2. Myths About Marriage

3. Myths About Marriage Myths About Marriage 1) 1)All You Need Is Love   Truth: You will need a lot more than love.

4. “I Got You, Babe” – Sonny & Cher, 1965 [HER:] They say our love won't pay the rent Before it's earned, our money's all been spent… … [HER:] So let them say your hair's too long 'Cause I don't care, with you I can't go wrong… [HIM:] Then put your little hand in mine There ain't no hill or mountain we can't climb

5. “All You Need Is Love” – Beatles, 1967 “Love is All You Need”

6. Myths About Marriage Myths About Marriage 1) 1)All You Need Is Love 2) 2)Marriages fail because people “fall out of love”.   Truth: Marriages fail because people stop nurturing love.

7. Marriages fail because people stop nurturing love. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 (NKJV) 4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8. Marriages fail because people stop nurturing love. 7 Love “Dos” 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 (NKJV) 4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

9. Marriages fail because people stop nurturing love. 8 Love “Don’ts” 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 (NKJV) 4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

10. Three Major Causes of Divorce, Cathy Meyer Laziness: “People don't want to work at marriage.” Lack of Communication Skills: “people don't know how to talk to each other and they know even less about listening.” High Expectations: “Marital expectations rarely align with the realities of what life is like inside marriage.”

11. Myths About Marriage Myths About Marriage 1) 1)All You Need Is Love 2) 2)Marriages fail because people “fall out of love”. 3) 3)People should marry to be happy.   Truth: Marriage is for holiness, not happiness.

12. Marriage is for holiness, not happiness. Malachi 2:14–16 (NKJV) 14 Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the L ORD has been witness Between you and the wife of your youth, With whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion And your wife by covenant. 15 But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. 16 “For the L ORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the L ORD of hosts. Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.

13. Marriage is for holiness, not happiness. 1 Peter 1:14–16 (NKJV) 14 as obedient children, not conforming yourselves to the former lusts, as in your ignorance; 15 but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, 16 because it is written, “Be holy, for I am holy.”

14. Marriage is for holiness, not happiness. 1 Corinthians 7:1–5 (NKJV) 1 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

15. Myths About Marriage Myths About Marriage 1) 1)All You Need Is Love 2) 2)Marriages fail because people “fall out of love”. 3) 3)People should marry to be happy. 4) 4)The basis for marriage is pleasure.   Truth: The basis of marriage is a promise.

16. The Basis of Marriage is Promise Ecclesiastes 5:4–6 (NKJV) 4 When you make a vow to God, do not delay to pay it; For He has no pleasure in fools. Pay what you have vowed— 5 Better not to vow than to vow and not pay. 6 Do not let your mouth cause your flesh to sin, nor say before the messenger of God that it was an error. Why should God be angry at your excuse and destroy the work of your hands?

17. Myths About Marriage Myths About Marriage 1) 1)All You Need Is Love 2) 2)Marriages fail because people “fall out of love”. 3) 3)People should marry to be happy. 4) 4)The basis for marriage is pleasure. 5) 5)Marriage is about personal rights.   Truth: Marriage is About Personal Responsibility.

18. Marriage is about personal responsibility. Ephesians 5:22–33 (NKJV) 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and…as their own bodies…33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

19. Myths About Marriage Myths About Marriage 1) 1)All You Need Is Love 2) 2)Marriages fail because people “fall out of love”. 3) 3)People should marry to be happy. 4) 4)The basis for marriage is pleasure. 5) 5)Marriage is about personal rights. 6) 6)Marriage is held together by fulfillment.   Truth: Marriage is held together by commitment.

20. Marriage is held together by commitment. Matthew 19:3–9 (NKJV) 3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” 4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’ ? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” 7 They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?” 8 He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”