1. COACHING: RELATIONSHIP-BASED LEARNING PARTNERING WITH YOUR COACH TO PROMOTE AND SUSTAIN YOUR PROGRAMS!

2. COACHING IS NOT…… 1. A Top- Down Relationship. 2. A Goal of Forced Change. 1. A Partnership Without Boundaries.

3. COACHING IS….. “An adult learning strategy in which the coach promotes the learner’s ability to reflect on his or her actions as a mean to determine the effectiveness of an action and develop a plan for refinement and use of the action immediate and future situation” (Rush & Shelden, 2005).

4. COACHING IS: Relationship-Based Learning! It can be further defined as a purposeful and methodical process of individual support by utilizing a partnership that uses a variety of strategies over a defined period of time to enrich delineated impacts and achieve mutual goals (Francis Institute).

5. COMPARING COACHING TO ….. ComponentsConsultationRelationship-Learning Coaching PurposeSolve ProblemsUtilize Strengths RelationshipTop-DownShared Power Goals and ObjectivesExpert-DrivenCreated and Agreed Upon Goals DutiesExpert ResponsibleResponsibility Shared (with boundaries) ResultsSkill DevelopmentSustainability

6. COMPARING COACHING TO ….. ComponentsMentorRelationship-Learning Coaching PurposeDeveloping Leadership Skills Utilize Strengths RelationshipMentor is Considered Expert (Power) Shared Power Goals and ObjectivesMentees Create Goals.Created and Agreed Upon Goals DutiesMentee’s Responsibilities Responsibility Shared (with boundaries) ResultsSkills AppliedSustainability

7. RELATIONSHIP-BASED LEARNING Relationship-based learning via coaching involves the following principles: The partnership is based on equality. The partnership is based on respect. Positive and active communication is utilized. Collaboration is a core component in all coaching programs. The partnership includes an united vision and goals by sharing the power, authority, and decision-making.

8. ROLES CoachesGranteesShared Roles Understand CYFAR regulations/requiremen ts. Share goals based on the needs assessment and CYFAR regulations. Learn changes in CYFAR via professional development and collaboration. Encourage grantees to choose specific goals for partnership. Collaborate with coach on strategies to meet the needs/requirements. Explore filters and/or beliefs and self-reflect on how they may be inhibiting goal achievement. Set boundaries for the relationship. Share expectations of the Coach and his or her role. Address implementation issues via a shared timeline and duty sheet. Respect grantees by following through with commitments and/or responsibilities. Respect Coaches by following through with commitments and/or responsibilities. Approach responsibilities with respect and positive communication.

9. RELATIONSHIP-BASED LEARNING Positive Communication is VITAL to Relationship-Based Learning. Positive Verbal, Para-Verbal, and Non-Verbal language must be utilized at all times. The “Communication Moment” is as often as important as the words within the conversation. Clarification is an essential strategy of positive communication. Paraphrasing is a preventative strategy. “Collective Understanding” must be achieved within the Communication Moment. The final strategy in positive communication is summarizing.

10. INTENTION VERSUS PERCEPTION Perspective Components Awareness Filters Responses

11. MY BAD! “ Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for MeaningViktor E. FranklMan's Search for Meaning

12. THE 4 R’S OF EMOTIONS 1.Respect 2.Recognition 3.Regulation 4.Responsiveness

13. HEARING IS NOT ALWAYS LISTENING Ineffective ListeningActive Listening Distracted ListeningCommunication Moment Problem-Solving ListeningClarifying Me Too! ListeningEmpathetic Listening Samo/SamoRespectful Listening

14. PARAPHRASING 101 Types of ParaphrasingStatements Validating and ConfirmingWhat you are saying, In other words, What I am hearing, Could you say that again…I want to make sure I understand. PacingYou are concerned about, You hope, A piece of the puzzle is. ReframingYou want to make sure you, Your overall goal is, You really value.

15. SUSTAINING A RELATIONSHIP Relationships are considered an adaptable connection. They are constantly changing and it is of utmost importance to attend to the relationship on a regular basis. Relationship Check-In Questions: 1. Am I attending to and respecting my commitment to the relationship? 2. Am I respecting my emotions and reactions in connection with the Coach/Coachee relationship?

16. SUSTAINING A RELATIONSHIP 3. Do I feel that my Coach/Coachee is attending to and respecting the commitment to the relationship? If not- do I have a strategy to address this issue? 4. Do the goals and objectives, shared vision, or commitment need to be revisited? 5. Does more information and/or professional development need to be available to meet the goals and objectives, shared vision or commitment?