1. DRAFT ONLY I Like, I Love, I Need. How Do I Live Happily Ever After? Patrick F. Fagan, Ph.D. Catholic University of America March 24, 2010

2. DRAFT ONLY Rejection

3. DRAFT ONLY

4. Annual Rejection Ratio: For Every 100 Children Sources: CDC/ NCHS report series 0.0 10.0 20.0 30.0 40.0 50.0 60.0 70.0 80.0 90.0 100.0 1950195519601965197019751980198519901995199819992000 Divorce OWB

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7. The Five Basic Institutions Five Basic Tasks Church Family School Government Market InstrumentalRelational

8. DRAFT ONLY Fundamental Capacities Reflection Sexuality Intelligence Force / Benevolence Work

9. DRAFT ONLY Fundamental Tasks Of the Individual Church Family School Gov Market

10. DRAFT ONLY Society’s Foundational Relationship

11. DRAFT ONLY Fundamental Tasks Of the Family Church Family School Gov Market Church Family School Gov Market Church Family School Gov Market

12. DRAFT ONLY Fundamental Tasks Of Society Church Family School GovMarket Church Family School Gov Market Church Family School GovMarket Church Family School Gov Market Couple Family

13. DRAFT ONLY Fundamental Needs Of Society Goodness & Meaning To Mate & Produce the Next Generation To Know Safety & Justice Material Goods

14. DRAFT ONLY Belonging: Male + Female Family Child / Adult FatherMother Society At Large

15. DRAFT ONLY Education

16. DRAFT ONLY MEDIAN LIFETIME EARNINGS BY HIGHEST EDUCATIONAL ATTAINMENT, 2009 DOLLARS Source: http://www9.georgetown.edu/grad/gppi/hpi/cew/pdfs/collegepayoff-complete.pdfp. P. 3

17. DRAFT ONLY Educational Attainment / Life Earnings (in millions)

18. DRAFT ONLY 2.9 2.6 2.5 2.6 2.5 2.30 2.40 2.50 2.60 2.70 2.80 2.90 Average GPA Enligsh/Math Combined INTACTSTEPCOHABIT (BOTH NATURAL) COHABIT (ONE NATURAL) DIVORCEDNEVER MARRIED GPA English/Math by Family Structure Source: Adolescent Health Survey, Wave I. Adolescents grade 7-12.

19. DRAFT ONLY School Expulsion School Expulsion Source Add Health Wave II 1996

20. DRAFT ONLY

21. Educational Attainment Ideal

22. DRAFT ONLY Educational Attainment

23. DRAFT ONLY MARKET PLACE

24. DRAFT ONLY Income

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27. Belonging and Rejection Ratio for the US, 2008 Source: Am. Comm Survey 2008 45.4 54.6 0 10 20 30 40 50 60 BELONGINGREJECTION

28. DRAFT ONLY Index of Belonging, Ethnic Groups Source: American Community Survey 2008 23.8% 40.2% 53.8% 62.0% 17.4% 45.4% 0.0% 10.0% 20.0% 30.0% 40.0% 50.0% 60.0% 70.0% U.S.BlackAmerican Indian & Alaskan Native Hispanic White Asian

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30. % Professional Class (Males) “Not Working” - US Total single Cohab Married Unemployed Fraction of Occupation Class

31. DRAFT ONLY % “Unskilled” Not Working: US Total

32. DRAFT ONLY Black Men (25-54) Marriage by Education Level HS Grads College GradsProfessionals / Grad School 2 - H S 3 - College 1- HS Drop Out 4 - Professional

33. DRAFT ONLY Black Unemployment by Marriage (pink) and non-Marriage (blue) CPS Data Bureau of Labor Statistics HS Drop OutHS Grads College GradsProfessionals / Grad School 1- HS Drop Out 2 - H S 3 - College 4 - Professional

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35. $100 $27 $127 0 20 40 60 80 100 120 140 Comparative Income % Average Unmarried MalePremiumAverage Married Male Marriage Premium in Male Income Source Antovics, K. & Town, R. Am Econ Review V 94, (2004) pp 317-321 +=

