  Desire for Love and Attention  External Pressures  Societal pressures  Pressure from peers  Pressure from partners 6/12/2016

18. Objective: List concerns unique to teen parents Health Risks of Teen Pregnancy Risks to Teen: ◦With poor eating habits, her body competes with the fetus for limited nutrients ◦If skeletal structure is not fully developed, she can have spine and pelvic problems during pregnancy and birth ◦Teens are at higher risk for high blood pressure during pregnancy ◦Teens may have problems delivering the baby ◦A pregnant teen is 60% more likely to die during pregnancy than a 20 year old.* 6/12/2016 *--statistics from United States Health Department 2000

19. Objective: List concerns unique to teen parents Health Risks of Teen Pregnancy Risks to Baby: ◦More likely to have a miscarriage or stillbirth ◦More likely to be born premature and have low birth weight ◦More likely to suffer physically and mentally from mother’s diet 6/12/2016

20. The pattern continues… Effects on Children: ◦Children born to teens are 8-12 times more likely to be neglected, abandoned or abused.* ◦Sons of teen parents are more likely to spend time in prison. ◦Daughters of teen mothers tend to have sex and give birth at a younger age than other girls. ◦Babies born to teen mothers are TWO times more likely to die than babies born to women over age 20.* 6/12/2016 *--statistics from United States Health Department 2000

21. The pattern continues… Effects on Families: ◦Baby’s grandparents have to step in financially, emotionally and physically to take care of the new baby ◦Parents have to deal with social stigma of having an unwed child having a baby 6/12/2016

22. The pattern continues… Effects on Society: ◦The US government spends billions of dollars annually on expenses related to teen pregnancy ($9,000,000,000 annually)* ◦Loss of potential is a great cost to our society ◦The pattern continues! 6/12/2016 *--statistics from Congressional Research Service 2011

23. Objective: Analyze specific concerns of teen parents Challenges for Teens: ► Emotional Impact ► Teenage mothers have a higher rate of alcohol and drug abuse than teens who are not mothers.* ► Social Impact ► Teenage mothers are 3-5 times more likely to commit suicide.* ► Financial responsibility ► 80% of teen mothers have no support (emotionally or financially) from the father.* ► Educational and Employment Changes ► 50% of pregnant teens never graduate.* 6/12/2016 *--statistics from United States Health Department 2000

24. Get the worksheet on the front table. Read this over while I take roll. Bell Ringer: 6/12/2016

25. Bell Ringer: If you were to find out today that you were going to be a new parent, who do you know you could count on to be there for you? If you were to find out today that you were going to be a new parent, who do you know you could count on to be there for you?

26. 6/12/2016 Objective: List concerns unique to adult single parents (5.4) 1.Establishing a support network 2.Lack of quality time with the child 3.Unique financial challenges

27. 6/12/2016  There is no spouse to share the work load with.  Time, money and energy are usually stretched  They may need more support from others. What concerns would a single parent have that a nuclear family might not have?

28. Bell Ringer: Describe the perfect child-care situation. For example: would it be a day care or babysitter? How many other kids would be there? Ages of children? Location? Price? Curriculum? Facilities? 6/12/2016

29. Objective: List concerns unique to dual-career families (5.5) 1.Division of labor 2.Balancing work and family 3.Finding time for each other

30. 6/12/2016 What do couples as parents deal with?  Sharing Responsibilities  Discussing Parenting Philosophies  Making Time for Each Other  Communicating as a Couple

31. Talking Group Activity: Read the Parenting Scenarios and discuss how you would respond to each situation described. Prepare to discuss your ideas with the class. 6/12/2016

32. Application Apply Your Learning #1 p. 259 In groups of 2, answer A and B. Create a skit/drama displaying positive and/or negative ways to deal with these situations.

