1. Approaches to Parenting
Chapter 3

3. Vocabulary Working in pairs Define the following words
Use your phones to look up the definitions
Define the following words
Authoritarian (google “Authoritarian Style parenting”
Authoritative
Permissive
Uninvolved
Identify characteristics
Examples
Non- Examples

4. What Influences Parenting?
The kind of person you are and the experiences you have will shape the parent you become.
Two major influences are:
1. Personal Influences
2. Outside Influences

5. Personal Influences on Parenting…
Parenting is affected by qualities and attitudes within you.
1. Personality:
Personality is your special blend of intellectual, emotional, and social traits.
A parent’s personality has a strong impact on children. Positive and negative personalities can be passed from parent to child.
As you grow, you can gain greater control over how your personality develops.

6. Remember… Improving your personality can benefit the entire family…
Some traits can truly hurt children…
Bad tempers
A distant mother or father
Absence of affection within a family
Improving your personality can benefit the entire family…
A person with a temper can learn to control his/her emotions.
A person who doesn’t show affection can work on being more expressive.

7. 2. Feelings about children…
Feelings go far beyond if you like or dislike children.
What you believe about children influences the environment you create within your own home.
Beliefs about how children spend their early years
Opinions about what children learn and when and what behavior is reasonable
Your own memories

8. Assignment Write one paragraph about your best childhood memory.
Write one paragraph about your worst childhood memory.
(5 sentences each)

9. Ticket out the door…
Create a list of parenting goals that you might set for yourself and your future family.
What things do you want for your children?
What do you want to do as a parent?
What kind of parent do you want to be?

10. 3. Parenting Values…
What you think is most important for parenting is your parenting values.
EX: Financial security – Is spending time with children more important than money? Is a good education needed for parenting?

11. 4. Parenting Goals…
A goal is a conscious target that requires planning and effort to reach.
They force you to think about where you are headed and what steps are needed to get there.

12. Outside Influences on Parenting…
All the experiences you are having now as you move towards adulthood are contributing to what you will be like if you parent.

13. 1. Families and Culture…
The way people live makes up their culture.
Culture is linked to:
Religions Language you speak
Ethnic Heritage Customs you follow
Food you eat Values and Beliefs
-Within a culture, each generation teaches the next about educating and guiding children.
Different cultures may follow different values, but that does not mean one is better than the other.

14. These can affect parents on both levels-individual as well as social.
2. Economic Conditions…
These can affect parents on both levels-individual as well as social.
With 2 working parents it is hard to get everything done at home and this sometimes takes away from family time.
Money certainly is not the key to happiness, but without financial worries, positive parenting is easier.

15. A Healthy Economy means people can buy more with their money…
People who barely get by have problems.
When companies downsize, money can be lost.
It is a good idea to have children when you are financially prepared.
It is a good idea to build a nest egg by regularly saving money.
Improving job skills can give people the chance to find a better job.

16. 3. Social Policies… People can ruin things for the rest of society.
Protective laws are enacted to insure that parents live up to their responsibilities.
Family Law covers:
Welfare, domestic relations,
divorce, child abuse,
adoption and child care.

17. Social change affects ideas about parenting:
4. Parental Roles…
Social change affects ideas about parenting:
Long ago, parental duties were clearly divided by gender.
Now two parents are working and sharing in the parental duties.
Children’s views on parenting are influenced by what is seen at home and what’s going on around them.

18. Theorists study and promote child development.
5. Theories…
After gaining more knowledge you are able to understand your children better.
Theorists study and promote child development.
Child Development authorities use developmental theory to explain children’s behavior.

19. Theorists study children in different age groups:
Infant: Birth to 1 year
Toddler: 1 to 3 years
Preschooler: 3 to 5 years
School-Age: 5 to Puberty
Adolescent: Puberty to Adulthood
Puberty is reached when you enter the stage of development when you are physically capable of reproduction.