36. DRAFT ONLY Savings

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38. 199 3

39. DRAFT ONLY Poverty

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42. Of All Black Children (100%): % in Poverty or Not by Married or Unmarried Parents Married Not in Poverty Married In Poverty Not Married Not in Poverty Source: Bureau of the Census, Current Population Survey, 1998 40 35 30 15 5 Not Married In Poverty 25 20 10 0 MARRIED NOT-MARRIED IN POVERTY NOT IN POVERTY

43. DRAFT ONLY 3.93 Million Children 3.17 Million Children 0.75 Million Children Unmarried Parents Same Parents If Married Source R Rector (Heritage Fdn) : Analysis of CPS 2001 Children in Poverty In Poverty Out of Poverty

44. DRAFT ONLY Impact of Divorce on Income of Families 10,000 Before DivorceAfter Divorce 20,000 30,000 40,000 $50,000 1993 Average Annual Income Source: Corcoran and Chaudray, Unpublished Research Paper, Survey Research Center, University of Michigan, May 1994 Family Status

51. DRAFT ONLY INCOME -ECONOMY $$$

52. DRAFT ONLY INCOME -FAMILY ECONOMY $$$

53. DRAFT ONLY GOVERNMENT

54. DRAFT ONLY Government Fundamental Institution: GovernmentGovernment Need: Protection & Safety Capacity: Force & Law Task: Common Good Virtue: Justice & Goodwill

55. DRAFT ONLY Source: C. Harper and S. McLanahan, “Father Absence and Youth Incarceration,” ASA Annual Meeting, San Francisco, August 1998. Data from the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth. Family Structure: Comparative Rates Of Youth Incarceration 1 2.07 2.71 3.7 0 0.5 1 1.5 2 2.5 3 3.5 4 Raised in Intact Married Parent Family Raised in Mother-Only FamilyRaised in a Mother and Stepfather Family Raised in a Stepmother Family Comparative Rates of Incarceration

56. DRAFT ONLY Adolescent Cocaine Use By Family Structure Source Add Health Wave II 1996

57. DRAFT ONLY Runaway Children in UK 0% Step-Families One-Parent Families Two-parent Families Percentage of children running away overnight before the age of 16 10%5%15%20%25%

58. DRAFT ONLY In Britain, a Child Whose Biological Mother Cohabits was 33 Times More Likely to Suffer Serious Abuse than a Child with Married Parents 5 Biological Parents Married Mother Married to Stepfather Biological Mother Alone Biological Parents Cohabiting Source: Robert Whelan, Broken Homes and Broken Children, 1994. Family Structure Biological Father Alone Biological Mother Cohabiting 10 15 20 25 30 35 Comparative Risk Ratios for Serious Abuse, 1982-1988

59. DRAFT ONLY In Britain, a Child Whose Biological Mother Cohabits was 73 Times More Likely to Suffer Fatal Abuse than a Child with Married Parents 5 Biological Parents Married Mother Married to Stepfather Biological Mother Alone Biological Parents Cohabiting Source: Robert Whelan, Broken Homes and Broken Children, 1994. Family Structure Biological Father Alone Biological Mother Cohabiting 10 15 20 25 30 35 Comparative Risk Ratios for Serious Abuse, 1982-1988

60. DRAFT ONLY U.S: Partner / Spouse Violence Against Mothers Over 20 With Children under 12 Source DOJ Nat Crime Victimization Survey 1999 4 6 15 33 0 5 10 15 20 25 30 35 MarriedWidowedMarried+Div+Sep Combined Never Married Rate Per 1,000

61. DRAFT ONLY Society’s Foundational Relationship

62. DRAFT ONLY Good Law and Order

63. DRAFT ONLY Diminished Law and Order

64. DRAFT ONLY Religious Practice

65. DRAFT ONLY Number of Sexual Partners / Church Attendance (Girls, Grade 7-12) (Source: Ad Health Wave 1) Weekly Wkly>Mo Mo>Yr Never

66. DRAFT ONLY 2.9 2.8 2.7 2.6 2.45 2.50 2.55 2.60 2.65 2.70 2.75 2.80 2.85 2.90 Average GPA Enligsh/Math Combined WEEKLY+MONTHLY+<MONTHLYNEVER GPA (English & Math) by Religious Practice Source: Adolescent Health Survey, Wave I. Adolescents grade 7-12.