33. What are your options? (5.6) In Home Child Care Play groups Babysitting cooperatives Nannies and Au pairs Family Child Care Child Care Center Preschool Day care 6/12/2016

34. Objectives: Analyze factors that influence child care decisions (5.6.1) Identify child care options (5.6) Identify characteristics of quality child care (5.6.2) Evaluate child care options (5.6.3) 6/12/2016

35. Bell Ringer: Who do you want caring for your own children? A daycare, a preschool, a babysitter, or a stay-at-home parent? Why? 6/12/2016

36. What are some factors that influence child care decisions? (5.6.1) Child’s age, stage, personality and individual needs Parent’s needs, wants, goals & values Location, convenience & transportation available Days and hours the program or service is offered Quality and cost 6/12/2016

37. What are the Qualities you should look for? (5.6.2) Licensing and accreditation Licensing and accreditation Qualifications of director and staff Qualifications of director and staff Adult-child ratio Adult-child ratio Adequate space and equipment Adequate space and equipment Safety and security Safety and security 6/12/2016

38. Licensing and Accreditation n Licensing ensures that minimum standards for health, safety, and staff are being met. n Accreditation is available to facilities that meet certain standards of HIGH quality. 6/12/2016

39. Group Activity: In groups of 2-3, create a poster illustrating the qualities that YOU would look for in a child care center. Should list at least FIVE factors YOU would look for and at least THREE photos. 6/12/2016

40. Arkansas’ Minimum Licensing Requirements http://www.arkansas.gov/childcare/provinfo.html 6/12/2016

41. Pros/Cons: (5.6.3) Home based child care? Center based child care? Employee based child care? 6/12/2016

42. Framework #s 4.8, 4.9 Objectives: List challenges of parenting a special needs child (5.7)List challenges of parenting a special needs child (5.7) Explain challenges of parenting a special needs child (5.7.1)Explain challenges of parenting a special needs child (5.7.1) Outline appropriate responses to a special needs diagnosis (5.7.2)Outline appropriate responses to a special needs diagnosis (5.7.2)

43. 6/12/2016 Objective: List challenges of parenting a special needs child (5.7)

44. What are some characteristics of children with special needs? While every child is unique, some might be called EXCEPTIONAL.While every child is unique, some might be called EXCEPTIONAL. One child may have an unusually HIGH intelligence, or he/she may have an unusually LOW intelligence.One child may have an unusually HIGH intelligence, or he/she may have an unusually LOW intelligence. Both children are exceptional.Both children are exceptional.

45. What are some characteristics of children with special needs? Mental (Cognitive) Disability Unable to perform certain physical, mental, and/or emotional tasksUnable to perform certain physical, mental, and/or emotional tasks –intellectual function below average –unable to care for self or live independently –can care for self with assistance Physically Disabled –limited mobility, vision, hearing, speech –immobile, blind, deaf, mute

46. What are some characteristics of children with special needs? Learning Disability Learning Disability –Dyslexia… children have a difficult time with spelling and decoding letters Emotional & Behavioral Disorders –ADD… a learning disability in which a person is not able to control his or her activity or concentrate for a normal length of time –ADHD…A hyperactive (being overly and uncontrollably active) child may struggle in school –Depression and/or anxiety

47. Bell Ringer: n What would you do if your child had special needs? 6/12/2016

48. What are some characteristics of children with special needs? Pervasive Developmental Disabilities –Autism (disorder characterized by lack of communication, extreme concern with oneself, and detachment from reality) Gifted Children Children with unusual intelligence, special artistic talents, and/or the ability to understand relationships and abstract ideas)Children with unusual intelligence, special artistic talents, and/or the ability to understand relationships and abstract ideas) –above average intellectual abilities –extraordinary talent –often referred to as a prodigy (a gifted child) (a gifted child)

49. What are the requirements of children with special needs? They want to be treated like everyone else, especially their sibling (a brother or sister)They want to be treated like everyone else, especially their sibling (a brother or sister) Specific equipment if need is physicalSpecific equipment if need is physical –Crutches, braces, wheel chair –Hearing aids, sign language –Braille Specific education requirements for learning disabilitiesSpecific education requirements for learning disabilities –IEP, designated classroom –Inclusion (a term for enrolling special needs children into all areas of the curriculum) Challenges and outlets for gifted childrenChallenges and outlets for gifted children –Advanced course –Musical and Artistic experiences

50. What do you do if you (or your child) is diagnosed with a special need? (5.7.2) 1.ACT on diagnosed condition Don’t deny the condition! Don’t deny the condition! Inform school system and start treatment that is necessary. Inform school system and start treatment that is necessary. 2.EDUCATE family The more they know, the better they can help! The more they know, the better they can help! 3.Find SUPPORT Others who are going through a similar situation will understand and be able to offer hope! Others who are going through a similar situation will understand and be able to offer hope!