20. Parenting Styles

21. Developing a Parenting Style…
Parenting style is the way a parent consistently interacts with children.
Your parenting style is a result from everything that influences a person’s ideas about raising children.
4 Parenting Styles include:
1. Authoritarian
2. Authoritative
3. Permissive
4. UnInvolved

22. Authoritarian Parents: Strong leaders; ultimate and supreme rulers.
Make most decisions concerning their children and expect children to accept their judgment.
Set standards for behavior, and expect children to meet them.
They require their children to obey at all times and to not question authority.
Strict with discipline and punishment, these parents value compliance above all else.

23. Authoritarian Children:
Not socially capable, lack self esteem or may be openly defiant.
They also have been found to be deficient in leadership abilities, be incapable of decision making and to not be innovative thinkers.
Feel secure, knowing parents are in charge.
They know clearly what behaviors are allowed and what behaviors are not.
Usually have limited failure and disappointment since parental decisions are based on experiences and knowledge of life.

24. Authoritative/ Democratic
Parents:
Believe that children deserve a say in matters that affect them.
Give the child a significant voice in making rules and deciding the penalty for breaking them.
Look at individual circumstances when making decisions.
Children are gradually allowed to make their own decisions, with parents giving as much input as needed.
Permit children to ask questions, but in the end the parents are the final decision makers of the household.
Demand results from their children, but reach this end objective by guiding their children through discussion, caring direction and involvement.

25. Authoritative/Democratic
Children:
Move easily towards independence.
They learn through practice to make wiser decisions and gain confidence.
Usually these children are very social, do well in school and have high self esteem.
They are competent, have high leadership qualities, and do well with original thinking and concepts.

26. Permissive Parents: Allow children to have the greatest freedom.
Give children all the decision making responsibility they can handle, offering guidance and protection when needed.
Set few rules but make their expectations known.
Fewer penalties are imposed for their children’s actions.
Let children experience the consequences of their choices.
Often adapted by parents who were raised by authoritarians, and who wish to parent their own children in a completely opposite manner.
Creativity and originality are highly prized in this family.

27. Permissive
Children:
Rely on their own abilities which helps them solve problems creatively and learn lessons from their experiences.
Children from permissive parents are often impulsive, and lack discipline and follow through.
These children are also often bored and expect others to take care of them, even when they reach adulthood.

28. Uninvolved Parenting Parents:
Are emotionally distant from their children
Offer little or no supervision
Show little warmth, love, and affection towards their children
Have few or no expectations or demands for behavior
Don't attend school events and parent-teacher conferences
May intentionally avoid their children
Are often too overwhelmed by their own problems to deal with their children

29. Uninvolved Parenting Children: Must learn to provide for themselves
Fear becoming dependent on other people
Are often emotionally withdrawn
Tend to exhibit more delinquency during adolescence
Feel fear, anxiety, or stress due to the lack of family support
Have an increased risk of substance abuse

30. Making Parenting Styles Work…
Choose a style that feels right for you.
Consider the child’s personality.
Use each style in moderation.
Identify areas where the two parent’s styles conflict.
Parents can blend styles depending on the situation.
Remember that children need to know what to expect from parents so they can respect you and learn not to take advantage of you. Without expectations, children quickly loose confidence in their parents.

31. Create your own parenting scenario
Choose a style
Permissive
Authoritarian
Authoritative
Uninvolved
Working in group of 2 or 3
Create scenario to act out in front of class
Your classmates will be guessing your parenting style
You only have 10 minutes

32. What Is My Style?
Following the beliefs of their parents and grandparents, the Colburns feel that “children should be seen and not heard” in public. The Colburns work very hard in their farming and dairy business and save money for their children’s college education. Mr. Colburn has selected the schools their children will attend. Periodically, Mr. and Mrs. Colburn have disagreements about how to rear their children.
Mr. Colburn was raised in a strict household in which women did the housework and related chores; children were expected to work to help support the family. Mrs. Colburn and her mother were very close. Mrs. Colburn remembers the gentle ways of her family and her upbringing and tries to bring that to her parenting. She wants more input from her children on their future goals. Mr. Colburn thinks she is sometimes too soft. For the children’s sake, they have tried to talk to each other about their different feelings.

