1. By Jon Sinn www.Sinnsofattraction.com

2.  In the past 2 videos, we’ve covered:  Picking your destination:  The correct Mindset for getting a girlfriend.  How to figure what kind of of girl you want.  How to use Filtered venues to meet your new girlfriend.  Lift Off:  How to attract her using girlfriend game.  Today we’re going to cover qualification and framing as well as how to set up the perfect 1 st date.

3.  Qualification is the most important part of a pick-up.  A girl is qualifying herself, anytime she tries to influence your opinion of her in a positive way.  During qualification we want to do the following:  Give the girl reasons we like her other than her looks, build investment, and see if she lives up to our standards.

4.  You will need to keep qualifying the girl throughout your entire relationship.  As Chris Rock once said : “ Girls need water, air and compliments.”  Qualification also takes different forms depending on where you are in the interaction.  Let’s take a look at the different forms of qualification and the mechanisms that make them work.

5.  Qualification changes with the rest of the interaction as you go through various stages of the interaction.  In Social Comfort we are NOT going to qualify at all.  In Attraction we’re going to qualify using pushbacks or cocky funny qualifiers.  Once we have attraction we’re going to use Bait-Hook- Reel-Release-Rapport to get the girl to answer an obviously qualifying question.  Once a girl has answered a large qualifier, you’re going to use Compliment based qualification to let her know why you like her and see if she fits your standards.

6.  Once we’ve gotten some social comfort, we want to start trying to “Ping” for qualification by using pushbacks  A pushback is an unflattering but NOT insulting tease you use to see if a girl cares what you think of her.  EX: You’re totally a dork I can tell. You love those Twilight books.  You can also use Cocky Funny qualifiers which the girl should obviously know are jokes but if she plays along she’s subtly qualifying herself.  Ex: “Can you cook?” “ Are you rich?”

7.  Once you’ve gotten a girl attracted to you, it’s time to escalate the qualification using a series of questions and utilizing the Bait-Hook-Reel- Release-Rapport system and compliments.  The Bait-Hook-Reel-Release system was created by Mystery of VH1’s The Pickup Artist. I modified it a bit over the years.

8.  Bait happens when we ask a question that represent a quality we’re looking for in a girl. These questions should start innocently.  Hook is when she answers. Girls will not answer for 1 of 2 reasons.  Reel is where you compliment the girl. The more specific you can be in telling her why you like her, the better it will work.  Release is not always necessary but is helpful if the girl is uncomfortable taking the compliments.  Rapport is the most crucial part as you need to show genuine interest in what you are asking about or it will look forced.

9.  Once a girl answers an obviously qualifying question like “ What’s your best quality?” we can move to more compliment based qualification.  With compliment based qualification we’re going to compliment her on the qualities we like in her or want her to have more of.  Let’s take a look at how to give compliments the right way.

10.  When it comes to qualifying with compliments, we want to do a couple of things to maximize our effectiveness.  1. Start with the compliments based on her behavior.  2. Explain WHY you like that.  3. Prep her for further escalation by telling her you’re attracted to her, want to get into her pants, etc…  4. Release the tension with a tease. Because you’ve escalated you now need to release that tension by pushing her away and making her more comfortable moving forward. 

11.  Frames are the underlying meaning of every interaction.  Frames help us to understand situations, other people’s intentions and help us make things cooperative.  When it comes to getting a great girlfriend, we want to set very specific 5 frames.

12.  The 5 Girlfriend Getting Frames are:  You, her, us model for framing  1. She is looking for a relationship  2. You like being in a relationship  3. She is loyal  4. You are Honest  5. You both Don’t usually connect to people like this

13.  The She’s looking for a relationship frame is crucial because where a girl is in her life determines a lot of whether or not you’re going to be able to make her your girlfriend.  Ex:  “ You know, a lot of people are really into just partying and hooking up, but I can tell from talking to you that you’re not like that. You’re more of a long term relationship girl. Right?”

14.  The next thing you want to frame is the idea that you like being in a relationship. It’s important to keep the idea of like rather than need, it’s subtle but important.  Ex:  “ It’s kinda weird to say this now a days, but I really am more of a relationship person. I like being single, but I prefer having someone to come home to at the end of the day and building something more special.”

15.  Loyalty is very important in a relationship and also is more of a relationship quality, which conveys you’re serious about looking for a long term relationship.  Ex:  “ I get the feeling that you build walls around yourself and it’s not easy to get in with you but once someone is in, they’re in for life. I bet you’re a phenomenally loyal person. “

16.  Honesty is one of the most important qualities women look for in men as men can (and do) say anything to get a woman in bed and then disappear.  You should actually aim for as much honesty as possible with a girl you’re looking to make your girlfriend.  Ex:  “ The most important thing to me, is trying to be honest with people. I just think it’s way easier and you end up with a lot less problems in the long run, plus I’m a bad liar and would likely forget my lies anyway “

17.  One of the things that I’ve noticed makes a big difference is pointing out how much you and the girl connect.  By putting a lot of emphasis on this initially you get the girl to agree and it becomes fact.  Ex:  “ This is really weird but I feel like I don’t usually get along with people this well. I can tell you don’t either, this is kinda weird, but in a good way, I almost feel like I’ve known you longer than I have.”

18.  Once you’ve qualified and set a few of the GF frames, it’s time to end our 1 st interaction by setting up a perfect 1 st date.  The formula for setting up a perfect first date is simple.  1. Tell her you have a great idea.  2. Keep it a surprise but elude to things she likes.  3. Invite her the right way  4. Set it up for a specific day, place and time.

19.  Normally I recommend inviting all girls on the same date.  Don’t do this with a girl you’re really interested in.  If you can actually come up with a great first date based on some of the things you have qualified her for or have seen she’s interested in.  If you can’t keep it a surprise tell her what it is based on her interests.

20.  When you ask a girl out who you’re interested in making your GF you should use the following phrase.  “ I think you would be the perfect person to take to and I want you to come with me.”  Also be sure to be specific about the day, place and time the date will happen and if you can pull it off what she should wear.

21.  This was a super information packed video, so you may want to review it again to make sure you grasped everything we covered:  What qualification  How to qualify throughout the interaction  What framing is  How to set the 5 GF getting frames.  How to set up the perfect GF getting date.

22.  In this exercise, I want you to take the qualities you were looking for in a woman from video 1, and turn them into BHRRR questions and compliments.

23.  In our next video, we’re going to be covering the Girlfriend getting first date, and how to handle dating before and after sex.  Stay tuned for that!