2. SELF-CONCEPT and SELF-ESTEEM

3. Close your eyes & think about a baby Newborn - “ You are so Cute! ” Smiles - Coos Rolls over - Sits up “ Just Adorable ” Starts to walk - falls down … “ You are so STUPID! Why can ’ t you walk like a normal person! ” Would this happen - no caregiver would still be positive, but sometime during a childhood this does change.

4. ? ? ? ? ? ? Does he give up? Does he get embarrassed when he falls or makes a mistake? Do the parent ’ s quit encouraging him? Does he make excuses?

5. What is Self-Esteem -Self Concept? TOTAL PICTURE A PERSON HAS OF HERSELF/HIMSELF Combines the traits, values, thoughts, and feelings you have of yourself.

6. Children are born with 100% self-esteem. Ask a child if they are pretty or handsome and they will probably say “ YES! ” –Clothes & Shoes: new or hand me downs –Hair - body - etc.

7. Someway, somehow society teaches us to hold back and doubt ourselves a little.

8. SELF-ESTEEM Cycle As I See Myself

9. SELF-CONCEPT Cycle As I See MYSELF My ACTIONS

10. SELF-CONCEPT Cycle As I See MYSELF My ACTIONS How OTHERS See Me

11. SELF-CONCEPT Cycle As I See MYSELF How Others My ACTIONS REACT to Me How OTHERS See Me

12. SELF-CONCEPT Cycle As I See MYSELF How Others My ACTIONS REACT to Me How OTHERS See Me

13. Self-Esteem List 5 important people in your life and WHY they are special. Think about your strengths & weakness in ELEMENTARY school. Think about your self-concept in Middle/Junior High School. What are your strengths & weaknesses now? Which list was easier to make? What do you need to do to become the person you want to be?Take one of your “weaknesses and set a goal to improve.

14. (I am the) Greatest -Sang by: Kenny Rogers -

15. Ways to promote a POSITIVE Self-Concept (handout) Treat children with LOVE & RESPECT Provide SUCCESSFUL experiences Object to BEHVAIOR - not the CHILD PRAISE child for achievements Avoid COMPETITION - always a loser / set individual goals Let them ACHIEVE & EXPLORE - Make mistakes Allow children to make CHOICES Release emotions in + way ENCOURAGE ACTIVITIES (art, music, sports, academics, etc.) LISTEN to them Clear EXPECTATIONS- Avoid power struggles

16. Ways to promote a POSITIVE Self-Concept (handout) Encourage INDEPENDENCE “Don’t do anything for a child that he can do for himself” Guide through LOVE not FEAR Be a good ROLE MODEL Nick-names - be positive - (we often become what we hear we are) Let children “overhear” positive comments about them HOORAY! OOPS! Hugs & Kisses

17. + COMMENTS (optional) Get in groups of 2-3 students. Give each group a piece of white paper and different colored pencils or markers. Brainstorm positive comments or different ways to say “ Good Job ”

18. (optional) Video: Successful Parenting Part 1: SELF ESTEEM IS THE KEY Active Parenting Publishers www.activeparenting.com

19. Note Card- (optional) Draw a picture of you as as child in your favorite childhood outfit. On back, 1 way someone (parent, grandparent, sibling, friend etc.) helped to build your self esteem.

20. Name Activity Page Complete the following information about your self using crayons, markers, colored pencils on an 8 1/2 x 11 inch paper NAME 3 things you love to do Favorite:FoodMovieAnimal An inanimate object that represents you represents you First & Last Initials: 2 words for each that describe you A person you admire and why?