1. Refusal Skills What is Realistic?

2. Influencing Factors in Refusal Skills 1.How original is it? 2.How often is it used? 3.How effective is it when the couple is in an intimate relationship? Not tonight, I have a headache… Gawd, again?!?

3. USING REFUSALS: Which of these refusals are realistic? Which would work best for you? SAY “NO” FIRMLY REPEAT THE REFUSAL OVER & OVER

4. USING REFUSALS: Which of these refusals are realistic? Which would work best for you? GIVE A BELIEVABLE EXCUSE GIVE A REASON

5. USING REFUSALS: Which of these refusals are realistic? Which would work best for you? CHANGE THE SUBJECT SUGGEST AN ALTERNATIVE ACTIVITY I really like this, but I think we should go to the basketball game so we don’t go too far. Sigh… He’s probably right. Hey! Before you forget again, go ask your parents if you can go to the movies this week-end.

6. USING REFUSALS: Which of these refusals are realistic? Which would work best for you?  IGNORE THE PROBLEM/ACT DUMB  REVERSE THE PRESSURE Hey, you’re cute! Come over here! What’s your name?? Senior girl who is stumbling drunk & annoying… Dude, don’t look over there, she’s talking to me. Let’s go before she comes over here. Why do you keep asking me to do sexual stuff with you when you know I’m not ready for it? Can’t you respect what I want?

7. USING REFUSALS: Which of these refusals are realistic? Which would work best for you?  DELAY YOUR DECISION  TELL YOUR PARTNER WHEN YOU HAVE MADE YOUR DECISION I’ve thought about it and I’ve decided that I’m not ready to have sex yet. I’m not comfortable making a decision yet. Can we talk about this later?

8. Effective Characteristics of Refusal Skills… 1.Build or continue the friendship/ relationship. You may end the relationship, just do it respectfully. 2.Do not embarrass the other person or yourself. 3.Need to be reasons, not excuses or “whatever” lines.

9. REMEMBER GIRLS & BOYS… HAVE YOUR REFUSAL SKILLS IN PLACE! It’s cheesy, I know… But you need to know what you’re going to say before your in a persuasive situation!!!