2.  While sitting at lunch with your friends everyone starts making fun of another friend.  How do you feel..  What do you do.. ◦ Join in.. ◦ Step in..

3.  A Peer ◦ is someone in your own age group.  Pressure ◦ pushed toward making a certain choice.  Peer Pressure ◦ someone your own age, is pushing you toward making a certain choice

4.  Spoken vs. Unspoken Spoken: Something said to you directly A lso called direct pressure. A person asks you directly to do something, or says things to you that push you toward a certain choice. Unspoken: When you feel you are supposed to do something Also called indirect pressure. Nothing is actually said to you, but because you see others doing something, you feel pressure to do the same.

5.  Sometime the pressure we put on ourselves can be the hardest!!

6.  PUT DOWN  Insulting or name calling to make someone feel bad  (Spoken Pressure)

7.  REASONING  Giving reasons to do something or why it would be OK  (Spoken pressure)

8.  REJECTION  Threatening to leave someone out or end a friendship  (spoken pressure)

9.  THE HUDDLE  A GROUP STANDS TOGETHER LAUGHING OR TALKING, WITH THEIR BACKS TO OTHERS  (UNSPOKEN)

10.  The EXAMPLE  Popular kids simply buy or wear something, because they set an example, others want to follow  (Unspoken)

11.  THE LOOK  Kids who think they’re cool give a look that means: we’re cool, and you’re not”  (Unspoken pressure)

12.  Examples of Positive pressures Honor Roll Make a team/club Follow the rules Respect others Exercise groups Group Fitness Running group

13.  Examples of Negative pressures Underage drinking/smoking Gossiping Stealing Fighting Bullying Ditching a friend

14.  I …. … want to be accepted and liked by people my own age. … are afraid of being rejected … don’t want to lose a friend … want to appear grown up … don’t want to be made fun of … don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings … aren’t sure of what they really want … don’t know how to get out of the situation

15.  S.T.O.P.  Stay calm  Tell why not  Offer other ideas  Promptly leave

16.  Aggressive:  Overly forceful, pushy, hostile  Passive Giving up, giving in, backing down, easy to persuade.  Assertive  Confidence and clearly stating your intentions

17.  “Everyone’s Doing it” “You’re wrong… I’m not doing it”  “A real friend would do it” “A real friend wouldn't ask” “Are you afraid?” “No, just smart”

18.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o6LcPfnw Gec http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o6LcPfnw Gec

19.  Role play each scenario  Yellow = assertive responses  Purple = aggressive responses  Gray = passive responses  Which response worked best?