51. Bell Ringer: Get out a piece of paper and fold it in half like a hot dog.

52. Bell Ringer: What crisis has your family ever had to go through?What crisis has your family ever had to go through?

53. 6/12/2016 Describe parenting strategies to help children cope with a crisis (5.8) Objective

54. A change becomes a crisis when it is so overwhelming that one’s usual coping mechanisms are not enough. Coping with Change & Crisis

55. 6/12/2016 How can you help kids during a crisis? (5.8.1) Remain calm Listen to fears and worries Maintain routines Provide support Seek outside help if necessary

56. What should you do? Members should pull together to help each other meet their needs and cope with change. The family sets financial goals and work to meet them. (budgeting, cutting costs; prioritizing) Community resources are used when needed. (church, community; counseling) Professional help is used when needed. (doctor, counselor; therapist) 6/12/2016

57. Parental Stress Watch out for these common problems as an adult: Watch out for these common problems as an adult:  Denial  Fear & Anxiety  Guilt, Sadness & Depression  Anger

58. How do you help a child cope with… Moving? Separation & Divorce? Remarriage & Blended Families? Financial Problems? Substance Abuse? Violence?Death?

59. Moving:  Don’t announce move until it’s a “sure thing”.  If possible, visit the area before you move.  Involve children in activities in the neighborhood before the move.  Invite children to participate in the moving process.

60. Moving (continued):  Move at a time that creates the least distress and inconvenience.  Acknowledge the children’s feelings and concerns.  Establish routines in the new home as quickly as possible.  Be positive about a new environment.

61. Separation & Divorce:  Never rely on a child for emotional support  Don’t complain about the other parent to a child  Don’t argue in front of a child  Never use a child as a messenger  Don’t tell a child what to feel

62. Remarriage & Blended Families:  Realize that a new parent or sibling is going to be a difficult adjustment for your child.  Together, brainstorm ideas about how to resolve conflicts.  Don’t expect step-siblings to be best friends, but do insist on treating others with respect.

63. Financial Problems: Describe the situation in understandable terms Describe the situation in understandable terms Focus on the family’s strengths Focus on the family’s strengths Involve children in brainstorming ways to save money Involve children in brainstorming ways to save money Look for free or inexpensive activities to do together Look for free or inexpensive activities to do together Show appreciation for each member’s contributions Show appreciation for each member’s contributions Give progress updates at family meetings Give progress updates at family meetings

64. Bell Ringer: How have your parents taught you to deal with stressful situations? How have your parents taught you to deal with stressful situations?

65. Substance Abuse:  Don’t confront anyone who is under the influence  Nagging is not useful  Take care of yourself and seek help for the addicted person  Don’t deny the problem exists or make excuses for the person who is an addict

66. Violence: Clues that indicate a person’s tendency toward violence: Clues that indicate a person’s tendency toward violence:  Emotionally abusive behavior  Quick-tempered responses to small annoyances  “in your face” aggressive techniques for handling conflict  Threats of violence  Cruel treatment of family pets or other animals  Physically painful treatment of anyone  Fascination with lethal weapons

67. DEATH:  Death is confusing and hurtful to anyone, but especially children.  Be honest to them, don’t tell them that person will come back soon.  Accept occasional emotional outbursts, as children don’t know how to handle their emotions.  See the chart page 579 for ideas.

68. Objective: List resources available for parents facing challenges (5.9.1) Family members Neighbors Teachers Co-workers Clergy members Public agencies Private agencies Support groups 6/12/2016Chapter 26

69. 6/12/2016 Any Questions?