1. Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships May 2015

2. Kay L. Kotan Wife to Bob, 23 years Mother to Cameron, 20 years old Credentialed Coach, PCC Healthy Church Initiative (HCI) Consultant Author Faculty for Coaching4Clergy Path One Coach Kay@KayKotan.com May 2015 Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships

3. Evangelism vs Missional Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships May 2015

4. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships May 2015

5. 1.Inwardly focused churches practice evangelism as reconnecting the disconnected. 2.Outwardly focused churches practice evangelism as connecting the unconnected to Jesus first and then the church. 3.Pool of churched shrinking and pool of unconnected growing exponentially 4.Membership versus discipleship Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships May 2015

6. Building authentic relationships with people we don’t know. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships The harvest is bigger than you can imagine, but there are few workers. Luke 10:2 May 2015

7.  Gradual process over a period of time  Four steps for equipping 1.Faith sharing in service 2.Faith sharing in groups 3.Faith sharing in worship 4.Faith sharing with the unconnected Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships May 2015

8. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Good Deed + Good Word = Good News Relational Evangelism through service Clear invitation to connect with God and our church We must meet people where they are, not where we are. May 2015

9. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships How have you experienced God recently in your life? We must find our own story. Practice your story in safe places. Just playing church is no longer acceptable. May 2015

10. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Faith sharing starts with leaders. Offer consistent faith sharing stories during worship. Use digital recording to capture. Faith sharing in worship is rooted in our Wesleyan roots. May 2015

11. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Learn other faith-sharing through three earlier steps first to prepare for personal invitation to worship. Relationship comes before invitation. Special Sundays give people a reason to invite. An invitation has three characteristics: Personal Specific Relational May 2015

12. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Have each team member share their take-away from Session One. Based on the collective take-aways, what is one step your church could take in encouraging and equipping your congregation to share their faith story?

13. Relationship Trinity = God + Others + Availability Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships May 2015

14. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Strategic Ministry Planning Mission Vision Goals, Objectives, Core Values Equipping“Your church is only going to grow as fast as you raise up good leaders.” ModelingMissional focus Preaching“Got to preach it ‘til you see it.” May 2015

15. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships  Friendship Sundays  F.R.A.N. Plan  Major Sundays  5-10-10 Rule  Church-Wide Hospitality Training  Skits/Drama  Move Fellowship to the Front Door  Hospitality Desk or Kiosk  Go Digital  Three Touches “ May 2015

16. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Hospitality Checklist: Exterior signage and accessibility First impression of human hospitality How to get their names Think guest, not visitor Connector Welcome center Lobby Nursery Pre-worship atmosphere Meet & greet Announcements Worship participation After worship experience Hire mystery worshipers Improve your social media presence Critical mass May 2015

17. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Don’t leave the connection process to chance!” From Outsider to Guest Prayer Bridge Events Follow Up From Guest to Connected From Connected to Disciple From Disciple to Ambassador or Missionary May 2015

18. The church has become in alien in our own world. We are all missionaries. Engage the radar! Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships May 2015

19. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Have each team member share their take-away from Session Two. Based on the collective take-aways, what is one step your church could take in creating an outwardly focused culture?

20. Have an intentional plan Set a Daily Goal Build trust Mutual Respect The Conversation Become a Model Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Engage the radar Engage the radar! May 2015

21. How much time are you spending with the unconnected? Concentrate on the important rather than the urgent. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships May 2015

22. 1.Normal affinities 2.Member-Guest events 3.Outside Comfort Zone 4.Create Margins Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships 5.Routine Introductions 6.Create Hang-out Places 7.Offer Blessings 8.Organization Connections May 2015

23. Listen to Their Story Watch for Signals Bridge-Building Phrases Know Your Elevator Story Why God? Why Church? Why my Church? Know Your Faith Story Find Need & Connect Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships May 2015

24. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Reaching new people we don’t know for the sake of Jesus is inherently a biblical idea. God wants to reach people and do a new thing. Are you willing to be in the new movement, to be a new people, to do a new thing? If so...  Get their name  Start a conversation  Build an authentic relationship that leads to the possibility for a faith conversation  Bring them back to the gathered faith community May 2015

25. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships Have each team member share their take-away from Session Three. Based on the collective take-aways, what is one step your church could take in encouraging and equipping your congregation in becoming a 21 st Century Missionary?

26. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships READ STUDYIMPLEMENT May 2015