33. The Colburns….
What are the factors that have influenced the Colburn’s parenting style ?
a. Their belief that “children should be seen and not heard.”
b. Role models
c. Farming lifestyle
d. Work ethic from a rural environment
e. Parenting style of the Colburn’s own parents
f. Child rearing goals
g. Cultural background
h. Personality
i. Economic conditions
j. The way the family interacts with each other
k. Wanting to send their children to college

34. 2. What is the Parenting Style (s) of Mr. & Mrs. Colburn?
Mr. Colburn Mrs. Colburn Authoritarian Democratic

35. 3. What personality traits of the Colburn’s influenced their parenting styles?
Mr. Colburn Mrs. Colburn controlling sensitive commanding caring independent understanding determined supportive 4. Which parenting style would you use? Why? 5. What factors in your life influence the parenting style you think you would use?

36. Name that Parenting Style!!!
Mr. and Mrs. Elridge feel that their children are important people who have valuable contributions to make in the family.
Democratic

37. Name that Parenting Style!!!
A parent that expects unquestioning obedience.
Authoritarian

38. Name that Parenting Style!!!
Mandi arrived 5 minutes late for the family meal, because of an unexpected practice after school. Mandi knew the usual punishment: she would be grounded for a week.
Authoritarian

39. Name that Parenting Style!!!
A parent that is more concerned with being their child's friend than parent.
Permissive

40. Name that Parenting Style!!!
The parent's word is law; parents have absolute control.
Authoritarian

41. Name that Parenting Style!!!
Parents set limits and enforce family rules.
Authoritative

42. Name that Parenting Style!!!
Anita tried her very best to win the track meet to please her parents. Anita really didn’t care much about running, but her parents enjoyed the sport and wanted her to participate.
Authoritarian

43. Name that Parenting Style!!!
Mr. and Mrs. Scott allowed their son to make his own decision about staying up late on a school night to watch a ball game. They told him, however, that he had to be up and ready for school at the usual time, tired or not.
Permissive

44. Name that Parenting Style!!!
Listens to concerns and requests of children. Gives reasons for decisions and home rules.
Democratic

45. Name that Parenting Style!!!
Tom and Carol held their 16 year old daughter’s birthday party in their backyard. To give their daughter and her friends privacy, they went out to a movie.
Permissive

46. Name that Parenting Style!!!
Non-controlling, non-demanding; children walk all over the parents.
Permissive

47. Name that Parenting Style!!!
The Andersons sat down with their 3 children and together as a family devised a list of rules for the whole family to follow.
Democratic

48. Create your own parenting scenario
Choose a style
Permissive
Authoritarian
Authoritative
Uninvolved
Working in group of 2 or 3
Create scenario to act out in front of class
Your classmates will be guessing your parenting style
You only have 10 minutes

49. Homework
Complete the parenting style questions

50. Ticket out the door
What style of parenting best describes the way your parents raised you?
What do you like best about the way you were raised?
What do you like least about how you were raised?

51. World’s Strictest Parents

52. Forming a Parenting Philosophy
An approach to parenting can be consciously formed or simply allowed to happen.
Everything you learn about parenting will help shape your thinking.
As your thoughts and ideas come together, you will form a philosophy, or a set of beliefs that describes your approach to raising children.
Your philosophy will guide in your parenting.
Many people put their parenting philosophy into action, even though they have never put it into words.
Being true to these beliefs and values will always help you be where you want to be as a parent.

53. What is your parenting philosophy?

54. YOUR parenting philosophy
Write a parenting Philosophy essay, by describing your own parenting philosophy at this point in your life.
Begin with these statements, “I believe that a parent should…” or “To me parenting means…”
“What does it mean to be a parent?”
“Which parenting style do you think you would use?”
Give reasons why you think this approach would be most effective for you, your spouse, and your children.
10 sentences total!!!
Peer review… help each other look for errors and strengthen ideas!