1. Emotional and Social Development from Four to Six

2.  Self-centered and impatient and boastful  Can be unusually loving and affectionate too.  They demand and need approval from their parents.  They like to make people laugh at their jokes.

3.  They are practical, sympathetic and serious  Imporved attention span, so they finish activities.  Increasingly realistic.  Ask meaningful questions ◦ EX: Where do babies come from?  Conform to rules and procedures more easily

4.  Stubborn and quarrelsome  Think they know everything  They have rapidly changing moods.  They love, hate, accept and reject, smile and storm-sometimes say “no” for no reason.  Start to go to school all day.  Want to find their status outside of the home.

5.  As they find success at new skills and face unfamiliar situations their confidence improves.  They are initiative: motivation to accomplish more.

6.  This changes during childhood more than any other emotion.  4 year olds- physical fighting  5 year olds- hurt others feelings  6 year olds- Tease, insult, nag and start to make fun of others.  Decreases with age, but is an effect that lasts long term

7.  Imaginary dangers ◦ Kidnappers, vampires, ghosts etc  Fear of school ◦ Bullied, teacher, acceptance of others  Helping them: ◦ Accept the fear ◦ Let the child express the fear without ridicule ◦ Help the child feel able to face the fear.

8.  Sibling rivalry  Sometimes takes the form of tattling, lieing, criticizing others.  May also be seen through nail biting, bed- wetting and tantrums. ◦ For Ex: new baby in the house.

9.  Worry from everything from fires, illnesses, death, loosing a parent when out in public, etc.  1 in 3 children suffer from stress.  Can cause stomach aches, headaches, moodiness, irritability and trouble eating and sleeping.  Could be from school, different groups the child is involved in,etc.

10.  It can be a positive thing: ◦ Stimulates, promotes higher standards, interest in completing a task, realistic view of ability, encourages speed in accomplishment, helps them excel and prepare for the adult world.  Can harm: ◦ Success can only happen if you outdo others. ◦ Can lead to hostile relationships ◦ Lack of effort if they are not the best ◦ Points out children's inadequacies ◦ Lowers the status and self-esteem of them if they loose.

11.  Can help children learn to play together fairly and to share and realize that it is a “team” effort.  Teach not to compare to others, but what they are strong at.  Help them improve

12.  More time in cooperative play  Play in groups of 3 or 4  Fighting is common  Family is still the most important  Asks for approval ◦ Ex: look how high I climbed

13.  Play best in groups  Play becomes more complicated  More respect for others and their belongings  Start to gossip

14.  Characterized by friction, aggression, threats, and stubbornness.  They want everything  Best friends usually of the same sex  Friendships are closer and longer lasting than at 5 years old.

15.  They want to feel like an important part of the family.  Want to help out  At 6, they do start to argue with adults and are more impatient and start to want to do only what they want.

16.  They start to act on their own beliefs of right and wrong.  Parents responsibility to help them with this.  At 5 they begin to develop a conscience.  Lying ◦ They more exaggerate details ◦ Sometimes imaginative ◦ Help them see the difference and learn accuracy  Guidelines ◦ Consider Childs age and abilities ◦ Set a good example ◦ Learning self-discipline is a life long task ◦ Talk about mistakes in private, do not embarrass them cause that can hurt your relationship with them ◦ Continue to show love.

17.  They may pick up speech and words of others.  Want to have clothes and toys like others.  Need to teach them that every family has its own rules.  Technology can impact their values.  Good parents would stick to rating guides so that their child is not seeing things that is beyond their age and to you may not seem damaging but can be now or in the future.

18.  Do chapter 15 activity and the Richard story  Review Questions on page 480: 1-9