67. DRAFT ONLY

69. Religious Practice And Family Combined

70. DRAFT ONLY GPA

71. DRAFT ONLY

73. Ideal Impact of Full Worship

74. DRAFT ONLY Impact of Lessened Worship

75. DRAFT ONLY Society’s Foundational Relationship

76. DRAFT ONLY Ideal Impact of Full Worship

77. DRAFT ONLY Impact of Lessened Worship

78. DRAFT ONLY FAMILY

79. DRAFT ONLY Fundamental Institution: FamilyFamily Need: The Future Capacity: Sex & Affection Task: Procreation Strength: Chastity & Kindness Family

80. DRAFT ONLY Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in an Intact Marriage Source NSFG 1995

81. DRAFT ONLY Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in an Intact Marriage Source NSFG 1995

82. DRAFT ONLY The More Sexual Partners the More Likely to Abort Source NSFG 1995 8 12 18 19 25 31 34 39 43 52 0 10 20 30 40 50 60 0123456-1011-1516-2021+ NUMBER OF NON MARITAL SEXUAL PARTNERS IN LIFETIME Percent who have abortions later

83. DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners and Out-of-Wedlock Births Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 1.71% 16.29% 32.89% 40.02% 44.02% 42.66% 49.45% 49.99% 47.55% 55.21% 49.89% 0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% Virgin at Time of First Marriage Had Pre- Marital Sex with First Husband 123456-10.11-15.16-2021+ Number of Lifetime Voluntary Non-Marital Sexual Partners Percent of Sexually Active Women Aged 15-44 with Children

84. DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners And Single Motherhood Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 7.09% 30.21% 36.48% 38.81% 44.16% 53.07% 48.13% 47.03% 50.30% 56.98% 0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% 0123456-10.11-15.16-2021+ Number of Lifetime Non-Marital Sexual Partners Percent of Sexually Active women Aged 15-44 with Children

85. DRAFT ONLY Acts 24, 24 And after some days, Felix, coming with Drusilla his wife, who was a Jew, sent for Paul, and heard of him the faith, that is in Christ Jesus. 25 And as he treated of justice, and chastity, and of the judgment to come, Felix being terrified, answered: For this time, go thy way: but when I have a convenient time, I will send for thee.

86. DRAFT ONLY Virginity By Family Structure Source Add Health, 1996

87. DRAFT ONLY Father Rated Warm and Loving Source: National Longitudinal Survey of Adolescent Health Wave 2, 1996

88. DRAFT ONLY Female Homosexuality

89. DRAFT ONLY Society’s Foundational Relationship

90. DRAFT ONLY Ideal Of Family

91. DRAFT ONLY Reality Of Family

92. DRAFT ONLY SEXUALITY

93. DRAFT ONLY Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in an Intact Marriage Source NSFG 1995

94. DRAFT ONLY Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in an Intact Marriage Source NSFG 1995

95. DRAFT ONLY The More Sexual Partners the More Likely to Abort Source NSFG 1995 8 12 18 19 25 31 34 39 43 52 0 10 20 30 40 50 60 0123456-1011-1516-2021+ NUMBER OF NON MARITAL SEXUAL PARTNERS IN LIFETIME Percent who have abortions later

96. DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners and Out-of-Wedlock Births Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 1.71% 16.29% 32.89% 40.02% 44.02% 42.66% 49.45% 49.99% 47.55% 55.21% 49.89% 0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% Virgin at Time of First Marriage Had Pre- Marital Sex with First Husband 123456-10.11-15.16-2021+ Number of Lifetime Voluntary Non-Marital Sexual Partners Percent of Sexually Active Women Aged 15-44 with Children

97. DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners And Single Motherhood Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 7.09% 30.21% 36.48% 38.81% 44.16% 53.07% 48.13% 47.03% 50.30% 56.98% 0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% 0123456-10.11-15.16-2021+ Number of Lifetime Non-Marital Sexual Partners Percent of Sexually Active women Aged 15-44 with Children

98. DRAFT ONLY Virginity By Family Structure Source Add Health, 1996

99. DRAFT ONLY Father Rated Warm and Loving Source: National Longitudinal Survey of Adolescent Health Wave 2, 1996

100. DRAFT ONLY U.S: Partner / Spouse Violence Against Mothers Over 20 With Children under 12 Source DOJ Nat Crime Victimization Survey 1999 4 6 15 33 0 5 10 15 20 25 30 35 MarriedWidowedMarried+Div+Sep Combined Never Married Rate Per 1,000

101. DRAFT ONLY Girls: Number of Sex Partners / Church Attendance Source: Adolescent Health Survey, Wave I. Adolescents grade 7-12.

102. DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners and Out-of-Wedlock Births Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 1.71% 16.29% 32.89% 40.02% 44.02% 42.66% 49.45% 49.99% 47.55% 55.21% 49.89% 0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% Virgin at Time of First Marriage Had Pre- Marital Sex with First Husband 123456-10.11-15.16-2021+ Number of Lifetime Voluntary Non-Marital Sexual Partners Percent of Sexually Active Women Aged 15-44 with Children

103. DRAFT ONLY Homosexuality

104. DRAFT ONLY Female Homosexuality

105. DRAFT ONLY COMBINED

106. DRAFT ONLY GPA

107. DRAFT ONLY Self Control: Times Drunk

108. DRAFT ONLY

109. <MONTHLY/NEVER WEEKLY/MONTHLY+ INTACT/COHABIT(NATURAL) ANY REJECTION 13.1% 8.5% 8.1% 5.2% 0.0% 2.0% 4.0% 6.0% 8.0% 10.0% 12.0% 14.0% Percent Who Had Ever Run Away Running Away By Family Structure and Religious Practice Source: Adolescent Health Survey, Wave I. Adolescents grade 7-12.

110. DRAFT ONLY

112. Number of Sex Partners for Girls <MONTHLY/NEVER WEEKLY/MONTHLY+ INTACT/COHABIT(NATURAL) ANY REJECTION 1.55 0.93 1.14 0.47 0.00 0.20 0.40 0.60 0.80 1.00 1.20 1.40 1.60

113. DRAFT ONLY Church Family Church & Family Considered Together

114. DRAFT ONLY FUNDAMENTALS

115. DRAFT ONLY

116. Society’s Foundational Relationship

117. DRAFT ONLY The Non-Thriving Marriage / Child Relationship

118. DRAFT ONLY Belonging: Male + Female FAMILY Child / Adult Father Mother SOCIETY AT LARGE

119. DRAFT ONLY The Thriving Parent Marriage / Child Relationship

120. DRAFT ONLY The Non-Thriving Marriage / Child Relationship

121. DRAFT ONLY The Foundational Relationship For Society

122. DRAFT ONLY Friendships

123. Partnerships

124. Society = Relationships

125. DRAFT ONLY 5 Institutions: 5 Tasks Family:Next Generation Religion:Moral Universals, Worship School:Learning Government:Protection, Benevolence Marketplace:Income, Property

126. DRAFT ONLY Within all the 5 Institutions: The single most important virtue now?

127. DRAFT ONLY Teaches Instrumentally Teaches Relationally Church & State As Teachers

128. DRAFT ONLY Protects Good And Punishes Evil Inspires To Do Good And Repent of Evil Different Modes of Teaching

129. DRAFT ONLY Force Love Animus Regarding Freedom

130. DRAFT ONLY TWO TEACHERS for the NATION CHURCHSTATE WAYS OF RULING By Free AssentBy Force WHAT IS TAUGHT Universal Morality Government Morality (Law) WAYS OF TEACHING Inspires (Relationally)Forces (Instrumentally) RELATIONSHIP TO GOOD AND EVIL Inspires to do good and repent of evil. Protects good. Punishes evil.

131. DRAFT ONLY Society’s Foundational Relationships

132. DRAFT ONLY 5 Institutions, 5Tasks: Virtues Needed Family:Chastity, Kindness Religion:Piety, Reflection School: Pursuit of Understanding, Hard Work Government:Justice, Mercy Marketplace:Honesty, Hard Work

133. DRAFT ONLY Within all the 5 Institutions: The single most important virtue?

134. DRAFT ONLY Within all the 5 Institutions: The single most important virtue?

135. DRAFT ONLY Society’s Foundational Relationship

136. DRAFT ONLY www.marri.us

137. DRAFT ONLY www.MARRI.us/ Publications/ Powerpoint

138. DRAFT ONLY