1. Happy Marriage II

2. Recap From the outset- The Quranic perspectives What is marriage? Is there ever a happy marriage? Why marriage doesn’t work at times? Who sacrifices the most?

3. Recap… Cont. Pitfalls –Relationship based on adversaries –Equality vs equity –Try to change the other What men/women love the most?

4. 10 Basic Concepts 1.The Love Bank 2.Instincts and Habits 3.The most important emotional needs

5. The most important emotional needs 1.Affection 2.Fulfilment 3.Conversation 4.Recreation companionship 5.Honesty and openness 6.Physical attraction 7.Financial support 8.Domestic support 9.Family commitment 10.Admiration

6. 10 Basic Concepts 1.The Love Bank 2.Instincts and Habits 3.The most important emotional needs 4.The policy of undivided attention 5.Love busters

7. 6 Love Busters 1.Selfish Demands 2.Disrespectful Judgements 3.Angry outbursts 4.Annoying Habits 5.Independent behaviour 6.Dishonesty

8. 10 Basic Concepts 1.The Love Bank 2.Instincts and Habits 3.The most important emotional needs 4.The policy of undivided attention 5.Love busters

9. 10 Basic Concepts 6.Policy of radical honesty 7.The Giver and Taker 8.Three states of mind in marriage 1.Intimacy 2.Conflict 3.Withdrawal

10. 10 Basic Concepts 6.Policy of radical honesty 7.The Giver and Taker 8.Three states of mind in marriage 9.Policy of Joint Agreement Never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse

11. 10 Basic Concepts 6.Policy of radical honesty 7.The Giver and Taker 8.Three states of mind in marriage 9.Policy of Joint Agreement 10.Four Guidelines for Successful negotiation

12. Four Guidelines for Successful negotiation 1.Ground Rules Be pleasant Safety comes first Park when reaching an impasse 2.Identify the problem from both perspectives 3.Creatively brainstorm with abundance 4.Choose solution based on Policy of mutual agreement

13. 10 Basic Concepts - Summary 1.The Love Bank 2.Instincts and Habits 3.The most important emotional needs 4.The policy of undivided attention 5.Love busters 6.Policy of radical honesty 7.The Giver and Taker 8.Three states of mind in marriage 9.Policy of Joint Agreement 10.Four Guidelines for Successful negotiation